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Lost, accused and confused.
Relationship Stress / by pioneeringOrange8006
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 December 2nd, 2025
...See more My girlfriend has been traumatized in her previous relationships because of cheating. She have been cheated in her past 3 relationships. I am always being accused that I am attracted and interested to other women when they are just caught in my visual perspective. But the truth is that I am never attracted and that my heart have never been swayed or shaken. I am an observant type of person, my awareness in my surroundings is high. She always suspects me that I am already attracted and cheating in that kind of action. I have tried explaining it to her and assuring her that I am not attracted and I am interested. But anything I said doesnt go through her because of her trauma in her past relationship. I just remained calm and be patient with her always. I have no intention in hurting her and I have no intention on cheating on her and ruining what we have built. Even in my work, my boss asked me to fixed the document routing app in the other office. Someone told her that I am flirting and attracted to my co worker who has 3 children. Her suspicions about be being attracted to my co worker grew. Even though I am not attracted and interested. We had a fight, arguments and we fixed it. I assured her that I am not attracted to co worker. These were a few months ago. Yesterday, we had a fight and argument because eveytime I drive her home. We usually pass the house of my client which is nearly beside the road. I usually greet my client when I pass their house just for courtesy. My client has a daughter and sometimes her daughter is in front of their gate. My girlfriend thinks that I am attracted to their daughter just because I look at their house to see if my client is around so that I could greet him. Since she thinks that I am attracted to their, I assured her that I am not attracted and I am not interest. But it doesnt go through her. I told her that they are just my client and nothing more. I know thay she is upset and I am trying to make things right. By the time that I drive her home, I made a turn on the road so that we do not pass my clients house just to make things right and not make it worst. But that kind of action made it worst. She thinks that avoiding it makes me guilty. When all I want is to make things right. Im so confused on what to do because everything I do is wrong. I didnt think that avoiding would make it worst. I do not which is right and wrong. I know that open communication is the key. But how can I communicate when her suspicions about me being attracted to other is much greater that assuring her that I am not attracted and interested. It feels like a wall has been built that no matter what I say, how I explain and assure her it doesnt go through. I have commited myself into her, I devoted my life to her. I accepted all her flaws and loved her even in the worst situations. I dont know what is wrong. Am I the problem? Is being high alert, aware and obsevant wrong? Why does she always thinks that I am always attracted? Why am I always being accused?
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