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Being ignored by S/O on relationship break
Relationship Stress / by plumZebra2908
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 June 23rd, 2018
...See more Hi guys, just wanted to see what other people think of this matter! So at the moment, i'm on a break with my boyfriend of nearly 3 and a half years (he was the one who decided to do this break, so this wasn't a unanimous decision). We set a rough initial break period of 2 weeks, and the 2 weeks runs out tomorrow. We said that it would be ok to contact each other, however I have been finding it super hard to no try and reach out at all the time. I haven't been talking to him everyday or tried to be clingy because I am respecting his need for space. But the last time we spoke (and it was very brief!) was last Wednedsay, and he has not said a word since. I sent him a message on Sunday that had no malice - but he read it ONE MINUTE after I sent it, ignored it and hasn't replied since!! It wasn't a message that I necessarily wanted a reply from, but it's the fact that it was seen and ignored that hurts. I feel like I shouldn't be the one reaching out since he is the one who made the decison to go on this break. A lot of his reasoning was to do with him needing space (we'd been spending a lot of time around each other and were both dealing with stressful exam situations) and not being sure on his feelings towards me anymore. To make matters worse, I also have moderate anxiety, so my brain has been enjoying conjuring up thoughts as to why he has been ignoring me. I've seen a lot of things online saying that if your boyfriend is ignoring you, it's probably because he is seeing someone else, but being the person who has known and loved him for nearly 4 years, he is not the kind of person that i'd ever imagine to do that at all. But my brain is still making me think it is a possibility. Basically, I would like some opinions! I don't necessarily want answers as to how to solve the issue, because that is something we both need to discuss when we eventually see each other. But some voices of reasoning to calm my mind would be helpful :)
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