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politeBalsam9179
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When to let go?
Relationship Stress / by politeBalsam9179
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 June 10th, 2021
...See more I'm really struggling these days to know if I'm in this relationship because it's easy or because it's way I want. We've been talking about marriage fr a while now as it seems like the thing to do after 5 years together but now I'm having second thoughts. He works a ton in the spring in agriculture so I can't be too upset but I literally don't see him at all, leaves at 5am back at midnight thing. Didn't acknowledge valentines day which of course upset me an I've thrown it in his face multiple times that I'm still hurt about it. Got him the adventure book as he says the reason we don't have dates is because he at think of anything. Thought this book would solve the issue. Hasn't even opened it since March... Saturday was my birthday. He didn't wish me a happy birthday, do anything to make me feel special or wanted which has really hurt me. We haven't had sex in months even though he knows it's important to me... I just feel like I should move on as someone might treat me better but we have so many ties including a mortgage holding me back from doing that.
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Extensive sexual distances
Relationship Stress / by politeBalsam9179
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 October 24th, 2021
...See more My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years, we live together for the past 3 but over this time his sexual desire has been declining significantly. The past year especially has been hard. I'm not sure what to do, he doesn't want to go to couples therapy but I think it would help. In the past 6 months we have only had sex 4 times and honestly it's not satisfactory. I love him and want a life with him but I also have needs. Would it make me the worst person to suggest and open relationship for sexual desire if he doesn't want to fix it?
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Seeking relationship advice
Relationship Stress / by politeBalsam9179
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 May 11th, 2021
...See more My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years now. We are 25/26. We have owned our home together for 3 years now and have a growing furry family of 2 dogs/3 cats. We have all the responsibility of a joint bank account, mortgage ect. However he still says that he's not ready to marry me. It's breaking my heart because it's something I want more than anything. I feel like there is a huge gap growing between us. We rarely have a sex life anymore. I keep blaming myself that something I've done is pushing him away. I don't know what to do, what is he falls completely out of love with me?
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