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politeRaspberries995
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Do I stay back or go with my mum?
Relationship Stress / by politeRaspberries995
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 July 27th
...See more Hi there, I'm a junior Dr and a SAHM to a beautiful 10 month old baby girl, my husband is also a Dr, due to all the expenses and costs of living, he has been working hard, savings are declining and currently he works 2-3 jobs to try to earn back the savings. I conceived right after the wedding, since the very beginning, I realized I married into a dysfunctional family, his older brother's wife had a huge argument with me in the second week of my marriage, the trauma still remains with me to this day.. I suffered a lot during that initial period, it's been 1.5 yr to our marriage. My husband blames me for a lot of that too, though he doesn't bring it up as much now as he used to. He has always wanted me to work and help with the finances, but I refuse so that I can focus on taking care of the baby, but overtime he has become passive aggressive, cold and gives me silent treatment or out right ignores me to punish me. Yesterday I confronted him and he said he really hated me, that I'm difficult and misbehave with my in-laws (an incident with his sister)--again something he hold against me. He said he hates me and that I have no plans to build a better future. My dillema is I am struggling to care for my baby alone, as there's no family in this city and I have no maid/sitter available and he is out for work the entire day, infact I feel he enjoys being out of the house and away from me and the baby. I finally resorted to call my mum for help, she has come over but will be leaving this weekend. My parents have asked me to come home for a month or so.. but I am confused as this is not the solution to my problems and I can't keep running home every time there is an issue.. I don't know what to do..? I am also trying get remote online work.. I can't travel alone with the baby as it's very difficult and staying back is going to be a tough decision too as I will have to face his cold behavior. Should I just go with my mum? Or try to make it work somehow?
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