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Starting a relationship - Need advice - Short read
Relationship Stress / by proactiveBalloon1888
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 December 11th, 2021
...See more First of all, thank you for taking the time. I am a man looking to connect with a woman and/or women. There are four females living nextdoor to me. I wouldn't mind making friends with them all and hanging out, but am interested in getting to know one of them on a personal level. I feel a little insecure about the whole situation because I could be as much as 10 years older than them. But then again, we are all adults here. We've been neighbors now for about a year and i've had little to no interaction with them as of yet except eye contact and maybe a smile. The way our houses are situated, we never run into each other and there isn't a lot of opportunity unless I really go out of my way. That, and I tend to keep to myself, especially now with the whole covid situation. I know, a really bad start but with a little advice, I am confident I can flip this on it's head. With the holidays and the new year coming up, it's a perfect time to make some neighborly changes. I need advice and some more perspective on how I can approach this situation with the best intent, genuineness and sincerity. For those who might say, don't do it, it could ruin the neighbor dynamic etc. Don't waste your time. I am not interested because I feel I will be moving on soon and like I said, I really have to go out of my way to even see them. Also, I want to put myself out there and eliminate wondering what if? So my plan was to knock on their door, gift them a bottle of wine and introduce myself, wish them happy holidays. It doesn't matter if they're not all present but if the girl i'm interested in isn't there, how can i express my interest to the others? How can I express my interest to her? It appears that a couple of the women have significant others but she may be single. Friendship first anyways. How can I word the interaction and extend the olive branch or leave my door open so to speak. I don't know how to get a phone number or offer mine. I feel the phone number is too agressive, but at the same time, again, I would like to put myself out there but not scare them off. I'm not on social media either and I understand this makes networking a bit more difficult. I'm sure you've figured out by now that I am shy, I have no game and am a little awkward which is why I come to you, friends. I know I tend to over think things and I am sorry for that. I am a man with great qualities and a lot to offer. I just need help here. Please, and thank you in advance.
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