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User Profile: proactiveBalloon1888
proactiveBalloon1888 December 11th, 2021

First of all, thank you for taking the time.

I am a man looking to connect with a woman and/or women.

There are four females living nextdoor to me.

I wouldn't mind making friends with them all and hanging out, but am interested in getting to know one of them on a personal level.

I feel a little insecure about the whole situation because I could be as much as 10 years older than them. But then again, we are all adults here.

We've been neighbors now for about a year and i've had little to no interaction with them as of yet except eye contact and maybe a smile. The way our houses are situated, we never run into each other and there isn't a lot of opportunity unless I really go out of my way. That, and I tend to keep to myself, especially now with the whole covid situation.

I know, a really bad start but with a little advice, I am confident I can flip this on it's head.

With the holidays and the new year coming up, it's a perfect time to make some neighborly changes.

I need advice and some more perspective on how I can approach this situation with the best intent, genuineness and sincerity.

For those who might say, don't do it, it could ruin the neighbor dynamic etc. Don't waste your time. I am not interested because I feel I will be moving on soon and like I said, I really have to go out of my way to even see them. Also, I want to put myself out there and eliminate wondering what if?

So my plan was to knock on their door, gift them a bottle of wine and introduce myself, wish them happy holidays.

It doesn't matter if they're not all present but if the girl i'm interested in isn't there, how can i express my interest to the others? How can I express my interest to her?

It appears that a couple of the women have significant others but she may be single. Friendship first anyways.

How can I word the interaction and extend the olive branch or leave my door open so to speak. I don't know how to get a phone number or offer mine. I feel the phone number is too agressive, but at the same time, again, I would like to put myself out there but not scare them off.

I'm not on social media either and I understand this makes networking a bit more difficult.

I'm sure you've figured out by now that I am shy, I have no game and am a little awkward which is why I come to you, friends.

I know I tend to over think things and I am sorry for that.

I am a man with great qualities and a lot to offer. I just need help here. Please, and thank you in advance.

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User Profile: Daydreamer47
Daydreamer47 December 11th, 2021

@proactiveBalloon1888 I think the idea to offer a bottle of wine or maybe invite them to a games night or small holiday party could be really nice. It never hurts to get to know your neighbors and try to make new friends. Spend some time getting to know them and see if you get along first. Be prepared that she might not be single or might not be interested, but you will still get to make some new friends and connections. Best of luck. :)

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User Profile: proactiveBalloon1888
proactiveBalloon1888 OP December 11th, 2021

@Daydreamer47

Thank you

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