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purplemango62
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How to handle a subtweet?
Depression Support / by purplemango62
Last post
 March 30th, 2023
...See more for those who don't know here is the definition of a subtweet: (on the social media) a post that refers to a particular user without directly mentioning them, typically as a form of furtive mockery or criticism. So admittedly I've done something I am not proud of. It was a low moment in my life. During this moment, I made this person (let's say X) upset. I was not friends with X, but we do have some mutual friends. I recently discovered that she has been "subtweeting" about me. just saying things about me without mentioning me by name. I don't know how to feel about this... on one hand I believe I deserve it since it's all true. On the other hand, we are both upcoming professionals (graduate students) and I felt that it was inappropriate behavior. If someone could tell me how I should handle this situation I would greatly appreciate it! I'm leaning towards just ignoring it and my bad feelings will go away eventually?
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partner hanging out with someone you dont like
Relationship Stress / by purplemango62
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 April 4th, 2023
...See more My partner has a close friend that I do not like. She used to be my friend too but I did not like how she was treating me so I stopped being friends with her. I felt that she would not respect my time by arriving significantly late, changing plans last minute, and ignoring me when I explicitly carved out time to support her. I felt that my partner was putting her feelings above mine. When she was upset my partner would try to appease her even if it meant upsetting me. When he chose her over me I felt extremely upset. Admittedly, I was jealous. The more they hung out the angrier I got and the more I disliked her. Recently she had enough. She told my partner that she didn't want to be friends with my partner anymore. This was after I asked him to take a social media post down regarding a project they were working on together. I know I am the *** here since I know it's just a post and I didn't need to be so upset over it (the jealousy definitely took over here). I guess my question here would be how to handle jealousy... What should I do when I am so jealous and upset and that green monster wants to take over. Also side question, how do I get rid of the codependency that I have with my partner. I know it is really starting to get unhealthy and likely a facilitator of my jealousy.
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feeling numb - a confession
Relationship Stress / by purplemango62
Last post
 February 6th, 2023
...See more After my partner made me realize that i am controlling him and I'm emotionally hurting him I vowed to make myself a better person. not through words but actions. but now i kinda feel so numb, embarrassed, and undeserving. He has given me a second chance and i am so grateful for that. but now i just feel different. i dont bring him up anymore. i shy away from conversation about him. when I'm with him I'm fine but when its just me and my thoughts i keep thinking i dont deserve him. I think I'm embarrassed of what I've done and so ashamed. i dont want to talk about him because i dont think i deserve to. I started having unhealthy thoughts again. that hasn't happened since i was 14. I want to bring it up to someone because i just need to let it go but I'm just so embarrassed and ashamed that the problem was me. I don't think i deserve to feel this way. I'm not the hurt one. he is. so why do i feel like this. I'm not allowed to feel like this. i just wish i could tell someone. and i guess in a sense, I am. here. so thank you for listening.
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I'm a controlling, obsessive, and jealous person
Relationship Stress / by purplemango62
Last post
 February 3rd, 2023
...See more Hi. The title of this thread is something that I need to admit. My partner admitted to me that he was terrified of me and safekeeping his emotions with me. I grew up in a traditional asian household. We didn't talk about emotions or feelings or anything like that. My parents have terrible relationships with their in-laws and as the oldest, i have become a sort of therapist for my mother when she has issues with my dad and them. She admitted to me that my dad cheated on her and convinced me to enforce rules upon my own partner to ensure nothing happens. So because of that I drove him away from his friends and he has been so lonely without me even knowing it. My partner is very in tune with his emotions and a very sensitive person. I am a very logic-based person, and have trouble opening up emotionally and considering others' emotions. He would come to me with things that hurt him or made him feel bad and I would brush it off and not want to talk about it. I know i do not deserve the chance he has given me, so i am going to make the most of it. My promise to him to fix things will not be empty. I am hear to back my words up and become a better person for him, myself, and the future people I interact with. I want to break my generational trauma and become someone who he is proud and happy to have by his side. Thank you for reading this. and I'm sorry to anyone who has been hurt by someone like me. I saw first hand what I can do to someone and i never want someone to feel that way by my hands again. Please I would love some advice, criticism, or anything that could help me on this journey of betterment.
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