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Number of ratings4 Number of reviews3 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish, Chinese Listener sinceFeb 21, 2019 Last activeover 6 months ago GenderFemale PathStep 22 People helped28 Chats71 Group support chats0 Listener group chats0 Forum posts7 Forum upvotes4
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Hi there! I've gone through ups and downs in my life, there's so many kind people out there who'd like to help you face your problems and overcome it together, and I'm one of it too! Feel free to share your problems with me and I'll get the best solution for you, don't worry I'm always there for you!😇

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I am so confused
Relationship Stress / by purpleningg
Last post
 March 20th, 2019
...See more So it's about my ex whom I just broken up with three months ago, our public exam results are released recently and then him whom I didn't contact with and had unfriended on Facebook and Insta for the past few months suddenly popped out in my messenger and asking about my results, which totally freaked me out, I mean, why's he still trying to contact or talking to me? I'm scared to talk to him because I'm worried that my feelings and hopes will be rekindled back but in order to be polite I responded him quite coldly and only sent short messages, as a well to protect myself from falling into him again i guess. So he's been actively talking to me and then asking me about the reasons I unfriended him months ago, and I blurted out that I heard rumors regarding him having a flirtationship or being shipped with another girl which made me pretty pretty heartbroken and sad enough, that's why I unfriended him in order to move on (of course I wanna move on too after I mentioned about the breakup). And then there's him explaining everything that it's just a joke that couldn't be taken seriously and he explained that it was his manager and colleagues that did the shipping, I don't know whether the flirtationship is true or not but I'm already really sad regarding the shipping and joking stuff. So he's been actively ttalking to me and asking me toabout rresponse (because I respond in a cold way and could say I almost completely ignored him) but the third day his attitude completely changed and then he's the one that treated me cold and sent short messages. I was so confused why'd he do that? I mean how could he change so fast by being cold at the third day or why's he still talking to me despite after the breakup? If he still had feelings for me but why he recommended about the " let's just be friends right now?" Man I'm feeling so guilty when he treated me cold (even though I'm the one who treated him cold first when he starTed talking) because I felt like I gave him the feeling that I just rushed into conclusions without checking whether he really had a flirtation ship with another girl or not, but I'm also confused if he's not doing flirting why are there rumors outside? I'm kinda happy inside when he starTed talking to me but I don't wanna get back to him again because he's been very controlling since the two times we've been in a relationship. Am I normal to feel confused? Help?
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I get hurt a lot and I mentioned about the breakup, but I still miss him?
Relationship Stress / by purpleningg
Last post
 March 14th, 2019
...See more My boyfriend and I were okay until he started giving me requests that were too hard for me, for example he requested me not to tie my hair in double ponytails, braid my hair when I go out because he thinks that I will look cute in front of other guys, not to wear shorts, not to share any photos on histogram or on ig story because he doesn't like the feeling of other guys liking or commenting on my post, request me not to hang out in a group when there is a guy in it. At first I strongly reject because I think those are my rights that should be respected, but he seems very unhappy, disappointed and cold towards me, giving me less love and attention. That makes me feeling less and less secured each day, I scared that one day he won't love me anymore. So I agree to his requests, and he wants me to promise him. I promise him in order to make him feel happy, make him love me more. And yeah, he becomes more happy when I agree to do what he wants. He is happy, but how about me? I feel like an empty shell. I feel like I lost myself. I feel that I cannot be myself and lost my freedom. Recently I went to a class party with my friends at a beach, he did stop me from going to the beach at first, but I refused to. So all of us were sitting in a circle playing together, and somehow he saw me playing with my friends through my friend's ig story, he started spamming my acc by saying:" You broke your promises! Believing and trusting you is just a shit" since then I felt more pressured and stressed out, receiving his messages make my heart bleed everyday, all are those hurtful words, making me hesitating whether this relationship is valuable or not. I apologised to him by saying that friends should stick together when playing at the beach together, and I just wanted to have fun because it was our last year together, but what he wants is me alone stay in the room and not playing around. That night I called him and cried, I told him I needed to communicate and talk to him, I feel very very insecured, but he doesn't wanna pick up the phone, and said that I'm wasting his time. When he picked up the phone, he said :"you called me just to let me hear you cry? If there's nothing important Ill just hang up the phone. Gotta sleep now." I've talked to him that his requests make me feel very stress out before, but things don't work out. He always assumed that as an excuse to break my promises. The second day, I broke up with him because I really don't like the feeling of crying everyday. Please help me..I'm really feeling helpless and guilty now for breaking my promises and not giving what he wants instead
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