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...See more I feel so stupid. My boyfriend and I had been going out for 9 months. We agreed to go slow. I thought that 9 months was enough time for me to introduce him to my sister and for us to have lunch together. The week before we were set to meet, I asked him if he was going to accept my follow request on Instagram. He told me that FB and IG was for family and he didn't want them asking questions. I asked if he was hiding me from them and he goy irritated and said they knew he was seeing someone, just not who. We left dinner and he was still upset. I asked him what was on his mind and he started talking about how I was just adding this pressure to him and that I was pushing too fast. He then brought up meeting my sister and that it might not be a big deal to me but it was for him and he wasn't sure he was ready for that. I tried to explain to him that I just wanted to show people in my life who I was seeing and see how he fit in my world. He then started saying that he wasn't sure about the future. And that we were in 2 different places in life. We stopped the conversation because we kept going in circles. A few nights later we had dinner to discuss. I told him what I wanted and that I was invested in the relationship. He told me to send him a list of the things that we had talked about. I did. And the next evening he responded with a text "I don't think I should leet your sister this Sunday " I texted back "why?". He didn't respond until Sunday morning that he "doesn't think he can give me what I want." I asked him to call me and waited all day. Finally I took his silence as him not wanting anything to do with me. I sent him a text telling him that I appreciated his honesty and that I wanted this to work out but it only could if he did too. The next day we exchanged our stuff we had of each other's. We ended up talking some more and decided to give ourselves some time to think. In between we had dinner a few times. Finally I told him that I would need an answer if he wanted this relationship. We had dinner on Sunday and I brought up the question to him. He reverted back to saying that he didn't have an answer and he felt like I was pushing for one now. And I told him the only thing I wanted to know was what he was and wasn't ready for, and whether he wanted to he with me. He said he doesn't know what he's ready for. I told him that I love him and that I could fight for us if he wanted me, but that I couldn't do this back and forth. I then told him that I had to step back. And that I hoped he figured things out but thay there was no guarantee I would still be there. After I left he texted and asked if I got home okay. I was too heartbroken to respond. I responded the next day and told him that I was stepping back and that he needed to tell me he wanted me in his life and make that choice. He then called me the next day and talked with me like everything was normal. I have no idea what's happening.

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