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Help!! My marriage is falling apart :(
Relationship Stress / by reliableTurtle7107
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 June 8th, 2017
...See more Hi guys, I came to this forum to get some advice on what I can do. I've been married for 4 years and been in a relationship with the same woman 3 years before that. We have a 3 year old child as well. Recently, I discovered my that wife just wasn't interested in having sex anymore. This came on top of few weeks of getting angry at each other for even the most simple of random discussions. Upon a bit of prodding, I discovered that she has been chatting with a guy from Facebook and the chats are getting intimate. She takes her phone everywhere (even to the loo). This guy apparently is some "lifecoach" and posts the usual stuff about love, life etc. My wife followed his group and I suspect that things started lightly before getting intimate (he asks her if she plays with herself thinking about him). She also deletes the messages and recently locked up her phone so I can have no access to her phone anymore. Things aren't great between my wife and I, and I should have seen this coming (we have had similar incidents in the past, when she hooks up with a random sweet talker) but we often have a big tiff and then things get back to normal. My wife blames me that it was my own fault. I moved to my wife's country (in our best of days) and settled there. However, in the 7 years, I have had huge adjustment problems. From language to the color of my skin. After hitting a low point financially and repeated failure to find a good paying job, I started my own business and slogged my butt off. Today, we are well to do financially *touchwood* I always gave my wife whatever she wanted (even to the point of sinking a good 10k in her crazy business ventures) I guess in the process of giving a good life to my wife and family, I kind of compromised with giving her enough attention, which has led to this. After confronting my wife, she says, "What do you expect" My question is what should I do? So far things are hanging in the air and both she and I are yet to decide on which way to move forward. I feel very betrayed! For one, this issue makes the whole 7 years pointless I feel vulnerable especially when I think about my kid I feel mad at this asshole who gives a different persona online and is a douchebag in private message I'm in two minds on how to confront this asshole Even if we do reconcile, this issue (of her flirting with other guys online) is now strongly entrenched in my head any advice please?
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