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Parent's too dependant on me.....
Family & Caregivers / by rogerssmatt
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 May 11th, 2021
...See more My parents is 2016 have lived with me. Have relied on their kids more than they should because of poor choices that they made. Since 2019 it's become required because my mom is very sick and on nightly dialysis. My dad is addicted to pills and relies on them fully but it's managed through an addiction management program. But it still F#$@$ with his mind. My parents were good parents for the most part We weren't abused We weren't neglected I had a good childhood had good Christmases. I've had discussions with my father about his frivolous spending with my income and my mom's SSDI check. We don't make a lot but we're not struggling. We have luxuries like streaming services and buy groceries that are probably more expensive. The thing is is it feels like he has no consideration for me wanting to get out of debt and does the most uncontrolled spending sprees while being at the grocery or walmart.com but for stupid stuff that we don't need or grocery items when on a budget we shouldn't be buying. I know his mind is altered by pills and a lot of the stuff happens at night. But here's my thing I'm stressed I want to live my life but I feel like my parents are suffocating me. And and of course I could just throw them out but they would be homeless. I love my parents but I feel like I don't know what to do I've had arguments about how he spends My money. Look he has access to the SSDI card and only has access to my card when he runs out. I can't simply tell him oh no you can't get mom's prescription or your prescription simply because you spent your SSD card money 10 days after you got it. Also can't kick them out. Because I love them. Late night rambling and I'm not even sure if this makes sense. Can you love someone and despise them at the same time. I love them and they suffocate me and I feel like they don't even notice even though I give hints all the time. But I can't expect them to try on their own I know they wouldn't be able to make it They don't simply have enough money. How did this mutual beneficial arrangement be such a good idea in 2016 turn into a nightmare by 2021 and for the rest of their living life? Help.
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