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...See more How do you know it's time to file? Long story short - we both had affairs (mine first). She doesn't seem very remorseful. Has completely disconnected. Barely talks to me. Zero attention, affection, care, respect, etc. We have been to 6 marriage counseling sessions so far, this weeks was her solo. I don't think she is taking is very seriously, as she has done very little in terms of the home work or the instruction we have been given. She also stated that she didn't feel the solo session helped her. I looked at her phone and she had googled 'i don't think i love my husband anymore'. Yesterday in therapy she told me she was no longer attracted to me and lost all respect for me. I really want to make it work. But I can't read her or figure out the situation. She is so distant and virtually refuses to talk about it. She won't communicate about almost anything. I know she is very depressed, however it's such an impossible situation being the only one showing any effort. When is it time to pull the trigger? Very hesitant as we have a 9 year old, but I don't know how much more of this I can take. I refuse to accept blame for mine and her affair. I refuse to do all of the work. I refuse to be the door mat [https://www.amazon.com/dp/B010BO4SN4] and put in all of the effort while she sits around and does nothing. She is a stay at home mom and has done zero towards the house or any effort in normal duties. Please help!

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