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Found out my fiancé was subscribing to Onlyfans
Relationship Stress / by selfdisciplinedSail7661
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 May 30th
...See more My fiancé and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. Our relationship has been as close to perfect as a relationship could be. I have never had a reason not to trust him. When we first stared dating he voluntarily gave me the password to his phone. I never went through his phone as I have never felt the need to check up on what he was doing. About 2 months ago, I told him I needed to use his phone to look up something on the internet. He gave me the phone, no problem. When I opened Google there were a few sites saved on his home page and Onlyfans was one of them. I was completely blindsided by this because I never had any reason to believe this was something he would be doing. When I confronted him about it he tried to act like it was “just porn” and that “all men do this” and he didn’t find anything wrong with what he was doing. He swears it didn’t change the way he looked at me and that it was “just fantasy”. He had been paying for content and chatting with these girls. We have had a very healthy sex life our entire relationship so I have struggled to understand why he had been doing this. Looking into it deeper, I found that this had been going on our entire relationship. He told me he was doing this because there were things that he wanted that I was not doing for him. He was also following close to 2300 thirst traps on *** and close to 9000 on ***. I went on his phone and deactivated all of his socials and his Onlyfans but I still don’t trust him and am having a very hard time keeping myself from checking his phone when he is sleeping or when he is not around. He also gets very upset with me when I try to talk to him about it and feels like I should just get over it. This has truly devastated me and I feel like I am spiraling and I don’t know how to get past this. He seems to have been making an effort to regain my trust, I haven’t found anything new in checking his phone lately, but I still can’t stop thinking about what he has already done. Will I ever be able to move past this or is this going to destroy my relationship?
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