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Hi! Welcome to my profile and 7 Cups!

My name is Sel! I am really passionate about helping others, especially people who have mental health conditions. I've wanted to help people for as long as I can remember. 

Even though I identify as a Catholic and have she/her pronouns, I am respectful of all cultures, religions and pronouns. I love to learn about these topics as well! This is a SAFE SPACE for everyone of all pronouns, sexual orientations, religions, and ethnicities! 

Honestly, I'm doing this because I genuinely care and I want to make a difference in people's lives. This is your sign to give it time. Life is always changing.

Unfortunately, I do not feel comfortable talking about sexual health and casual chats. There are many listeners who are though!

If you sent me a personal request and I'm busy, leave me a little message if you can and I'll get back to you!

If you are in a crisis, please call these numbers Canada: 833-456-4566 USA: 1-800-273-TALK (8255) (If you are in another country and these don't work, send me a personal request and ask for the number, I will do my research and give it to you). 

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Affirmation Of The Day
General Support / by sellistens
Last post
 November 11th, 2025
...See more "I don't care how many times I have to restart. I won't settle for a life that I don't want." 🌅  My interpretation: I've had to restart my life after hitting rock bottom. There's no shame in restarting. Now, I've changed careers, found a man who treats me right and made new friends. If I settled for my past job and past relationships (friends and romantic ones), I wouldn't have been where I'm at today. I know, it's scary to be in the unknown, but if you work on yourself and your own personal growth journey, you will find what makes you happy too!  With love, SelListens 💓 What do you think of this affirmation?
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Psychosis: The Basics and Where To Find Help
Bipolar, Schizophrenia & Psychosis Support / by sellistens
Last post
 September 29th, 2025
...See more Psychosis: The Basics and Where To Find Help What Is Psychosis? Psychosis affects the mind to the point where there is a disconnect from reality. When Does it Start and Who is Most Likely to Experience It? It usually starts in someone’s late teens to early 20s but older and younger ages can experience it too. People with preexisting mental health conditions are more vulnerable to experiencing psychosis (extreme depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, etc). What Does It Feel Like To Experience Psychosis? People who experience psychosis have these signs and symptoms: Paranoia and Delusions (example: extreme worries about someone watching them when in reality no one is) Trouble with reasoning (is so convinced that it’s extremely difficult for people to help them understand reality) Cannot sleep properly Trouble talking/communicating with others Stops self care Intense Ideas (example: the devil is taking them) Extreme anxiety Emotional disruption Cannot function What Can I Do If I Or A Loved One Has Experienced Psychosis? It is extremely important to have a good health care team to support you. This includes a psychiatrist, a therapist and a family doctor. There are medications that are being prescribed now that could help prevent it from happening again or to put a stop to it. If you or a loved one has experienced psychosis, please establish a health care team and consider taking medication to stop/prevent it from happening again. Some people fear medication will make them feel numb, but there are different combinations of medications you could take that are right for your body. Everyone is different, so there is a good combination out there for you, don’t give up! What Support is Out There? USA: Early Serious Mental Illness Treatment Locator Click on this link to find local resources to help support you or a loved one. You can type in your state, and have a title to search. https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/locators/esmi Canada: There are many places listed on this link where you can seek help in Canada. Click on this link to view https://www.camh.ca/en/professionals/treating-conditions-and-disorders/psychosis/psychosis---clinical-tools-and-resources India: This link is specific to schizophrenia, but might help with psychosis as well. https://recovery.com/india/schizophrenia/ If you don’t live in these countries, I encourage you to do some research on where you can find support. Remember: You are strong You can overcome this Things WILL get better if you seek help, even if you don’t believe that to be true (Information paraphrased from https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/understanding-psychosis#:~:text=Psychosis%20refers%20to%20a%20co llection,real%20and%20what%20is%20not.) SelListens
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Psychosis: The Basics and Where To Find Help
Bipolar, Schizophrenia & Psychosis Support / by sellistens
Last post
 September 29th, 2025
...See more Psychosis: The Basics and Where To Find Help What Is Psychosis? Psychosis affects the mind to the point where there is a disconnect from reality.  When Does it Start and Who is Most Likely to Experience It? It usually starts in someone’s late teens to early 20s but older and younger ages can experience it too. People with preexisting mental health conditions are more vulnerable to experiencing psychosis (extreme depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, etc). What Does It Feel Like To Experience Psychosis? People who experience psychosis have these signs and symptoms: - Paranoia and Delusions (example: extreme worries about someone watching them when in reality no one is) -Trouble with reasoning (is so convinced that it’s extremely difficult for people to help them understand reality) - Cannot sleep properly - Trouble talking/communicating with others - Stops self care  - Intense Ideas (example: the devil is taking them) - Extreme anxiety - Emotional disruption - Cannot function What Can I Do If I Or A Loved One Has Experienced Psychosis? It is extremely important to have a good health care team to support you. This includes a psychiatrist, a therapist and a family doctor. There are medications that are being prescribed now that could help prevent it from happening again or to put a stop to it. If you or a loved one has experienced psychosis, please establish a health care team and consider taking medication to stop/prevent it from happening again.  Some people fear medication will make them feel numb, but there are different combinations of medications you could take that are right for your body. Everyone is different, so there is a good combination out there for you, don’t give up!  What Support is Out There? USA: Early Serious Mental Illness Treatment Locator Click on this link to find local resources to help support you or a loved one. You can type in your state, and have a title to search. https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/locators/esmi [https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/locators/esmi]  Canada:  There are many places listed on this link where you can seek help in Canada. Click on this link to view https://www.camh.ca/en/professionals/treating-conditions-and-disorders/psychosis/psychosis---clinical-tools-and-resources [https://www.camh.ca/en/professionals/treating-conditions-and-disorders/psychosis/psychosis---clinical-tools-and-resources]  India: This link is specific to schizophrenia, but might help with psychosis as well. https://recovery.com/india/schizophrenia/ [https://recovery.com/india/schizophrenia/]  If you don’t live in these countries, I encourage you to do some research on where you can find support. Remember: 💪You are strong 💪You can overcome this 💪Things WILL get better if you seek help, even if you don’t believe that to be true (Information paraphrased from https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/understanding-psychosis#:~:text=Psychosis%20refers%20to%20a%20collection,real%20and%20what%20is%20not [https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/understanding-psychosis#:~:text=Psychosis%20refers%20to%20a%20collection,real%20and%20what%20is%20not].) With Love, -SelListens 💓
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The Core Values That Every Relationship Should Have
Relationship Stress / by sellistens
Last post
 January 25th, 2025
...See more           Every relationship has its struggles. Whether it’s romantic, a situationship, or a friendship, I believe they all need specific requirements to meet the needs of both parties. In this article, I will be talking about the core values that I believe every relationship should have. The four most important components are: trust, boundaries, communication and loyalty. Trust      Trust is important to have in a relationship because it prevents behaviours that cause mistrust. For example, if Sam doesn’t trust their significant other, Alex, Sam might resort to unhealthy behaviours they ultimately cause mistrust between both people.  Consider This:     If you know that you have trouble trusting people, do some research on that topic, maybe talk to someone about it, try to find a way to cope with those feelings. Sometimes just saying “I’m going to choose to trust them” is a helpful perspective that at least helps me when I’m having trouble. Boundaries and Communication        Boundaries tell the other person what your limits are. If you don’t set boundaries, your partner might unknowingly cross a line. This might spiral into an argument. Now, some arguments are normal to have in a relationship. I would even be concerned if there were never any arguments. To prevent frequent arguments, communication is the way to go. Consider This: Communicating boundaries without being controlling is important to consider.  What are your boundaries? Are they fair? Talk to your partner and ask them theirs. Loyalty     If you want a serious relationship, you have to make sure you are loyal to them and them only. Cheating will be caught eventually and you will have to deal with the consequences. Consider This: If you have feelings for someone else, are you really in love with your significant other? Thanks for reading and I hope this helps! SelListens
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Click If You're Struggling With Negative Thinking
General Support / by sellistens
Last post
 March 13th, 2025
...See more     Do you want to stop negative thinking but just don't know how to? Well, your in the right place because I have some resources to show you. Keep reading this interactive page for more information!      This way of thinking can be towards situations in your life, thinking badly of yourself as a person, or anything else negative. Maybe you've heard of CBT, maybe you haven't. If you already know what CBT is then skip the next paragraph and do the interactive tools. What Is CBT? CBT stands for "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy". It is used to track your thoughts, feelings and behavior towards a situation in your life. It could be an insecurity, a bad experience, etc. Then, once you are aware of what the situation is and how you respond to it, the only way to break the cycle of negativity is to change your thought process by reframing your thoughts. Now, this is a complicated thing to do, but if you practice, you will learn skill and on the way, your mental health improve as well. Interactive Steps Towards Completing CBT 💎STEP 1: Find a free worksheet online (Google Images as good ones). It must have a section that says "Thoughts, Feelings, (Body Sensations/optional), and Behavior" categories.  If you don't have a printer, copy the worksheet down on a piece of paper. Then, write down your situation or insecurity, your thoughts regarding that, how it made you feel, and how you acted after those thoughts and feelings. Examples:  Website: CB: Example and Practice Sheet.  TherapistAid.com   https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheet/cognitive-model-example-practice and https://www.therapistaid.com/images/content/worksheet/cognitive-model-example-practice/previews/standard-english-page-2.webp .  (you can find more on google images) ❗ NOTICE: Did you notice the right side of the table on the worksheet has a part where it says "Alternative Thought"? This is the next step. 💎 STEP 2: Reframe the thought.  This is a difficult one. People think that it has to be extremely positive. I'll tell you why that doesn't work. You simply won't believe what your writing down! It has to be REALISTIC and BELIEVEABLE to you.  Examples:  Original Thought: "I'm really bad at cooking" Reframed Thought: "I am working on being better at cooking because I am practicing. Every step counts!" 💎 STEP 3: Write how the reframed thought makes you feel and imagine how you may act if you changed the thought permanently.  Keep in mind: Your brain CAN change! Your brain makes connections inside itself through nerve cells called neurons. If you train your brain to think this way, the neurons will make connections and make it a habit to reframe the negative thinking.  I wrote this not only for myself, but also for you all on 7 Cups. I believe it would be helpful to me so I thought I would share my research/knowledge. Thank you and I hope that helps! I would LOVE to hear feedback and comments on this post! Also feel free to reach out to me if you need help - SelListens 
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Nice Questions
General Support / by sellistens
Last post
 October 29th, 2024
...See more What's one thing you're proud of yourself for? What are you grateful for?
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Listening to you!
Newbie Hub / by sellistens
Last post
 October 23rd, 2024
...See more Hey! I just wanted to say I'm online for a short period of time right now. (7:55am Oct 22). I want to connect with anyone who is struggling today. I want to have those deep conversations and work together to make you felt HEARD. I'm comfortable with talking about anything but sexual health. Please contact me or comment below! Love you all, Sel
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If you don't believe the phrase "It'll get better"....
Depression Support / by sellistens
Last post
 January 24th, 2025
...See more Please read this if you can relate to feeling alone and lost. I was thinking about change. It sounds scary but it can be a really good thing. Kind of like how one day I was driving and listening to an old song from 2022. Let me give you a heads up, at the end of 2022 I wasn't doing well. I felt like my life was over, I felt like I was going to be alone forever (relationship and friend wise), I didn't know what I wanted to do in my life and I simply felt lost. Fast forward to now, two to three years later, I'm doing really good actually. I have an amazing boyfriend, friends and I'm in school to be an Early Childhood Educator (who works in the daycares and schools). See how quickly things can change for the better? See how it's just a trick that depression gives you? Feeling like your in a tunnel with no light at the end of it is just a trick. Please, if your going through something right now, this is your sign that it really does get better. Stay strong, SellListens
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Compassionate and Empathetic for the first time I felt understood and comfortable
She does not judge you and will listen to what you have to say
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Great help! Everything that makes a good listiner !
She is honestly, such a kind and genuine individual who truly takes her time to really listen to you. Also, one of the best listeners on this platform. Thank you so much Sel :)
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she is lovely and listens very well
Great listener. Gave me time and understood my problems enough for the problems to eventually go. Gives you her time and helps a lot
She is a good listener
Loved Sel! One of the easiest and sweetest person I talked with. She not only listened but asked great questions. Thank you for this opportunity and I would recommend talking with Sel! She is amazing!
They talked to me as well, filling the gaps where I was confused, so it felt a lot better than usual
Wonderful listener. Non judgmental and understanding. Helped me open up. Truly a beautiful human being.
Sweet and nice helpful lady
Great listener! Very friendly and understanding.
She is a very kind and experienced listener, makes me feel seen and understood.
She seems very caring person.
They were very kind and understanding, good listener ❤
loved it! awesome chat!
This listener is a true angel... She managed to transmute all my negative feelings and ideas into something positive. I would advise her to anyone feeling self-loathing.
Sel was amazing. I felt like she was listening to me. She really connected with me. I don’t think I’ve ever felt so seen in my life. She is full of compassion and empathy. Wonderful listener. More than overjoyed that she’s on this app. Don’t let her leave! She’s amazing ❤️❤️❤️❤️
An extraordinarily caring and helpful listener.
Comforting to speak to Sel! Feels like a friend and she is very understanding.
thank you for listening to me, I appreicate it
Really good listener
Very helpful and kind in helping you to make things better, providing so much resources you could use to make yourself more calm and relax.
Sel listened attentively, was very friendly outgoing and related to my struggles, I highly recommend!
Great listener, had lots in common!
She was very helpful
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Patiently listened to me.
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