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Lost After Ending a Relationship with a Narcissist
Relationship Stress / by sensiblePal1896
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 September 3rd, 2025
...See more I've been in an on/off relationship for 3.5 years with a man who I love but who is a covert narcissist. I know the relationship is toxic - when things are good, it's SO good; when they are bad, it's really bad. After the last incident where he made my 8 year old son cry on his birthday, and he threatened to do something that would have jeopardized my career, I broke things off. 2 weeks later he came crawling back begging me to take him back. I told him I need space and time and that maybe I'd consider getting back with him if we did couples counseling. Because I am refusing to agree to a serious relationship with him again, he went back on ***. Literally a week after I broke up with him he started going on dates with other women. He has since broken off things with all those women (so he says) except one. He has a 3rd date with her today and is using this to manipulate me. He's saying he will stop seeing her if I agree to be in a relationship with him again. But because I won't do that right now, he is refusing to stop dating her. He brings this up on purpose to upset me, because he knows it makes me jealous and hurts.  I don't know what I'm looking for with this post. I guess I just need validation that he is toxic and it is *** up what he's doing, actively dating another woman and using that to put pressure on me to be with him. He keeps saying "eventually this will turn into a relationship, and then what are you going to do?" The worst part is - I feel so alone. I don't have anyone else to support me. He is the only one who consistently shows up for me and wants to be with me. But this is the other side of it. I just feel like a mess but I don't know how to let him go.
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