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...See more I took in a very close friend that left an abusive and controlling relationship. Like many in her situation, she has left and returned numerous times. This time it is supposed to be final, as she vowed to cut all contact with him. She went on a 2-month trip to Europe to help her move on with her life. She says she blocked him but he repeatedly finds avenues to still contact her. She doesn't elaborate and acts powerless to do anything about it. It's her decisions, her life. I am just trying to support her. However, I have this gut feeling that I am not getting the full picture from her, and that perhaps she hides certain details so that I won't judge her. Before taking her in I made it very clear that I did NOT want for him to know she was staying with me. She told him. I asked her to never give him my address or my full name (he lives in another state and we have never met, but he knows of me). Today, she returned to my home from her trip in Europe. She casually asked me if I had seen a card in the mail from him because he claims to have sent one. I was livid. When I asked how the heck he got my address, she said she has no clue and then brushed it off saying that he lies a lot so it's probably not even true that he sent any card. She says he also claimed that he came to my home and left a card on her car (from another state!). Her car has been covered and she hasn't yet checked for it. Regardless of whether or not it is true, I feel like this is a veiled form of intimidation directed at me, especially given the fact that I live alone and, according to his claim, he would've come onto my property to leave the card while she was away traveling. It feels aggressive and this is not normal behavior. She claims that he is harmless, that the most he'd do is beg her to take him back. That does nothing to reassure me. I simply don't want to be drawn into their mess and drama. I have this gnawing feeling that she is deceiving me, that perhaps she did give him my address. Am I overreacting? She makes me feel as though I am making a big deal out of nothing.

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