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singercrystalspirit
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PathStep 695 Compassion hearts10,247 Forum posts2,590 Forum upvotes5,194 Current upvotes5,194 Age GroupAdult Last activeJune, 2019 Member sinceAugust 16, 2015
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Hello, I'm Singer. Or you can call me Crystal. :) I'm 30 years old, and I've been a part of 7cups for nearly three years :) I live in the U.S. I lived in California for many years, and then I moved for a time to the South to spend some time with my family. Now I am moving to Oregon. I love adventures, traveling, photography, singing, music, dancing, reading, the sun, the rain, mountains, the ocean (well, the beach), science, and being in nature. I always appreciate a good story.

Always Remember:

~*~ You are doing way better than you THINK you are. ~*~ The world is way more KIND and LOVING than you think it is. ~*~ We as humans have an inherent NEGATIVITY bias. We are hardwired to notice the negative. Choosing to focus on the POSITIVE is not ignoring reality. It is choosing to be more balanced. We have to overkill on the positive in order to BALANCE out our negativity BIAS, which is so ingrained we don't even NOTICE it unless we LEARN to. ~*~
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Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-In Friday 31st August 2018
Trauma Support / by singercrystalspirit
Last post
 September 7th, 2018
...See more Wow, can you believe its already the last day of August? Im sitting up at 1am realizing this is my only time to write the check-in (I am currently Couchsurfing, and my hosts have kept me up late!) because I am likely going to be spending all of tomorrow morning taking out the thermostat from my car / troubleshooting / installing a new gasket if we break the gasket in the process. My engine has been running hot for a mystery reason (I have a new radiator, a new radiator fan, just had a coolant flush, the oil was just changed, no fuses are blown, and nothing is leaking!) and I have to cross the Rockies tomorrow - so Ive got to fix it beforehand! When you are traveling, things never go entirely as planned. Ive learned this on my 5 road trips across the U.S. Each trip I make, Ive noticed I know more about how my car works because I learn as I go, and I notice I always happen to run into exactly the help I need. For instance: my new roommate is a mechanic, so he has been giving me advice, and the person I am Couchsurfing with tonight just happens to know how to take out a thermostat! He is going to help me with it tomorrow morning. I am wondering for todays check-in what your thoughts are on what we have our eyes open to in life and what we are on the lookout for. Do you find that your eyes are open to see help that is offered you right when you need it? Do you find it difficult to trust certain kinds of help in particular? As always, share a little, or share a lot♥️
Whatever it Takes
Trauma Support / by singercrystalspirit
Last post
 October 5th, 2018
...See more Hello, I'm Singer. The title of my thread is my current favorite song, by Imagine Dragons, which I played at least 10-15 times yesterday. I think it will serve to inspire me to keep on going, as I have already through thick or thin, doing "whatever it takes" to try and help myself, to hang in there, to make some sort of beauty and meaning and inspiration out of it all. I know I have not always been this way. I have many, many positive memories. I don't know exactly what dissociation is, but I know I do it to some extent from time to time. I also know I resonate strongly with themes of being a warrior. I hope to find a trauma therapist who is full of compassion and will help me. Until then, and after then, here I am, doing the best that I can to try to heal, to try to take care of myself, and to try to live the daring, brilliant, innovative life I aspire to. My most recent therapist mentioned "attachment trauma" was what to address. I had to let her go, by the way, because I didn't trust her personally anymore. I trust her observations about me, but I did not trust her in relationship. Signing out, Singer
Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills
General Support / by singercrystalspirit
Last post
 June 27th, 2017
...See more Hi, What does 7cups offer as far as skills support for DBT? I do not have Borderline Personality Disorder, and am looking for skills support only. Is there a forum, a group....? Information appreciated. Thank you.
Locations in the World affecting Depression
Depression Support / by singercrystalspirit
Last post
 April 17th, 2017
...See more Hello. In the "old days," you would hear about well-to-do people moving to fairer climates and more pleasant locations when they were dealing with a "delicate disposition" or to recover from a "breakdown." I am wondering peoples' thoughts on locations in the world that are particularly supportive for healing from depression, particularly the U.S. since that's where I'm a citizen and where the rest of my family is, but I'm also interested in hearing about the entire world. By locations, I have climate and nature in mind, but I also have the type of people and communities and lifestyle that exist there in mind. Thoughts?
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Personality Disorders Support / by singercrystalspirit
Last post
 November 21st, 2016
...See more Hello. Some of you may know me :) I have been in and out of therapy for various issues since I was about 15. This past weekend, my newest therapist - who doesn't believe in diagnoses - nor does the counseling center I go to - told me that I have several traits that someone who believed in diagnoses could call borderline. I do not have a diagnosis, but, I am searching for support, and somewhere I fit in. I am in great, great pain much of the time and all of the time lately. For many years I have been told it's anxiety, its depression, it's an eating disorder, it's nothing at all and it's just the normal stresses of life moving up and down, or I'm an empath and HSP nervous system, I've been told by other therapists that I'm definitely NOT borderline, I've been told my mother / father were toxic / abusive and that's all that's wrong, I left God and that's what's wrong... etc, you name it. Searching for answers and support, and going to try here too. I'm so confused. I've had so many professional opinions, I don't know who to listen to. In the history of my life I tend to simply listen to those who love me. But in recent times that's become confusing, as people who have loved me have left me or hurt me. And I've tried trusting myself, but life doesn't seem to always align. So now I'm kind of floundering, and perhaps I don't exactly fit in to this community but I thought I'd try and say hello and some things about myself that are hurting. Thank you 💕
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