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Relationship Stress / by skyDonut
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 February 19th, 2021
...See more Hi i hope I'm doing this correctly. It's my first posting. Well my troubles are not knowing if I'm happy in my current relationship. We have been together 3 years and live together. The problem is our issues are in a cycle. Example i ask for him to clean/cook or any small task i need help with and doesnt do it. I'll wait weeks or even months. I'll voice him is not about that he didn't do it is that it happens over and over again. It can be anything. It can even be him triggering me with a specific action he knows has come up before. He will do something and I'll be upset. We will communicate. He apologizes and i think we'll be fine but it repeats. Everything keeps repeating. I feel like he does the minimum effort for us. Ill plan out a date for us something to keep our relationship going. I ask him to help me next time or plan something for us. It becomes the minimal effort. The place he planned is closed. We'll get lost and mood just completely changes. This has happened more than I can count. I tell myself to be patient to meet my expectations to something he can do. I tried but just feel stuck like our relationship isn't flourishing. I ask myself if I'm happy. I feel like I do everything for us to be together. I'm the patient one. I'm the one that has to understand he works at a slower pace. What about me? How long should I wait until he realizes that I'm struggling to keep our relationship. I'm so tired of cleaning, working, trying to find things for us to do. Then there's the sex. My libido went down before I met him so my desire to have sex in general isn't my priority. For my partner is everything he wants to have it all the time. He will do anything to have sex with me but I don't want to. I feel this constant anxiety because I feel this way. I know he wants to and I walk around feeling like I have to. I told him but he can't hide his body language. I know what he's thinking and I'm always planning or thinking when am I going to have energy enough to have sex with him again. No matter how much I tell him and communicate about this he can't change what he wants. i just feel conscious about not being able to meet his needs. Mine needs clash with his because I honestly don't care to have sex if months pass. Sometimes I just have sex so he can be happy and leave me alone for a couple days where I don't feel such constant anxiety. i like the sex but rather no bother with it too much. I'm confused i about our relationship because I know we can be happy together. We have our happy times but I'm confused because of cycle.
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