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i feel confused
Relationship Stress / by starryhwa1
Last post
 October 27th, 2022
...See more Hello. In my prev thread i talked about my ex boyfriend and i broke up about me asking ‘what if we took a break for a week’ cause we are both mentally tired from our internship job. We talked about it when we met and he suddenly ended the relationship abruptly and he ended it over text. We talked yesterday and i asked him that i want to know the real truth on why he decided to leave me. He said it's because i was always bitter over his achievements(which is true but i was also very proud of him) and he said we always argue about it but it only happened 2 times, we apologized and after the argument he always says "let's put this behind us and forgive each other " So i'm confused? why he has to bring it up on that again when we have moved on and why now? He said broke up with me because of that. Is he trying to make me feel guilty? On the day we broke up, he told me he was tired of his life and yesterday he told me that(me being jealous over his achievements) He also said i did not care about his emotional needs and he knew that i want to change to prove myself and he said he's done, he doesn't wanna see it..Like why do u not want to see me change if u loved me? Why did u give up so easily? When he said about the truth about why he broke up with me, I feel like he's not even trying to tell me the truth, and still hiding something. Yesterday i texted him on how we could've communicated and put more effort on the problems so we could learn and change and he just ignored all of it and skipped to another question. He said that he was telling the truth about how he feels. He felt like i didn't gave him enough love and support. I understand that but i've always been there for him emotionally and physically .He said he's done, he fears of going back to the situation and relationship again, he doesn't want to come back to me ever. Now i'm thinking, should i move on? or wait for him to fully heal because i feel like he's not telling me what really is the truth, and he keeps avoiding some of my questions. I don't want to text him again and cause more headaches to us. I also told him that he ended this relationship abruptly and left me feeling confused because we didn't have a proper conversation for our SERIOUS relationship, ended it through text but he didn't replied to it and skipped to another question. He told me to let go of him so he could find a happier version of himself. Telling me we can still be friends, and he wants to get rid of the past. I said to him that i pray and wish for him to be happy and healthy everyday and he said "you too.l as well wish it for you . Thank you for the past years" Does he still love me or no? this man always confuses me. I know he's not fully healed and still drowned in his thoughts, and plus he has very big ego and pride..but ...idk anymore .. I wish we could've met up and talked but he doesn't want to see me at all..
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I feel confused
Relationship Stress / by starryhwa1
Last post
 October 26th, 2022
...See more Hello. In my prev thread i talked about my ex boyfriend and i broke up about me asking what if we took a break for a week cause we are both mentally tired from intern. We talked about it and suddenly he ended the relationship abruptly and he ended it over text . We talked yesterday and i asked him that i want to know the real truth on why he decided to leave me. He said it’s because i was always bitter over his achievements(which is true but i was also very proud of him) and he said we always argue about it but it only happened 2 times , we apologized and after the argument he always says “let’s put this behind us and forgive each other “ So i’m confused? why he has to bring it up on that again when we have moved on and why now? He said broke up with me because of that. Is he trying to make me feel guilty? On the day we broke up, he told me he was tired of his life and yesterday he told me that(me being jealous over his achievements) He also said i did not care about his emotional needs and he knew that i want to change to prove myself and he said he’s done, he doesn’t wanna see it..Like why do u not want to see me change if u loved me? Why did u give up so easily? When he said about the truth about why he broke up with me, I feel like he’s not even trying to tell me the truth , and still hiding something. Yesterday i texted him on how we could’ve communicated and put more effort on the problems so we could learn and change and he just ignored all of it and skipped to another question. He said that he was telling the truth about how he feels. He felt like i didn’t gave him enough love and support. I understand that but i’ve always been there for him emotionally and physically .He said he’s done , he fears of going back to the situation and relationship again , he doesn’t want to come back to me ever. Now i’m thinking , should i move on? or wait for him to fully heal because i feel like he’s not telling me what really is the truth , and he keeps avoiding some of my questions. I don’t want to text him again and cause more headaches to us. I also told him that he ended this relationship abruptly and left me feeling confused because we didn’t have a proper conversation for our SERIOUS relationship, ended it through text but he didn’t replied to it and skipped to another question. He told me to let go of him so he could find a happier version of himself. Telling me we can still be friends , and he wants to get rid of the past. I said to him i pray and wish for him to be happy and healthy everyday and he said “you too.I as well wish it for you . Thank you for the past years” Does he still love me or no? this man always confuses me. I know he’s not fully healed and still drowned in his thoughts , and plus he has very big ego and pride..but …idk anymore .. I wish we could’ve met up and talked but he doesn’t want to see me at all..
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Should i wait for him?
Relationship Stress / by starryhwa1
Last post
 October 20th, 2022
...See more My ex boyfriend and i broke up last week because of miscommunication etc. It was suppose to be my decision because i asked ‘what if we take break’ so i explained everything , that i need space to find myself . He said ‘sure if it will make you be happy and i want you to’ . I was still thinking if we should because i know his heart won’t handle it and would leave me. So after long paragraphs to him , he said we should just take a break and i couldn’t make a final decision for myself. To me,it was selfish. The day after we fought, i met up with him and talk things out. I was stupid and regret everything because i didn’t speak up and remained silent because i was too hurt and angry. He said we should take a break for a week but then as we ended the conversation, he ended the relationship. I didn’t even get to say a proper goodbye. I avoided what he said, avoided our last kiss. I regret everything. I asked if we should meet and talk things out properly again , he said ‘no, i don’t want to see you. We will be hurt’ it was painful. We then fought again on text , he said he wouldn’t wait for me anymore , trying to slowly forgot me. After how much we’ve been through together and promised..Promised to get married. Before this , he said he’s here for me when i needed anything and he won’t disappear.But when i said i needed him, i needed someone to talk , he didn’t say anything. He said he was mentally and physically tired of himself and internship. He doesn’t want anyone to talk to him and to leave him alone. I told him i still love him and would for him but i don’t know anymore.. We started texting because i made to effort to talk to him on how’s work and everything. He’s always giving me one sentence .We are both mentally tired of our life and internship. I feel like part of me believes he still has love for me. We fought because we just ended work and we were drained and exhausted. So i guess , he spilled everything out without thinking. He told my best friend to take care of me for him but idk..I would wait for him until i’m tired i love him so much ..he was my first love. Should i wait for him to heal? Will he come back? Will we come back when we are both healed? what should i do..
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