Should i wait for him?
My ex boyfriend and i broke up last week because of miscommunication etc. It was suppose to be my decision because i asked ‘what if we take break’ so i explained everything , that i need space to find myself . He said ‘sure if it will make you be happy and i want you to’ . I was still thinking if we should because i know his heart won’t handle it and would leave me. So after long paragraphs to him , he said we should just take a break and i couldn’t make a final decision for myself. To me,it was selfish. The day after we fought, i met up with him and talk things out. I was stupid and regret everything because i didn’t speak up and remained silent because i was too hurt and angry. He said we should take a break for a week but then as we ended the conversation, he ended the relationship. I didn’t even get to say a proper goodbye. I avoided what he said, avoided our last kiss. I regret everything. I asked if we should meet and talk things out properly again , he said ‘no, i don’t want to see you. We will be hurt’ it was painful. We then fought again on text , he said he wouldn’t wait for me anymore , trying to slowly forgot me. After how much we’ve been through together and promised..Promised to get married. Before this , he said he’s here for me when i needed anything and he won’t disappear.But when i said i needed him, i needed someone to talk , he didn’t say anything. He said he was mentally and physically tired of himself and internship. He doesn’t want anyone to talk to him and to leave him alone. I told him i still love him and would for him but i don’t know anymore.. We started texting because i made to effort to talk to him on how’s work and everything. He’s always giving me one sentence .We are both mentally tired of our life and internship. I feel like part of me believes he still has love for me. We fought because we just ended work and we were drained and exhausted. So i guess , he spilled everything out without thinking. He told my best friend to take care of me for him but idk..I would wait for him until i’m tired i love him so much ..he was my first love. Should i wait for him to heal? Will he come back? Will we come back when we are both healed? what should i do..
@starryhwa1 Hi. I hope he returns to you. Texting is not the way for people to communicate anything serious. People can’t carry each other’s burdens. Sometimes we need space. But people can also be very afraid if someone asks for space. Maybe give him some space to miss you.
— All the best
you are right…i hope so too he comes back..thank u :’)
@starryhwa1 I'm sorry you're going through this! This entire situation sounds so difficult. It also sounds like you both were under a lot of stress due to work and the internship and perhaps both of you needed a little breather.
People often have different attachments styles or ways in which they operate in relationships. It might be helpful to explore that information to give things time to cool down and have a helpful resources to make sense of some of these behaviors.
You both seem to care about each other! It might be best to give yourself some time to take care of yourself so you can have a productive conversation about the relationship. If you're tired and running on little energy it might be hard to be fully present in a serious conversation like that.
What do you think?
i agree with what you said but i’m afraid that he doesn’t want to have a proper conversation again and moved on
@starryhwa1 it makes sense you feel that way after what he said. You mentioned you felt he said things he didn't mean in the moment. Giving things time to cool down to take care of yourself can give both of you the space you need to think clearly.
In the meantime what are somethings you can do to take care of yourself?
i’m not sure actually, i’ve been busy with my internship . But i always take a walk at the park or hang out with my friends
