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Ex abandoned me 4 years ago then came back
Relationship Stress / by sundaymonday27
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 August 23rd
...See more My ex ghosted me 4 years ago right before we were supposed to move in together. Now he came back a month ago to apologize, I accepted and we talked for a bit. At first he told me he didn't have a girlfriend but that he was talking to someone until the more we would talk I realized she was his girlfriend so when I asked him why he lied he said because he felt like he was already putting too much on my plate. So I tried still being friends with him, he started venting to me about his girlfriend about how she was ignoring him and such until about a week later she apologized and he slowly stopped talking to me and said he's just busy with work and then that turned into he's mentally struggling until now he's ghosting me again. He called me a few times while we were still talking and he said some things that I didn't understand. Like the other day he mentioned he's been thinking about coming to the state I live in and that he's been thinking and trying to remember more about me like that I don't like meat and what month my birthday is in. Just some stuff like that. And I just feel like I'm getting mixed signals from him and I don't really understand why he came back into my life. Our relationship was complicated before he left and now I just feel lost and confused and sad that he's gone again. I didn't mind just being friends but if he wasn't okay with it anymore then why not just tell me that. It took me so long to get over him and now I feel almost the same way I did when he ghosted me the first time. I feel like I'm being unreasonable being so hurt by it all. I understand I need better boundaries and I now don't think I should have allowed him to vent to me about his girlfriend but I just didn't want him to feel alone.
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