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Am I a Bad Fish Owner?
Anxiety Support / by sunsticks97
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 May 30th, 2018
...See more I took care of a beta until he died recently, it was very sad for me. I made a lot of effort into making sure the tank size was right and the water quality was good, and he had things to swim around and was fed daily. We've only had betas up until this point but my mom decided to get a bunch of new fish for some reason, we asked a lot of questions at the pet store about how to care for them. I was anxious about making sure they had everything they needed and I repeatedly reminded my mom about things that we needed to get. When we got home we took a while setting up the tank and did everything the pet store said, but when I posted pictures online I got a ton of criticism about how we were caring for them, stuff the pet store never even told us. Like, how we're supposed to use sand instead of gravel, or how we need to put wood in the tank, or how we should return our fish. I don't want to return them, I like them. But I'm starting to sweat and feel sick, thinking I'm a bad pet owner and they would be better off without me, I'm willing to make those changes but my mom's already spent a lot of money on this and I don't know when we'll be able to fix it. This is giving me so much anxiety because I want to be a good pet owner and I want to do what's best for them but maybe I was just fooling myself and I'm a really bad pet owner and I can't be trusted to care for them. I should have known these care tips already, before we got them, even though it wasn't my idea to get a bunch of different fish.
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