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Addiction Support / by sympatheticSkies2933
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 November 16th, 2025
...See more Hi everyone, I’m looking for insight, especially from men in recovery or partners who’ve been through this. My fiance has struggled with porn addiction for years. About a month ago, he decided to quit and has stayed clean so far. He added family sharing to his phone so I would get alerts if he tries to access anything inappropriate. He’s taking real steps to change for us and our two young kids. But a month ago, I also found out that he cheated six months earlier with a stripper AKA a prostitute. He says it was just the tip during a dance, he went soft, panicked, and left but he continued looking up adult massage parlors afterwards like he was trying to maybe fix himself. That betrayal still hurts deeply. On top of that, we were struggling with intimacy. He often goes soft, can’t stay aroused, and gets anxious. He says he’s so used to porn and his own hand that real sex doesn’t feel the same. I’ve tried everything , lingerie, toys, encouragement but I feel like I’m not “enough” anymore. I know I’m attractive. Even strangers approach me when I’m out with the kids. He’s always said I’m out of his league. Yes, I’ve had two kids, my body’s changed, but I still take care of myself. I honestly don’t think it’s about me I believe porn has rewired his brain and body, but it still hurts. He has completely destroyed me. He used porn as an escape, abandoned us emotionally. I was left to do everything alone. Now he wants to fix things, in all the ways, but when it comes to intimacy his body reacts like someone much older he’s only 30. So my questions are: Does it get better? Do things like arousal and intimacy return? Do men eventually stop going soft after months (or years) without porn? Is there real hope? Any honest input would mean a lot. Thank you.
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