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...See more So this is a hard thing for me to write about. Realistically I’ve never used this app but am looking for someone to give advice or talk to who has gone through something similar who isn’t emotionally involved in my life. Therapy is too expensive lol So. I’ll try to make this as short as I can but to start things off I am 3 months pregnant with my first child. I am in a new relationship (5 months) with a man I truly love. But as time goes one I kept finding problems with him I never noticed before. First off I found out he was an alcoholic (he was sober right when we met) I’ve dated people with drinking problems, I thought this would be something we could work out easily but then I started noticing he would do really dumb stuff while drunk. He wouldn’t come home till late or try to go buy weed from friends late at night (and I wouldn’t know where he was, we would always argue about where he was etc) Anyways we needed up coming to the conclusion that he needed to quit. So he would go a week with out and then go on bender. THEN I find out that he has a personality disorder (which makes total sense because of how he acted so different when sober) THEN I find out that he had been speaking to his ex Gf. Now I have a friend who is my ex but I had a bad feeling about this girl because he told me when we first started dating that she wasent someone to be trusted and that she would try to sleep with him. So he started hiding their conversations and I kept catching him (never anything sexual but I still didn’t like it) THEN I find out he left to see her while I was at work. He was drunk and smoked with her at a park and that was it. So i started to pay attention to his phone more and one night while he was drunk I saw his messages with other women asking them for nudes and talking nasty with them (females that he knows) and like these girls see that we are together on fb and most know that I am pregnant so I’m like wtf??? Once I found this out and we went through all the bullshit, he admitted to me that he has a ego problem and is a sex addict. He claims that when he drinks he looks for woman to validate his feelings and will ask them for pictures and talk dirty FOR FUN, to make him feel bigger I guess. He also was a previous drug addict (heroin and coke) and claimed to be sober. Well he admitted to me that he did coke twice and heroin with his ex Gf I was worried about in the beginning of our relationship. No look I know this is all DEF grounds to leave someone. But hear me out. This is a man who came from a really bad background. Father left him, drug addict mother. Family that gave up on him while he was a full addict etc. he tells me he wants to be sober and is active in trying. He’s going to AA meetings, taking his meds. He’s trying, and duh it kills me everytime I realize that he cheated on me twice in real life (kissed his ex and got a drunk blowjob from a random girl he use to messs with) and numerous times over social media. But if someone has problems and is aware and wants to change for you how do you blame them? He is an alcoholic/kindof ex drug addict/ sex addict with personality disorder… When he’s sober everything is great, he doesn’t fuck anything up, he doesn’t reach out to females, we are amazing, he’s supportive and loving etc. It’s only once the bottle hits that he does ANY of this bad stuff. So really I’m looking for advice. Maybe talk to someone who has gone through something similar? Please be nice and positive Thanks loves

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