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Relationship Stress / by tealSkies9787
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 March 15th
...See more Hello, I am new to all of this but here is the situation that landed me here. My partner and I have been together going on 16 years. The majority of those years he was a stay at home father while I worked, and did my fair share of the household work. From my point of view I definitely pulled my weight. During those years I supported him during psych stays, therapy for his bpd, ankle surgery, supporting the entire household for months at a time while working so he could recover or focus on his therapy. I helped raise his so , his nephew and nieces. He did cheat on me quite a few times, nothing in person but emotionally cheated on me I don’t even know how many times. Fast forward to the last two years, I got sick. Our home had black mold and it put me in the dirt. Most likely along with the years of never taking care of myself and putting everyone else’s needs before mine. I have been sick, memory loss, being so tired, the nasty cough that won’t go away, and the insomnia is insane. So we decided for it to be my time to rest and give my body a break. He couldn’t do it. We lost our home, became homeless living out of a hotel , we still are currently. I’ve used up all my savings and I still really haven’t recovered. The stress has been horrible. I get blamed for us being in this situation. Been cheated on again multiple times during this. Heard all the nasty things he’s said about me. Has called me names and my self esteem is gone. He’s stopped saying all the nice things to me, doesn’t really seem to care what’s going on with me. He’s planned on leaving me behind my back. You name it I’ve been betrayed. The icing on the cake is that he had been gossiping about me behind my back. Making up things and essentially making my little to nonexistent support system gone. It’s been horrible.. I’ve tried communicating on how I feel and all it does is end up him acting like I am an inconvenience. My sickness to him is made up. This whole situation is all my fault in his eyes. Mind you I have been financially providing this entire time from my savings. I just miss feeling wanted cared about to hear some nice things about me. I’ve told him this till I was blue in the face. Nothing changes. Here and there I’ll have a few days of the partner he once was and I soak up those days but the next day or so comes and it’s back to the dirty looks the negative outlook on me. Now I have zero support system. No one to talk to , no family because he had went and made up so many things they don’t even talk to me. He’s filled my oldest child’s head full of things that she no longer talks to me. I am absolutely struggling! And I am at my end of my rope. I am so tired of crying and feeling sad. I have no one in my life to try and bring me up, say something positive about me. Nothing. After I had spent so many years dedicated my life to my family. Almost as if since I’m not making thousands of dollars I’m useless. I’m so stuck and I don’t know how to get out of it
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