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Note: I'm not looking forward to any serious topics/convos/venting out sessions at the moment. Expecting lighthearted convos only. Thanks for your understanding...

I can see through the darkness,hear the vacuum,love a stone,listen to the woods,taste the water .Share to me whatever that keeps hold of you as you are in the judgement free zone now. Feel free as I've travelled the paths you find it difficult and will guide the way you have wished for.

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Social anxiety disorder or social phobia.
Anxiety Support / by theadarsh
Last post
 July 12th, 2021
...See more Many people get nervous or self-conscious on occasion, like when giving a speech or interviewing for a new job. But social anxiety disorder, or social phobia, is more than just shyness or occasional nerves. Social anxiety disorder involves intense fear of certain social situations—especially situations that are unfamiliar or in which you feel you’ll be watched or evaluated by others. These situations may be so frightening that you get anxious just thinking about them or go to great lengths to avoid them, disrupting your life in the process. Underlying social anxiety disorder is the fear of being scrutinized, judged, or embarrassed in public. You may be afraid that people will think badly of you or that you won’t measure up in comparison to others. And even though you probably realize that your fears of being judged are at least somewhat irrational and overblown, you still can’t help feeling anxious. But no matter how painfully shy you may be and no matter how bad the butterflies, you can learn to be comfortable in social situations and reclaim your life. Causes include: Common social anxiety triggers include: Meeting new people Making small talk Public speaking Performing on stage Being the center of attention Being watched while doing something Being teased or criticized Talking with “important” people or authority figures Being called on in class Going on a date Speaking up in a meeting Using public restrooms Taking exams Eating or drinking in public Making phone calls Attending parties or other social gatherings Symptoms include: Excessive self-consciousness and anxiety in everyday social situations Intense worry for days, weeks, or even months before an upcoming social situation Extreme fear of being watched or judged by others, especially people you don’t know Fear that you’ll act in ways that will embarrass or humiliate yourself Fear that others will notice that you’re nervous Physical signs and symptoms: Red face, or blushing Shortness of breath Upset stomach, nausea (i.e. butterflies) Trembling or shaking (including shaky voice) Racing heart or tightness in chest Sweating or hot flashes Feeling dizzy or faint Behavioral signs and symptoms: Avoiding social situations to a degree that limits your activities or disrupts your life Staying quiet or hiding in the background in order to escape notice and embarrassment A need to always bring a buddy along with you wherever you go Drinking before social situations in order to soothe your nerves Overcoming it: 1: Challenge negative thoughts. While it may seem like there’s nothing you can do about the symptoms of social anxiety disorder or social phobia, in reality, there are many things that can help. The first step is challenging your mentality. Social anxiety sufferers have negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to their fears and anxiety. 2: Focus on others, not yourself. When we’re in a social situation that makes us nervous, many of us tend to get caught up in our anxious thoughts and feelings. You may be convinced that everyone is looking at you and judging you. Your focus is on your bodily sensations, hoping that by paying extra close attention you can better control them. But this excessive self-focus just makes you more aware of how nervous you’re feeling, triggering even more anxiety! It also prevents you from fully concentrating on the conversations around you or the performance you’re giving. 3: Learn to control your breathing. Many changes happen in your body when you become anxious. One of the first changes is that you begin to breathe quickly. Overbreathing (hyperventilation) throws off the balance of oxygen and carbon dioxide in your body—leading to more physical symptoms of anxiety, such as dizziness, a feeling of suffocation, increased heart rate, and muscle tension. Learning to slow your breathing down can help bring your physical symptoms of anxiety back under control. 4: Face your fears One of the most helpful things you can do to overcome social anxiety is to face the social situations you fear rather than avoid them. Avoidance keeps social anxiety disorder going. While avoiding nerve-wracking situations may help you feel better in the short term, it prevents you from becoming more comfortable in social situations and learning how to cope in the long term. In fact, the more you avoid a feared social situation, the more frightening it becomes. 5: Make an effort to be more social Actively seeking out supportive social environments is another effective way of challenging your fears and overcoming social anxiety. Have a quality time reading this guys and face your world with confidence.
Alcohol use disorder and it's giving up
Alcohol & Drug Addiction Support / by theadarsh
Last post
 June 17th, 2021
...See more Alcohol use disorder (AUD) is a medical condition that doctors diagnose when a patient’s drinking causes distress or harm. The condition can range from mild to severe and is diagnosed when a patient answers “yes” to two or more of the following questions. In the past year, have you: Had times when you ended up drinking more, or longer than you intended? More than once wanted to cut down or stop drinking, or tried to, but couldn’t? Spent a lot of time drinking? Or being sick or getting over the aftereffects? Experienced craving — a strong need, or urge, to drink? Found that drinking — or being sick from drinking — often interfered with taking care of your home or family? Or caused job troubles? Or school problems? Continued to drink even though it was causing trouble with your family or friends? Given up or cut back on activities that were important or interesting to you, or gave you pleasure, in order to drink? More than once gotten into situations while or after drinking that increased your chances of getting hurt (such as driving, swimming, using machinery, walking in a dangerous area, or having unsafe sex)? Continued to drink even though it was making you feel depressed or anxious or adding to another health problem? Or after having had a memory blackout? Had to drink much more than you once did to get the effect you want? Or found that your usual number of drinks had much less effect than before? Found that when the effects of alcohol were wearing off, you had withdrawal symptoms, such as trouble sleeping, shakiness, irritability, anxiety, depression, restlessness, nausea, or sweating? Or sensed things that were not there? If you have any of these symptoms, your drinking may already be a cause for concern. The more symptoms you have, the more urgent the need for change. A health professional can conduct a formal assessment of your symptoms to see if an alcohol use disorder is present. Treatment: 1.Behavioral Treatments : Behavioral treatments are aimed at changing drinking behavior through counseling. They are led by health professionals and supported by studies showing they can be beneficial. 2. Medications: Three medications are currently approved in the United States to help people stop or reduce their drinking and prevent relapse. They are prescribed by a primary care physician or other health professional and may be used alone or in combination with counseling. 3.Mutual-Support Groups: Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and other 12-step programs provide peer support for people quitting or cutting back on their drinking. Combined with treatment led by health professionals, mutual-support groups can offer a valuable added layer of support. Due to the anonymous nature of mutual-support groups, it is difficult for researchers to determine their success rates compared with those led by health professionals. So turn up immediately if you want to overcome your addiction. There are more methods and connect with one of us here to support you in overcoming it.
In time of test,family is best
Family & Caregivers / by theadarsh
Last post
 June 1st, 2021
...See more A strong family is all that you need to fight all odds in life. No matter how the day has been for you, no matter how people must have behaved with you, and no matter the problems you have been facing, the smiling face of your spouse and children help you stay balanced. But that trust and support do not come easily. They are built over the years with careful nurturing. A family is important because our mental growth, well-being, and stability all depend on our family. A family makes all its members feel safe and connected to one another. It provides us with the comfort of having people by our side during tough times, helping us to manage our stress. A family allows us to feel safe, protected, accepted and loved despite our shortcomings. Families are the basic units that teach children about relationships. Children brought up in a healthy family will be able to form better bonds outside their home. Strong relationships teach us how to build trust in others as family members share both good and bad times together. Conflicts in family teach children a respectful way to resolve problems in the future. A strong family is all a person needs to become confident in life. Each family is different. But all strong families have some common features. A few of them are listed below: Have good communication. A healthy family talks and listens to its every member. It encourages adults and children alike to have a say in the decision making, share their opinions, or talk about their expectations and disappointments. Share a feeling of togetherness. The members of the family share common beliefs and, therefore, feel connected to each other. This sense of similarity yields psychological affirmation and one has the satisfaction of being together with like-minded people. Spend time with each other. They make sure to have at least one meal together every day. They enjoy playing, camping, dining out or simply discussing politics. They actively involve themselves in each other’s lives but know where to draw a line. Show care and affection to every member. The members have kind words to say each other. They accept you unconditionally but guide you on to the right path if you are deviating. With their care and affection, they make you feel belonged. Lead by example. The elders follow what they teach the younger members of the family. The value system is set up by example. Support its members. The world might be against you, but your family is with you. It supports you in your fight, and lets you know they are with you in your decisions. A well-knit family does not discriminate between family members and responds to everybody’s needs. See a crisis situation as an opportunity to grow. They strive to see something positive in all circumstances, helping you to cope with adverse situations without getting overwhelmed. Focus on every member’s well-being. The family members work as a team to protect and provide for each other. Only the feeling of mutual love can motivate people into compromising on their comforts for the happiness of their family. Show resilience. Every family goes through ups and downs in their lives and share a painful experience together. But no distressing experience loosens the bond. The virtue of loyalty comes from a family. Remember that all these virtues of a strong family do not come overnight. You need to work together for years to build a healthy family. And to conclude "A man who doesn't spend time with his family can never be a real man" To all my 7 cups family 💕. Please mention your support as we're all in this together.
Dealing with the differently abled
Disability Support / by theadarsh
Last post
 April 21st, 2022
...See more Ask Before Offering Help: Don’t assume that people with disabilities would always require some assistance in leading their lives and the first step is to treat them as equals. Understand that they know more about their needs and how to handle their day-today lives. In case, if you want to extend any support, ask first. Understand their needs and learn about specific details on how you can assist. Speak Clearly, And Listen: If you have a loved one or colleague with mental or developmental disabilities, always use simple words. Don’t use complex terms, explain your views in simple sentences and allow them to make their own decisions. Practice restraint and patience while dealing with those with speech disability as they take some time to finish their sentences. Do not try to interrupt the flow of speech by trying to complete their sentences. Make Them Feel Confident: Few disabled people may suffer from lack of self-esteem and confidence. Remember, many of them don’t like sympathy and don’t stare at them. Always make eye contact while talking and do not try to strike up a conversation around their disabilities. If you are conversing with a person in a wheelchair sit down and talk face-to-face, instead of talking down to them. Respect Personal Space: People with disabilities need their own space and may not like others touching their mobility aids without permission, as you may not know how to handle their equipment. If you want to move their wheelchair, ask for permission. Always knock on the doors before you enter the room, like you do with others. Do not discuss their disability with others. Make Changes: If you are expecting a visitor with certain disability at home or in office, try making few simple changes that would make them feel comfortable. Place necessary items within their reach in restrooms, bedrooms, offer to help with items in shelves or cupboards. Also try and respect their daily routine and if there is a sudden change in the daily activities help them to cope up with the transition. The COVID-19 pandemic and the subsequent stringent lockdowns, with rigorous social distancing norms and having to wear face masks at all times in public places have no doubt affected the ease of living for persons with disabilities as well, all over the world. Nevertheless, in these difficult times, when we are all going through various challenges on the personal, professional and health fronts, some simple steps help to ensure that disabled people can obtain what they need on a daily basis and assure one and all of an inclusive, cooperative and kind society. Engage In Positive Conversations. While maintaining social distancing is the need of the hour to halt the further spread of coronavirus infection, keep in mind to not completely isolate the disabled in your community. Meet with visually challenged or physically handicapped people and talk to them about constructive topics like work, family, music or discuss happy memories from the past. This helps persons with disabilities have a sense of belonging and uplifts their overall mood and mental health in these tough times. Offer Help With Medical Support. While it is quite simple for us to stock up on all our nutrition supplements and immunity boosters, go for health check-ups, consult a doctor online, besides buying any medications for other pre-existing conditions, it is not so easy for disabled people to acquire their healthcare needs amidst current partial lockdowns. Identify these people in your neighbourhood, sit down with them and help them order all their medicines online, set up doctor’s appointments virtually or take them to a nearby clinic for their routine medical check-ups. Ensure They Receive Day-To-Day Needs. In these times of widespread infectious disease, it is very important to eat healthily and take meals on time. During the day, check up on your neighbours with disabilities, to make sure they have ample groceries and foodstuffs stocked up in their homes, to avoid going out frequently. In case they find it difficult to do so, go ahead and help them purchase their essential supplies online, ensure it gets delivered to their homes and their caretakers, house help is present every day to cook meals and provide them with nourishing food A poor treatment and a negative comment can affect their self-esteem, confidence, performance at work place and push them into further depression. Treat our fellow human beings the way we wish to be treated by others. Don't show unnecessary sympathy and dramas to make them feel they are very different from us. Source of Article - https://www.netmeds.com/health-library/post/5-ways-you-can-support-the-differently-abled [https://www.netmeds.com/health-library/post/5-ways-you-can-support-the-differently-abled] Edited by AffyAvo April 23, 2022 to include source.
Eating disorders
Eating Disorder Support / by theadarsh
Last post
 May 21st, 2021
...See more It seemed that many of my fellow listeners weren't able to quite clearly understand what eating disorders are and how to diagnose. So here's my view of it. Have a read my friends. Eating disorders are mental health conditions marked by an obsession with food or body shape. They can affect anyone but are most prevalent among young women. The causes include: One of these is genetics. Twin and adoption studies involving twins who were separated at birth and adopted by different families provide some evidence that eating disorders may be hereditary. Personality traits are another cause. In particular, neuroticism, perfectionism, and impulsivity are three personality traits often linked to a higher risk of developing an eating disorder. Other potential causes include perceived pressures to be thin, cultural preferences for thinness, and exposure to media promoting such ideals. More recently, experts have proposed that differences in brain structure and biology may also play a role in the development of eating disorders. The different disorders include: 1. Anorexia nervosa Anorexia nervosa is likely the most well-known eating disorder.People with anorexia nervosa may limit their food intake or compensate for it through various purging behaviors. They have an intense fear of gaining weight, even when severely underweight. 2. Bulimia nervosa Bulimia nervosa is another well-known eating disorder.Like anorexia, bulimia tends to develop during adolescence and early adulthood and appears to be less common among men than women. People with bulimia nervosa eat large amounts of food in short periods of time, then purge. They fear gaining weight despite being at a normal weight. 3. Binge eating disorder Binge eating disorder is believed to be one of the most common eating disorders, especially in the United States.People with binge eating disorder regularly and uncontrollably consume large amounts of food in short periods of time. Unlike people with other eating disorders, they do not purge. 4. Pica Pica is another eating disorder that involves eating things that are not considered food.Individuals with pica tend to crave and eat non-food substances. This disorder may particularly affect children, pregnant women, and individuals with mental disabilities. 5. Rumination disorder Rumination disorder is another newly recognized eating disorder.It describes a condition in which a person regurgitates food they have previously chewed and swallowed, re-chews it, and then either re-swallows it or spits it out.Rumination disorder can affect people at all stages of life. People with the condition generally regurgitate the food they’ve recently swallowed. Then, they chew it again and either swallow it or spit it out. 6. Avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder Avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID) is a new name for an old disorder.ARFID is an eating disorder that causes people to undereat. This is either due to a lack of interest in food or an intense distaste for how certain foods look, smell, or taste. If you have an eating disorder or know someone that might have one, seek help from a healthcare practitioner that specializes in eating disorders or connect to the listener specified in that area. Understand your problem and know what's in you. Don't jump into conclusions! Eat healthy stay fit! 💕
To all the fantastic listeners here
Newbie Hub / by theadarsh
Last post
 May 23rd, 2021
...See more I'm pretty sure that we have a whole bunch of amazing quality listeners out here. If not for this app, i wouldn't have acquainted with this wonderful community. Listing my thoughts to be a more better listener. 1. BE FULLY IN THE MOMENT. When someone is speaking it is vitally important to be fully present and in the moment with them. If something else is on your mind, like a call you have to make, or a text you need to answer, let them know, do what you need to do, and when you are finished let them know you are ready to listen. 2. PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES. Whether you agree with the speaker or even have an interest in what they have to say, what they are saying is important to them. Imagine yourself in their situation, wanting only to have someone listen to them. When they are speaking, make an effort to think of where they are coming from and why. Imagine what their life is like and what struggles they might be facing. People will appreciate that you made the effort to understand and really hear them. 3. PICK UP KEY POINTS AND LET THE SPEAKER KNOW YOU DID. Many people have trouble focusing on what someone is saying especially if they speak for longer than a minute or so. It is easy for our attention to drift to something else that we might find more interesting. If that’s the case, try to pick up a few key points in the conversation. After they finish talking, let them know that you heard them by mentioning the key points you heard them say and ask them to clarify anything that you did not understand. You will be forgiven for not being able to follow the whole conversation if the person talking believes that you made an honest effort. 4. PRACTICE ACTIVE LISTENING. Most people are thinking of how they are going to reply when someone is talking. Instead of doing that, try to focus completely on what the person is saying. Pretend that you will be tested on how much of what they were saying you heard and understood. A good exercise to practice is to sit down with a family member or a good friend and practice simply giving feedback to them of what you heard them say. You will notice that it gets much easier to focus on their words when you aren’t worrying about how you will respond. 5. DEVELOP CURIOSITY, AN OPEN MIND, AND A DESIRE FOR CONTINUOUS GROWTH. People who are naturally curious see conversations as learning opportunities. They are always looking to discover or learn something new and see everyone they talk to as having the potential to teach them something. They are open to the idea that their own way of seeing things may not be the only, or necessarily the best, way and don’t feel the need to always defend their own point of view or way of seeing the world. Ch
With love to all my brothers and sisters.
Depression Support / by theadarsh
Last post
 May 21st, 2021
...See more Issues such as peer pressure, academic expectations and changing bodies can bring a lot of ups and downs for teens. But for some teens, the lows are more than just temporary feelings — they're a symptom of depression. Teen depression isn't a weakness or something that can be overcome with willpower — it can have serious consequences and requires long-term treatment. For most teens, depression symptoms ease with treatment such as medication, psychological counseling and connecting with people like us who are waiting to lend our ears. Symptoms: Be alert for emotional changes, such as: Feelings of sadness, which can include crying spells for no apparent reason Frustration or feelings of anger, even over small matters Feeling hopeless or empty Irritable or annoyed mood Loss of interest or pleasure in usual activities Loss of interest in, or conflict with, family and friends Low self-esteem Feelings of worthlessness or guilt Fixation on past failures or exaggerated self-blame or self-criticism Extreme sensitivity to rejection or failure, and the need for excessive reassurance Trouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions and remembering things Ongoing sense that life and the future are grim and bleak Frequent thoughts of death, dying or suicide Well it's completely normal and if any of guys undergoes any of these just connect one of us here. Don't seek temporary enjoyment in alcohol and other misleading drugs. We're all here to make you better. With love 💕
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Good listener and understanding guy
Good listner patient
Kindness does exist and theadarsh is the right example. Thanks for hearing it out and for the help. Keep spreading happiness and be blessed with everything! :)
Great listener!...Thanks Adarsh for listening so patiently. I am feeling better.....😊❤
Wonderful experience!
Listens nicely
very good listener
New user with 7 Cups. First had questions about Direct Messaging Listeners. They were very patient when I miss worded a question. Then asked for clarification. Then I was “spot on” with understanding how listeners give their time to support others .
He is so understanding and a great listener! 10/10 recommend
Amazing! They listened properly and I’m grateful
Great lovely person
Best listener!!! Extremely polite, kind, patient, professional and wonderful person. Made me feel really comfortable and important. Wish world had more people like this listener.
He is an awesome listener, instant feel good with the chat
Super warm, amazing and positive listener
He's a kind and patient listener. Has a lighthearted approach to conversations.
Great listener, understands the situation like pro.
A very engaged listener who stuck it out with me until I felt heard and tons better than when I had arrived to chat.. Also used appropriate humor. Wise soul.
Very good listener, truly helped and would love to connect again when needed. Highly recommend him!
He is really nice and a good listener
He is so good, I enjoyed talking with him Thanks Adarsh 🤗
such a great chat
very helpful, kind, patient, and positive!
good listener the session was okay
Very helpful and kind listener
Very good . He made me realise things I was not sure I would have been able to realise it
He is a great listener and advisor. My mood lifted up after I talked to him. Thanks:)
Very patient, generous and responsive. I'm glad I found the right listener just at the right time. Highly recommend.
A very involved listener having a positive energy. Also cracks jokes. Great to talk to!
Great personality. Good listener
Keeping it simple: Such an awwwwesome guy!!! Just loved the session!! I would highly recommend this person...
Good response. Listening well, reacting well
Nice listener and geniune friend
Good conversation
Boosted my confidence and a wonderful listener!
good listener and advicer.
Friendly listener
a good listener
Nice person and Adarsh is a great listener .
fun and friendly
Awesome listener
Easy to talk with and really listens and helps just like a friend
Patient and genuine listner. Had a good experience.
He is actually a nice person to talk to and also, honest. I am happy that I met a good listener. Thank you for everything
This is a nice person I am willing to talk
Very nice and supportive. Decent input.
The best listener ever
Awesome awesome awesome!! Adarsh was super awesome!! He was kind, friendly and funny as well! Thanks a lot, Adarsh!! 💗
Adarsh is such a great listener. He was so sweet the whole conversation. He didn't judge me at all. It was really nice.
He let me finish my vent
listening from heart
He or she really did help, I wasn’t expecting wise words that were that wise
He was a good listener and did try greatly to help me although there was a language barrier so I struggled to understand sometimes.
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