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thebrundlefly
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Broke up with girlfriend of 2.5 years. Will I get over it.
Relationship Stress / by thebrundlefly
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 January 29th, 2018
...See more Just over a month ago, before christmas I broke up with my girlfriend after 2.5 years. We are both 22 years old. We met in the most beautiful setting and had the most amazingly dreamlike first year or so. I remember things getting questionable for me around the year and a half mark. Up until that point I was so in love I didn't want to do anything but be with her. Even though I kept myself busy both socially and academically - I went out a lot with my friends and studied alone most of the week - we spent a lot of time together but not too much. The right amount. After the 1 and half year mark I began having doubts about what I wanted for the future, I knew she intensely wanted marriage and children and although that was a while off (She wanted to wait 5 years or so) It was so ingrained in her prospective life that I guess it made me question if I'd ever want that. Over the next few months she became increasingly possessive, needy, jealous and would often get upset if i chose to spend time with my friends over seeing her. She would sometimes call me while I would be out angry or jealous and suspicious about who I was with. This never improved. Over time I knew that even though I loved her (and we really have a lot in common) I found myself often questioning whether I wanted to be with her, I would talk to my friends about it often and say that I didn't see it lasting another year. Eventually Christmas came around and I couldn't contain my doubts. I felt so anxious that I had to break it off. Anyway I've found myself doubting my decisions and more importantly really regretting them, I feel like despite of her problems she really was perfect for me and i never gave her the chance to improve. We've slept with eachother since, She wanted to again but I said it would be wrong and I stopped it from happening. We've been messaging eachother on and off but i've been quite blunt and have tried the no contact rule. she percists though and uses tactics such as telling me there is something important to talk about or that she is anxious about an exam and needs to talk to me about it. What I really want to know is whether or not the feelings of doubt and regret are because of our contact with eachother or because I really do love her and want to be with her. It's been a month Is this a normaly amount of time to be grieving a relationship when you did the dumping?? Will I be okay?
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