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Number of ratings57 Number of reviews38 Listens toTeens & Over 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceJan 17, 2018 Last activein last week GenderMale PathStep 6,034 People helped126 Chats541 Group support chats80 Listener group chats181 Forum posts738 Forum upvotes2,842
Bio

hi, i'm tommy.

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a little bit about me  
i'm an early 20s career driven, lowercase obsessed and 7 cups enthusiast from england. i am most passionate about creating a safe and inclusive space for people to express themselves. unfortunately, i am not taking on member chat requests right now. please connect with another listener here 🎈
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my roles @ 7 cups
ambassador
as communities/forum ambassador, i oversee leadership applications, engagement and moderation across the forums. do you need an update on your application or have you got a question about using the forums? drop me a message!

safety patrol team leader
i help co-lead the safety patrol and safety patrol outreach teams. let me know if you see an inappropriate profile or would like info on joining the team!

misc
i am also involved in several other projects across the site, so please do not hesitate to reach out if you have any questions!
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Recent forum posts
Expanded Forum Guidelines: 13. Artificial Intelligence
7 Cups Leadership / by tommy
Last post
 April 12th
...See more This post is a part of our series on expanded forum guidelines [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SafetyKnowledgeat7Cups_181/CommunityGuidelines_1374/ExpandedForumGuidelinesMasterpost_167937/] to help all users better understand the purpose of each guideline and for forum moderators to understand appropriate behavior and review examples of this rule in action. My post was edited/deleted for using artificial intelligence. What does that mean? 13. The excessive use of artificial intelligence when creating forum content is not allowed. This includes the use of other software and using content from other sites without citing the original author or creator.  Purpose of rule: to ensure 7 Cups remains authentic and supportive to all users whilst maintaining genuine connection and human touch. Examples: content which is generated, copied and pasted from artificial intelligence software (e.g. chatGPT), content which is copied directly from other sites (e.g. articles), content which has had no input from the poster. Explanation: artificial intelligence can be an excellent supplement to support your forum content but cannot be used as a replacement. Relying on AI to do all the work for you will hinder personal growth, reduce critical thinking skills, and can make information harder to absorb and retain. Appropriate Action: the content will be removed and the poster will be notified via private message. You may decide to repost the thread discussion/topic in your own words. If you believe a forum moderator has edited or deleted your post in error, you can email forum@7cups.com and we will investigate. Clarification / top tips: • Moderators may use AI checking software to check the authenticity of content. If it is found that the content is not authentic, it will be removed.  • Moderators may check all content posted by individuals and compare to determine whether the content being posted is authentic. • Content which lacks human or personal touch may be recommended back to you for editing. • Where AI software or other content is being used to supplement your forum content, please cite the source appropriately. • Community Mentors are available to offer guidance to all community users on using AI to create content.  • Making multiple threads and producing lots of content at once may be a cause for concern. We want to give everyone the same opportunity for their posts to be seen so please focus on one topic at a time. • If you’re making a thread with lots of detailed content, put it all into one thread. This will help greatly with reducing the likelihood of forum flooding and will enable other community users to find and engage with your content easily. You can find some other helpful tips here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/disabilities/CommunitySpace_227/AIGuidelinesforDisabilitySupportCommunity_326180/].
March 2024 Forum Discussions Spotlight
Site Updates / by tommy
Last post
 March 31st
...See more March 2024 Forum Discussion Spotlight The forum is filled with opportunities for personal growth with so many community users devoting time and energy into raising awareness and providing discussions on a variety of different subjects and topics. We want to spotlight these discussions more widely so that the entire community has opportunity to involve themselves in what the forum has to offer.  Please find below just a glimpse of the discussions which have taken place over the last month: * Multiple Sclerosis Awareness Month [https://www.7cups.com/forum/disabilities/ArticlesResourcesConditionSpecificInformation_458/MSAwarenessMonth_324835/] | Learn about MS [https://www.7cups.com/forum/disabilities/ArticlesResourcesConditionSpecificInformation_458/InterviewDiariesGrabaCuppaandLearnaboutMultipleSclerosis_325500/] * Dissociative Identity Disorder Awareness Day [https://www.7cups.com/forum/trauma/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/DIDAwarenessDay2024_324989/] * Easter Celebrations [https://www.7cups.com/forum/religion/General_2605/HappyEaster2024_326394/] * International Day of Happiness [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/InternationalDayofHappinessMarch20th_325959/] * Epilepsy Awareness [https://www.7cups.com/forum/disabilities/WeeklyCheckin_1053/WeeklyCheckInMarch26April2nd_326220/] * Cerebral Palsy Awareness [https://www.7cups.com/forum/disabilities/ArticlesResourcesConditionSpecificInformation_458/ComeandLearnAboutCerebralPalsy_325813/] | Living with Cerebral Palsy [https://www.7cups.com/forum/disabilities/DisabilityDiary_2664/InterviewDiariesLivingwithCerebralPalsy_326155/] PM me if you think I have missed any off! 🔗 Links * Do you want to join our taglist so you are notified of the next discussion spotlight? Click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7cupsleadership/ProjectsEvents_2399/ForumEventsAutomatedTaglist_316255/]! * Do you have a thread which you've recently posted that you feel could be highlighted in our next monthly spotlight? Let us know about it here [https://forms.gle/wGWYW4izzS2Ukrrq6]!
7 Cups Safety Discussions Masterpost
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by tommy
Last post
 March 4th
...See more 7 Cups Safety Discussions We are devoted to supporting you on your 7 Cups journey and will continue to provide unique opportunities to equip you with the necessary skills to develop yourself as a user of our wonderful community.  Please know that we are here to support you. Alternatively, use the below links to learn more about a variety of 7 Cups safety topics: ➡ How do I report an inappropriate profile? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/VSafetyPatrol_1685/HowdoIreportaninappropriateprofile_324281/] ➡ What makes a good profile picture? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionProfilePictures_320000/] ➡ What makes a good username? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionUsernames_320519/] ➡ What makes a good bio? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionBioBasics_321561/] ➡ What are the dangers of offsite contact? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionOffsiteContact_321057/] ➡ How do I ensure my bio does not indicate offsite contact? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionBiosOffsiteContact_322043/] ➡ When can I share YouTube links? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionYouTubeLinks_323427/] ➡ How can I handle unsafe situations as a listener? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionHandlingUnsafeSituationsasaListener_324801/] ➡ What is spam / advertising? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionSpamAdvertisinginBios_322477/] ➡ Why should we not solicit money? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionSolicitingMoney_322945/] ➡ How to support a member feeling unsafe? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionSupportingaMemberFeelingUnsafe_323883/] ➡ Boundaries during member-listener chats [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionBoundariesduringMemberListenerChats_325218/] ➡ Using your photo as your profile picture [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionUsingYourPhotoasYourProfilePicture_325667/] ➡  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionUsingYourPhotoasYourProfilePicture_325667/]Clicking on links shared in rooms [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyForumDiscussions_2662/SafetyDiscussionClickingonLinksSharedinRooms_326071/] [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionBoundariesduringMemberListenerChats_325218/] [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyDiscussionSupportingaMemberFeelingUnsafe_323883/] ------------------------- Other Links • Click here to join our safety discussion taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/VSafetyPatrol_1685/SafetyDiscussionsAutomatedTaglist_324820/] • 7 Cups Safety Leaders [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/General_2450/SafetyLeadersAcross7Cups_309284/]
Safety Discussions Automated Taglist
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by tommy
Last post
 Friday
...See more Welcome to the Safety Discussions Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply to this thread and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on future safety discussions led by the safety team ✔ Learn and discuss about keeping yourself and others safe on 7 Cups ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist @lovingRainbows2088 @CalmRosebud @MydogLiz8 @iloveyouxx
How do I report an inappropriate profile?
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by tommy
Last post
 February 24th
...See more How do I report an inappropriate profile? Please note: this is only when you notice a profile with an inappropriate username, profile picture or bio. For reports or sharing concerns on a users conduct or behaviour in PMs, chatrooms or forums, please utilise the help desk [https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/requests/new].  When would I need to report an inappropriate profile? • All profiles must abide by the community guidelines [https://www.7cups.com/community-guidelines/]. The safety patrol team are on hand to deal with any profiles which need to be rectified. • If you notice a profile picture is inappropriate (e.g. shirtless/sexual/graphic/triggering). • If you notice a profile's username is graphic, sexual, offensive or otherwise inappropriate. • If you notice a profile's bio is unprofessional, graphic/triggering, sharing personal information or otherwise inappropriate.  If you are unsure about whether or not a profile is inappropriate, it is best to pass it over to a Safety Patrol member for them to review and check its appropriateness. Please note: the safety patrol team member will make an independent judgement and take appropriate action. If you feel the profile has not been effectively handled, you are free to reach out to a team leader (@tommy [http://www.7cups.com/@tommy] or @Rebekah [http://www.7cups.com/@tommy]).  How do I report an inappropriate profile? • Visit the Teen Listeners [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=k2VowHPgmMxSy5k%21](Teens) or Listener Support Room [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=k2dmeXmbkuJO42uXh1iY] (Adults) and ask for a member of Safety Patrol (commonly referred to as SP). Members, you may request support from someone within the Teen Community Room [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lWpldX2VmJydlLBuV1fGxg%21%21] (Teens) or Member Community Room [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mGNkenecl-JO45ebV1nF] (Adults). Please do not share the username you are concerned about in the group chat room, instead PM the safety patroller once they have identified themselves to you.  • Find an active safety patroller by visiting this link [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=405] (please note that this is only a list of listener trained safety patrollers and does not include member SPs), you can then directly PM them and make them aware of the profile.  • Contact an online ambassador [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=70] or the on duty community moderator (the community moderator can be found in the group chat rooms or find their schedule here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/CommunityModeratorsLounge_2143/CommunityModSchedule_318786/]) • Complete the non-safety patrol report form [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeGECC4E9NeQzQp2Skspwu6VQBJfMYB2Ag-Btm93DN5w0vh8A/viewform] (this takes a little longer for us to action so preference goes to one of the above options if possible).  I received a message or email from 7 Cups telling me my profile is inappropriate. Can you help? We can definitely support you with correcting your profile so that it abides by the community guidelines! Please reach out to @tommy [http://www.7cups.com/@tommy] or @Rebekah [http://www.7cups.com/@tommy] for assistance.  Additional Resources • Safety at 7 Cups [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/Safetyat7Cupsinformationprotocolandresources_202422/] • 7 Cups Safety Leaders [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/General_2450/SafetyLeadersAcross7Cups_309284/]
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Feedback & Reviews
I like the fact that Tommy keeps checking in on me. I think that is very nice and supportive. Tommy seems to really care about us and that just makes my day😊
Tommy is a kind, caring and compassionate listener. He is transparent about his availability and works hard to provide a safe environment for me to vent and express myself. I'm so happy I stumbled across his profile as without him these past few months would have been tricky!
very proficient and replied promptly. Thanks
Tommy is an amazing listener! So thankful for him
Extremely good at listening to me talk about my issues and very sympathetic
great listener, very sweet, helpful
very considerate, nice, helpful
very informative and insightful
Tommy is an awesome listener. Really kind, thoughtful and keeps the conversation flowing nicely. Also has a really cute picture!
tommy was amazing, thank you
really helpful and supportive
great listener, very helpful
It was a really helpful chat, he asks all the right questions and is so understanding. Thank you Tommy :)
Simply the best! He is very polite and kind. He knows how to make you feel good and in a sense also safe. He listens carefully and asks the right questions. The wold needs people like you my friend.
Loved it! Awesome chat!
I had a great time speaking about the things that were bothering me. The listener was very compassionate about my situation, and very inderstanding about my fears. I felt like I was being heard by friend :)
Understanding and to the point!
Lovely listener! Feels nice talking, and they were able to match my energy!
Obs was very understanding and listened to me till the end!! Is very caring and non judgemental 😄Thank you so much for listening to me🌻💙 Take care of yourself 😇
Extremely kind and empathetic with zero judgment about your circumstances
Excellent, really quick at replying and kind.
Was a really good listener and was helpful. Someone I'd talk to again. Was a quick at replying.
Very good listener
Very good listener. He helped me.talk about what was bothering me and was very supportive.
He is just the best
Good listener. Talked for a long time. Non-judgemental.
Really lovely listener, asks open ended questions so conversation flows
He listened to my problem and tried to give good advice. All I wanted was to say what I felt to someone and he listened so now I feel better. Thank you
He seems very helpful! Listens pretty well.
Fast replying, empathetic in an unsoppy way. Nice to talk to. Thank you.
Tommy is an amazing lisiner, very welcoming and he made me feel more positive after a short conversation!
Great person to talk to! Really listens and makes you feel better
Really helpful
Amazing
you were amazing -amelia :)
I’m thankful for their help
AMAZING !! Best person I’ve spoken to in so long , really usekful . 100% recommend
Great guy, listens and treats others well, he doesn’t even know me and he still cares like a close friend. His reactions to things are just wonderful as well
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