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Grief & Loss Automated Taglist!
by tommy
Last post
 July 22nd
...See more Welcome to the Grief & Loss Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of 9 September (updated by @tommy) @azuladragon34 @Char1984 @CordialBeing @GentleCalmness @HealingTalk @Jaeteuk @LeonardoMarino @mish3l @mytwistedsoul @Sunisshiningandsoareyou @tommy
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Shared Experiences!♡
by Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Last post
 June 5th
...See more Hey hey, everyone coming across this post. I hope you're doing well. 💛 Grief and loss, is something I feel most of us have experienced in different forms, with varied intensity of emotions, thoughts and emotional reactions to it. As earth-shatteringly difficult it is to experience loss of some kind and do not even get me started on loss of a love one hehe (oh but I definitely will come here too💛), or cope with it, I feel something that remotely, I say remotely because I'm not much of the opinion that anything ever truly helps or fills the void in your life and the hole in your heart! (Much love to you if you feel the same and Kudos to you if you found something that helped you in any way💛). Again, I feel something that *remotely* helps is that we aren't alone in our experiences! It's not like "seeing someone else in pain makes you feel better about yours", more like "seeing someone feel what you do, say what you cannot and understand what you find incomprehensible somewhere, somehow, in whatever small quantity possible too, makes you feel *seen*, makes your pain feel seen, reminds you that what you experienced is 'worthy' of a reaction from you, also helps you understand your feelings better, because sometimes you're not even sure what to really call that 'sudden feeling of a big lump forming in your throat when you're sitting around people giggling and doing their thing' when everything feels 'okay' around you". (Apologies for getting carried away haha, I'm not proof-reading this one, and it's just something straight from my heart, hopefully to yours, typos included😅) Anyway, circling back again, what I find remotely helpful is the idea of shared experiences, of people connected in their grief! Which is why I love reflecting on how someone perceives loss and grief for them, hearing what they have to say about it too! Sometimes it's these shared experiences, heart felt words and raw emotions that remind me I'm not alone, and a lot of times, this is comforting to know! Going forward, I'd like to share some quotes I find comforting with the hope that anyone coming across them here can have a little "oh you see it too?" moment, knowing they aren't alone either and someone has had experienced something as they have and stood by to share it with the world also. The massive amount of courage it takes to talk about it, to relive all of it all over again, to be *brave* for comforting someone else! Most people may not even realise how inspiring they are! 💛 Please feel welcome to share any quotes you like that provide you comfort or reflect on any you see here also! 💛
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Grief Support Session Resumes!
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 January 6th, 2025
...See more Hello all,  I want to inform everyone that we'll have a Grief Support Session starting this Saturday, 19th of October, at 8.00 pm ET time zone in the Support Session group chat. All are invited to join and participate to explore & discuss the experiences and emotions related to grief. @CaringEzra will lead the sessions. Listeners who are experiencing grief are also welcome to join and participate from their member accounts. We look forward to seeing you there! Note: If anyone like to host some support sessions, please do send me a pm at @ASilentObserver Any and all help will be much appreciated. tagging some of the friends: @Jaeteuk, @Happy2Help18, @reallyoverallofit @jonghyunnie, @BlueDarkAurora, @mytwistedsoul 
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why
by azureMelon2174
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more I miss her so much. I even feel that I'm losing myself or that I already did
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Intense longing and grief
by goldenSummer9462
Last post
 6 hours ago
...See more during school i got this extremely caring teacher but i could never speak to him or go to him due to social anxiety and selective mutism and i despite graduating from school by two years now ,i still feels regret-type grief for that teacher and along with longing even now so much so that i sometimes pray to god to make me meet him,i scan streets all the way when outside then return disappointed when i don't meet him,then wish again and return disappointed again....he'd pop into my mind triggerless 24/7 regardless of my day or mood....i tried many techniques and exercises like unsent letters, logic, visualisation, etc but nothing helped at all [My background-:My mother left me when i was 3½ to my grandparents..... i used to cry as a 5 year old when my grandad would drop me to the kindergarten every morning really too much...so much that the even the teachers would need to tell my grandad to leave....i was like that every morning for months.....long after other kids had stopped crying ....even in grade I'd get late everyday for school as I'd not get up from bed just keep Lying beside my grandad pleading just 2 more minutes then he'd lovingly say now get up but I'd say another 2 minutes resulting in getting late . You know since my first day at kindergarten only i was almost completely silent which followed me through the very last day of school even....You know when i was 5 whenever my grandparents would take me the shops to buy chocolates,candies,etc. I'd never buy them even when i wanted to,even the shopkeeper would say surprisingly that he's never seen any kid like this, i would think that i must not waste my granddad's money…… I know you won't believe it,but i really thought i shall not waste his hard earned money....not knowing at that age he'd enough money....When in grade 1 he'd drop me to school or pick me back by his scooter ....on the whole way I'd worry about him hurting his legs silently, I'd watch his foot throughout the street,my grandad passed away when i was 10 then my mother returned on the next day of his passing with my younger siblings,during school i got this extremely caring teacher but i could never speak to him or go to him due to my difficulties with social interactions and i despite graduating from school by two years now ,i still feels regret-type grief for that teacher and along with longing even now so much so that i sometimes pray to god to make me meet him,i scan streets all the way when outside then return disappointed when i don't meet him,then wish again and return disappointed again.When i look deeper i feel Even if i said, thank you and sorry the longing would still remain, I just feel like," I want to see me just like used to during school"[COMMENTS AND SUGGESTIONS TO GET BETTWR ARE DEEPLY WELCOMED PARTICULARLY WHEN NOTHING I DO HELPS]
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New Here
by DaisyDovee
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hi! I don’t have any idea how community boards work here really, but- I’m trying to find more grief groups. I go to a weekly online text group therapy meeting, for people who went through the specific type of loss I did, but it isn’t enough. So I’m trying to just find more places and people that hold loss and grief in their hearts. Of any kind. Any type of loss is still loss, and the pain is all the same to a certain extent. I lost my baby girl. I don’t want to go into depth about it just yet, but it hurts. And I miss her. So.. I’m here! Nice to meet all of you <3
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Listening as therapy?
by willingBeach2301
Last post
 10 hours ago
...See more Does anyone ever feel like listening to others troubles and not talking about your own, is somehow more comforting??
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Recent loss
by decisiveStrings6149
Last post
 10 hours ago
...See more My grandmother just passed away from cancer and I just don’t know how to feel one minute I’m boo hoo crying the next minute I’m numb .Its like I know she isn’t in pain anymore but I still miss her every minute praying it gets easier so
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Grief
by honeyberry2809
Last post
 10 hours ago
...See more I am kinda lonely........ I miss my mom so much and i can't even talk to anyone about it because my father thinks i am strong but i feel so lonly after seeing my friends with their mothers
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My is dieing
by Merl2010
Last post
 10 hours ago
...See more My mum is terminally ill and I didn't know about her illness till it was to late as she didn't tell anyone and now I'm trying to care for her and the doctor says can't have any home carers un till she says she wants palliative care and I have no idea how to do the basic care she needs
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Grief feels like like dying
by oliveBlackberry2572
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more My parents are both gone now and I feel pieces of me died with them. Sometimes I think it was only the good pieces
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my sister passed last monday
by chickenriceandkale
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more my sister's weed was laced with fentanyl last monday and i'm not taking it well. her funeral is next friday and her mom asked if i wanted to speak, i do but idek know where to start. she had so much to live for, so much planned for her life. she would've turned 21 this december. i've dealt with loss in my life but not like this one. if theres any support groups or anything that you guys could recommend that would be great. i'm not great at really accepting help and let my sadness consume me sometimes, most of the time actually, and i know she wouldn't want this for me. i haven't gotten out of bed since it's happened besides to go to work. i'm a photographer and im so backed up on photos because i just don't have any motivation to do it. i just miss her. she was one of the only people in my life i didnt have to constantly worry about because i knew she was safe. i was supposed to see her the night before, she was gonna meet up with me and my parents to see the fireworks on the river. she never made it to the river that night and i got a text from her stepdad the next day. she had been struggling with her mental health for awhile but she had just told me a few weeks ago that when i told her suicide is selfish, it stuck with her. she was actively still fighting to be here and someone took that from her. idek where to start the healing process of this, i wouldn't with this on my worst enemy.
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Searching
by DaisyDovee
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I’m trying to find groups, or just people to talk to. I found one online group that talks once a week but it isn’t enough. I can’t afford anything, not even with insurance. No therapy, nothing like that. I know there’s listeners on here but they either don’t really do/understand my specific issue or they aren’t here for the long term. And I understand that long term care is more for therapists to do. But I just can’t do that. I’m trying to find more groups, more peers, just anything else to fill the gaps of time that I have nobody to relate to and talk to. I don’t know where to go. There’s nothing locally in person either to do. I’m just stuck, and it’s such a struggle to be alone. I want more help and don’t know where to find it to the extent/amount that I’m wanting and needing right now.
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I've just watched my mum die
by Merl2010
Last post
 Friday
...See more I have been I though I have been supporting my mum my whole life I am in my 40s and have not left home as she didn't want me to leave but the truth is now that she has gone I realise I was leaning or her just as much as she was me As she got older she wanted be to be away from her less and less and wanted to go with me everywhere and I used to get very annoyed and used to argue and she used to day she's not going to be around much longer I thought she was just saying that even asked her was there really anything wrong and she said she's fine But now after she has passed away I found out that she knew about her cancer and not told anyone till she couldn't hide it any longer and by that time it was to late to do anything to save her and didn't leave any time to make her remaining time special knowing this now makes more sense and I feel so guilty as if I had know I would given up anything She was my whole world and for the first time in my life I have the freedom to do anything but all I want to do is go back to how it was I don't know how I am going to cope
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I don't know what to do
by fermentedballoon
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more My entire life (I'm 38) I've only ever lost one person unexpectedly. A friend when I was in high school. The grandparents I had lost were expected deaths, I was very young for those except my grandmother who passed a few years ago, but we weren't very close. I guess I had been fortunate to have not had many experiences with loss.  But now, here I am trying to learn how to cope, to breathe, to live. My dad, my hero, took his own life on September 7, 2026. To say it was unexpected would be an understatement. My mom and I never saw this coming, despite his depression and medical issues...we would have never thought he was even contemplating taking his own life. After he died, we found posts in suicide support groups going back over a week, but he never even hinted it to my mom. They had a great day together, watched a movie, drank some wine in the evening and after she went to bed, he went for a gun.  I can't wrap my mind around it. How he could leave her, 42 years of marriage and they loved each other more than anything in the world. I can't understand how he could leave me, leave his grandsons....nothing makes sense to me.  My work put out an email a few weeks ago about suicide prevention month, I went and ordered a shirt and some pens and such, and I remember thinking how I didn't know what I should get because I had never been through this type of loss and wasn't sure what was too much etc. ... it was all delivered the day after he killed himself. And as crazy as it sounds I'm wondering if I somehow jinxed my own reality.  My dad was very vocal on ***, and I would often get his comments/posts on public forums on my own feed. I usually rolled my eyes because it was silly or political or pug-related lol. Why didn't I see his post on the support group? it was a public page and he posted on there Aug 29. So I'm left with more confusion and more anger because I could have done something....I could have helped, I could have tried.  I am so angry, and I am so broken. How do people do this?

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