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Number of ratings500 Number of reviews125 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceJan 5, 2014 Last activein last 6 months GenderMale PathStep 1,620 People helped688 Chats1,851 Group support chats1 Listener group chats1 Forum posts97 Forum upvotes255

Bio

Hello! I look forward to chatting. I’m someone who suffers from various things, and I like to help others with their suffering, if I can. Sometimes the only thing that makes sense is being there for someone else. I am able to understand those who travel alone in life. There is a type of person who does not often find a home in this world due to their hyper-vigilance and deep understanding through deep pain. These people are often exiled to the margins of society, and their intellect furthers serves to isolate them. People without affect, honest people, aware people. If you see it all you're in the right place. If you decide to message me, please be able to tell me about your issues. Please meet me halfway. I am a regular, hurting person volunteering my time.

Recent forum posts

Looking for friends

35 & Over Community / by tothesquare

November 9th, 2025

...See more Hello everyone, I am very motivated to make friends as I have none. A little about me: I am 38 and a man, and I am in touch with my feminine and childish sides. Making things and helping others are central in my life. Living for values such as truth, love, beauty, charity, etc., I feel out of place in this self-centered, materialistic world. I am an excellent friend because I am an excellent listener. I see people and I take time to sincerely learn about people, delving deeper into the things they share. This is something I have never really received in return. I fear I am one of those souls who ends up giving all of the time. Chances are you reading this can relate to that, and I'd like to hear from you if so. I will not cut you off, I will not make your things about me, I will not put you into any boxes. I write and record original music, paint and sell Hot Wheel theme cars, build dioramas, crochet, learn new things, do NYT crosswords, birdwatch, needlepoint, cook (mostly vegetarian), bake, write fiction, etc etc! I love philosophy, psychology, cookies, and animals. Sometimes I get down on the floor in the living room and play with toys. I'm not embarrassed by things like that. I am embarrassed by my moral failures. I am disabled and have a simple, stable life, and a lot of time to invest in new friends. I long to share my life with someone in a special way and I believe that person exists somewhere. I have a lot to give and look forward to talking with new people. Thank you for taking the time to read this, I am so isolated and this is a rather bold move on my part; I usually prefer to remain hidden.

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Feedback & Reviews

Awesome listener! The conversation with him was so good for my mental health

amazing, very understanding, great suggestions

Great listener

Empathetic listener.

Amazing listener - very kind, empathetic, patient and knows how to direct the conversation! I felt so much better after

Helped me make intuitive leaps like no other.

👍 listener

So far this person has really helped. It's felt very difficult to connect to people in the past because they didn't care enough or don't know how to connect with my thoughts like tothesquare has in minutes.

It was very helpfull

Excellent listener, intuitive and empathetic, patient and insightful. I had a very deep existential conversation that left me feeling extremely happy and hopeful!

Understanding and compassionate,asks good questions,thank you so much!

Second time I've spoken to ToTheSquare and I'm just so thankful that he exists. He asked the right questions to help me unfold my innermost feelings and gave me just the right amount of input/comment to help me see things in new ways. This is a listener who has respect for you and your own power to help yourself, and who wants to help you find it. Highly recommended :)

Extremely interesting

Try'im out.

whoever he or she was they did a good job listening to what I have to say. I thank he or she for that.

My listener was kind

Kind and insightful person; I feel so much better talking to this Listener

Thanks for listening and and helping me work through my problems. I felt like everything I said was being heard and that I was talking to someone who really cared about helping me.

Very thoughtful and understanding; good combination of listening and contributing.

He/she was really supportive and showing that it really cares about me

Thank you. You made me feel like I mattered.

All good

All I needed was somebody to listen..truly listen..thank you very much. You are a blessing!

This listener really understood my predicament and took time to understand what was going on. They are very compassionate and I would recommend this listener in a heart beat.

Thank you so much! :)

GOOD LISTENER!

Tothesquare was incredibly helpful and empathetic, my night was improved tenfold by their kindness. You go, tothesquare!

thank you, really impressed by your knowledge of and comfort with a mental illness

really nice and understanding, thank you

Thanks ... You are good...I love the way u talk

amazing, smart listener

This listener was amazingly empathetic and patient. Thank you, I really needed that.

Thank you :D

Amazing. I feel like i can share anything with you.

It's a blessing to meet you :)

Thanks for listening.

Actually cared about what I was going through. It felt nice.

They did put things in perspective for me. I appreciate their help.

This listener was very mature, helpful, and incredibly professional. Would recommend highly

He is a real professional!

Listener was polite and empathetic.

tothesqaure is kind and caring in his responses. I like his approach in dealing with confusing problems. Keep up the good work.

Very good listener, lead me to some insights with his attention.

Great listener, not judgmental...open minded and brave for sure! i guess everyone is dealing with his own problems and taking time for others is a great quality..thank again mate

Actually listens and understands. Thank you so much

Thoughtful and considerate responses.

Thank you for your thoughtful responses. It's really a gift to have someone truly listen.

Empathetic, Caring and Thoughtful. I enjoyed talking to 'tothesquare' and felt so much better afterwards. Thankyou.

Helped me feel better. Great guy.

He's so easy to talk to. Calming, mature, and empathetic. I felt like he genuinely cared about what I was telling him. He wants to help. Honestly, tothesquare is the best listener I've ever been connected to. Thank you so so much.

I believe he is helping me go somewhere in my current situation.

so helpful... really got what I was going through!

Honestly, in the years I was in therapy I never had a better connection with anyone.....He made it very easy to talk to him and did not patronize me at all..something I greatly appreciated

Very sweet and intellectual. Asks questions that make you think, and that is extremely helpful.

He's the best. I felt much better after speaking with him, much needed perspective

best listener i have come across, thank you so much

Very nice and patient

What a breath of fresh air! An hour of his time made me feel so heard, understood, and worthy of better days. He offered clarifying questions and insights along the way gently helping me adjust my thought patterns. The road I face already feels a little less bumpy and lonely, and I have him (and 7CupsOfTea) to thank for that.

Simply amazing. Highly recommended. I don't have words to describe how truly awesome you are.

One of the best listeners you will find here

He's a very good listener

Incredible!

Really great listener, very understanding and patient and gave me a lot of time to talk about my thoughts. Thanks!

tothesquare is a natural listener and conversationalist and made me feel safe in expressing myself. Much gratitude!

He is amazingly kind and profound in his thoughts. I feel like I am being heard. I feel so much better talking to him. I will definitely be seeking out his help again.

thanks a lot, u are very nice and smart

My favorite listener. Incredible.

I'm chatting with him right now as this popped up..I like him. He's very sympathetic and understanding....Johnny

Tothesquare is a very respectful and nice person. He gave me a lot of time, listened to my problems without judging, and gave me some very helpful strategies to deal with my problems. This was by far the most useful "online" conversation I've had for mental health support.

A beautiful, wise, and healing guide with profound insight.

Kind and understanding person, very thoughtful and empathetic. : )

Truly amazing to chat with! Everything I needed and wonderful advice!! Thank you :)

Firm and polite even though i threw him a lot of garbage!

The single most selfless, caring and understanding person I may have ever come across in real life or online. He is endlessly generous.

An intelligent and thoughtful listener who really takes the time to understand you. I felt completely respected and validated, and I appreciate that he offered his insight and wisdom rather than personal advice. Thank you, again!

Very helpful. I found him to be very supportive, respectful, and non-judgmental. Very kind, insightful and helpful. I write this note with a lot of gratitude.

tothesquare has been very understanding, empathic and approachable.

great listener. i am grateful he is here

great listener. very thankful that he is here

Absolute gold

This man really gets down to it and understands you

A great guy, who's really kind and understand. Thank you for time and patience

very good!

Great person to talk too

Great listener with awesome advice.

Tothesqaure is thoughtful, empathetic, and truly professional. A++++

Very caring, very warm, and very understanding. Thank you so much for always being there for me.

Very good listener. Offers advice and gently guides the conversation.

GOOD LISTENER!

Good

Very kind, helpful and understanding, and made me see what I could do about my situation

His replies were thoughtful. He seemed fully engaged and was encouraging. He also asked good questions. I would "see" him again.

Ask right question so I could form a good chain of thought

Very helpful and gives great advice!

Nice person... great listener

So insightful. I've very grateful for this listener!

So very thoughtful and kind. I extend my deepest gratitude to this listener.

tothesquare, you are great listener and displays an empathetic yet extremely neutral demeanor that makes me feel extremely safe to express my opinions without feeling coddled. Thank you so much for your time, and I feel so much better after processing out my jumbled thoughts with you.