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ADHD Fiance broke off our engagement by text when over medicated on Elvanse
ADHD Support / by turquoisePal8267
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 August 19th
...See more Me and my ADHD Fiancé had a great relationship and he proposed in Italy in July 2025 and was extremely serious about us. In April this year he started on 10mg of Elvanse/Vyvanse with a 10mg increase every few weeks. When first starting he was very irritable and started acting odd around me like he didnt really want to be with me and said he had doubts about marriage, when I asked him why he could not actually give any reason. This behaviour soon disappeared however and he was fine again, when he was on 30mg and then 40mg he was happy, content, very romantic, buying me flowers, excited to get married, was making future plans for us, and was talking about selling one of his cars to help fund Wedding costs. He then went up to 50mg and within 3 weeks his behaviour got weird. First he was very hyper and manic, and then started getting irrationally angry. One time he got really nasty with me for apparently talking too loud when I was talking in a completely normal tone of voice and he was so nasty I cried. This was massively out of character. He then started acting very odd like turning up 2 hours late for different things, and blowing money on random unneeded stuff. I got angry with the reckless spending as we were saving for a Wedding and I was very disappointed in him for being very aggressive and rude to his mum. After me and his mum calmed down with him, things seemed fine again. But 2 days later after whatsapping him a wedding venue to potentially view he sent a horrible message saying we aren't going through with the Wedding as committing to each other would be a mistake, and he ended everything by text. This was 7 weeks ago. He has acted so strange in that time. Sometimes saying he feels very bad for letting me down, and other times being extremely cold acting like I was the cause of everything wrong in his life and the relationship meant nothing. Hes returned my things and shut our joint account but was crying over it and wanting to hug. He has only given very vague weird contradictory ever changing excuses for ending it, and its so weird and confusing. Hes also said hes focusing on his own life and career because hes deserves to be in a better position at work and he was quite cocky about it. He also doesn't get why Im hurt saying Ill find peace with it all one day and Ill meet someone else. Its bizarre behaviour. He lowered the dose to 40mg 2 weeks ago and asked to meet for coffee next week. I really dont know what to make of it all. But the medication is the only explanation I can think of. 
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