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unique1one
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Relationship Stress / by unique1one
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 August 23rd, 2021
...See more My husband and I is coming up on our 2 year anniversary of being married. We’ve been together for 14 years every since high school. I am 32 and he’s 33. Our relationship has always been rocky, more on his end with a ton of cheating. He has cheated on me in our going together stage, but I feel it’s still happening in our marriage stage. When I get a hunch about something, it’s always spot on. Right before we got married, I found explicit sexual talk and actions on his smart watch with multiple women. I bet you are saying, if you saw this why did you get married?! I really wanted to give this relationship another Chance even after the million chances have already been given. I was naive and thought marriage will fix the situation. Yes stupid of me. fast forward a little bit, in July of this year. I’ve noticed my husband was still on this dating website where I’ve confronted him about before. He tells me he’s a people’s person and doesn’t mean anything by it. I’ve asked and told him not to be on it because it’s a huge slap in the face and by being on the dating app, you don’t respect me as a wife. Of course he does what he wants and continues on. lately I’ve been noticing strange cash app transactions to women names, women that are not in his friends or coworkers circle. This has been bothering me a lot lately and has made me become really cold to our relationship. It’s gotten bad, very bad. We hadn’t had sex since July. Even when we had sex, I did not enjoy it. I just laid there dead to the world. I don’t want enjoy this man/my husbands company anymore. I’ve poured my heart out to him for years and truly loved and cared for him. But no more! I can’t stand for him to touch me, or try to kiss me, or try to rub me. I don’t like him calling or texting me throughout the day and if he does I get extremely angry and annoyed to the point I want to just cry for being angry. please don’t judge me on this… so because I saw him on the dating app. I started talking to and seeing 2 guys. I know this isn’t ladylike and me wanting to do it because im furious with my husband. I just feel if he can continue to do it why not me. I am doing it only to flirt and have fun and to secretly get back at him. seriously. I know we need to seek marriage counseling or just to end this divorce. I feel my anger and resentment I’ve grown for my husband is not healthy. I feel that counseling at this point will do no good. This is only 1/3 of the problem. I haven’t even said anything about his spending Habits, bad credit, narcissistic and procrastinating ways, me having to File BR etc… what do you think about this situation?
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