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 September 8th, 2025
...See more Me and my LDB have been in a relationship for over 3 years, 3 years and 5 ish months. In the first 2 years and so i was always bare faced, not having to hide behind makeup or filters when we called. He thought I was beautiful and I thought the same, I didn't need to “hide” who I was. It was a privilege I never knew I had, to be care free about your appearance and be fully exposed to your partner without fear. However, 9 months ago in January I started to break out. It was nothing serious, just a few spots on my face that healed pretty quickly, I just dabbed some concelear on them and hoped they would go soon. However, weeks went by and slowly my acne got worse and worse. It was red, cystic and imflammed. I covered it, I thought it would be gone soon and I would only need to hide this from him for a couple weeks or so. Unfortunately I was wrong. I broke out like never before, there was and still is acne all around my chin, mouth, forehead and it is not average pimples. They are red and cystic and I suspect it to be due to my hormones and mild diet fixes. Im not here for acne advice, trust me I have heard it all. Im here to try find out how I am supposed to show him my absolutely imperfect skin full of red marks and active acne, my skin now to how he thinks it still looks like is completely unrecognisable. No doubt he would be shocked about how it truly looks. All he sees is bad lighting and caked concelear on our FaceTimes, my makeup skills are alright online but in real life the texture can not be hidden and this is why I need to be honest before we meet. It is bringing me so much stress hiding it from him, even so to ignoring his calls because I know I need to do a whole makeup routine before answering and it is truly tiring. I wish nothing more than for him to love me as I am but I dont want to lose him. I want him to still think I’m beautiful, he is all I have and want. I fear if he saw he would not mind finding someone better or maybe treat me differently. He did mention once even if I was ugly he wouldn’t mind because my personality is amazing, but how true is this? I hope I find the confidence or spec of courage to show him and not be absolutely terrified of his judgement, but I dont know if I can. It’s been 9 months. How long can I keep this up?..
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