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versatileYard2741
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Relationship Stress / by versatileYard2741
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 November 30th, 2021
...See more Some background: I am a very analytical person which has helped me tremendously in my software career. I've recently accepted a new position that I would classify as "dream job". Highly public company, project, and a new wave of tech I can guarantee changes the way we all operate daily. On my first day for this company I am browsing Reddit on a page dedicated to speculating the business strategy. Someone stated they got a new related t-shirt and wanted to show it off. My blood ran cold as the picture, at first glance, felt very, very familiar. It looked like my fiance in our room, on our bed. I asked her about it and received a level 10 response....very angry, almost fearful, and a fight lasting a month has ensued. Since that moment, I dug deep into my shame and the picture itself. I'm a software person at a new high-profile job with plenty of secrecy...maybe there's a message to decode? The picture would be very out of place on this subreddit and I was almost guaranteed to see it due to my involvement in that community. I've spent countless hours performing research into digital signal processing, software capture the flag games, and have come up with a few interesting anomalies but still no "getting the message". The only thing I have found in this research is confirmation of more similarities between "that girl" and "that room" and our room...including a few of my personal items. She asserts through all this that it is not her or our room. She also says she can't see what I see. I don't know what to think or do to feel better. We've started couples therapy and will be going to our own individual therapists shortly too. I fear the help from those services will have come only after all of my trust in my fiance has been destroyed. I don't understand what has happened or is happening. How can I rationalize this picture's meaning?
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