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Relationship Stress / by walker8891
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 September 25th, 2021
...See more I guess what i need help with is someone who can pick my mind and question me so i can try amd find another answer for my wife. It was a while that this had happened but it is coming back amd affecting me amd my wifes relationship now. She wants answers to something i had said and did back in decemeber. Me and wife had been talking about fwb relationships but never actually went through with it. But anyways, I had got feelings for one of my coworkers during that time and i shoved under the rug becuase it was a stupid little crush that meant nothing to me. The wife didnt find out until about 3 months ago and its been causing more fights than ever. Weve talked about it several times but it just keeps getting worse. And im not sure what to do anymore, I dont want to lose her becuase she is my everything. She just doesnt accept my answers of why i did it. They dont make sense to her or they dont add up. She has already told me she cant forgive and forget but that she needs my answer or shes leaving. In december we were fighting quite alot, probably several times a day, we werent in a good spot but we were working on getting back to being good. I told her i was feeling neglected and like i was just a burden in our relationship. But she wont take that as answer becasue she said she felt neglected for months that we didnt have sex and she never had the urges to go and get with someone else, but the moment i felt neglected i caught small feelings without any intention of trying to be with anyone else. Those feelings came and they went all within a week. I also told her that i was really starting to compare my self to her abusive ex girlfriend. For a while i felt my wife just hated me and wanted notging to do with me. It seemed that every time i tried to open my mouth we would fight. I know neither of those give me an excuse to catch feelings for someone else while i am married.
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