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My Wife has left me for her boss
Relationship Stress / by watchguy28
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 July 31st, 2021
...See more From day 1 of her new job, this guy was promising her a promotion and took her under his wing and personally trained her. She was talking about him every day and how nice he was. This was odd because she is quite shy. Then two weeks into her job she said that she hasn’t been happy with me in all the time we’ve been together (7 years) and wished she hadn’t married me…I was stunned! I’ve never met a person who’d showed me so much love and was even proud of me. We have had our ups and downs but more ‘ups’ I thought. So she went to her folks house for ‘space’ and in 2 days she missed me and came back. In the next two weeks she just got colder and colder, and distant…I figured out that she was probably having feelings for her boss. And she admitted to it, so she left and went back to her folks, it’s been a week and 5 out of the 7 days she’s visited me and told me she loved me and gave me a nice hug and kiss. So today I asked her if she missed me, loved me and if she would consider trying family therapy? She said she did miss and love me, but still wants space and to continue seeing her boss, but claims theirs no sex, which I could care less about, I just want her back. The thing is, is this guy smokes weed and so does she and she’s always wanted me to do that with her, but I just don’t enjoy it. It seems like theirs drugs involved too. She is a former Meth addict who has been clean for 9 years except one slip up. This guy has adderall and other things he’s into and is well known for it. I didn’t give her an ultimatum, I just said we should at least give it a try again or we probably need to have no contact. It’s killing me because she’s giving me such mixed messages, or is she just so guilty about cheating (physical or emotionally cheating is about the same I suppose?) that she won’t give me a straight answer? She gets upset when I talk…keeps saying I’m making her feel bad and guilty. I’ve actually started seeing a therapist over it. I’m British in the USA and work from home and have no friends. I’m going to find a job just to have human contact, the anxiety is overwhelming! I sound like a ‘Mark’ or a ‘Soft touch’ as they say in Scotland :( weird situation! I guess I don’t need advice, because it’s probably obvious this dude has his hooks in her with weed and pills, I’m just venting I suppose. Just suffering tonight. It’s actually my first post too…
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