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Lost feelings, left at the hotel
Relationship Stress / by wintertales12
Last post
 December 6th, 2021
...See more There was a guy a worked with for 2 years and he tried anything to show me he liked me and he cared for me. I liked the attention but was honest that I don't really feel the same way. We started talking every day, with him being really close to me. He asked me out on multiple occasions and I finally said okay. We had great time together but I didn't want to be with anyone from work bc I cannot separate the two things. He got a new offer from abroad and that's when I became more open and started liking him. After 3 weeks he came back and we had a day together, it was really lovely he said he had waited for this for 2 yrs. He moved back to London and he started being abrupt. He told me he is not good w the distance but assured me that his feelings for me didn't change. I really trusted him and knew he would be honest to me bc that was our policy and he spent so much time and effort to be around me. I told him it's okay if he wants to cut contact or if he found someone else etc. but he didn't even wanted to hear about it. After a month I visited him (this Tuesday). We both were looking forward to it, had planned it etc. We had dinner and walked to the hotel. He started kissing me and after some time he stood up and he said he didn't have feelings for me, he thought things would change when he sees me but it didn't and he had slept with someone from work already. I was SHOCKED. Didn't know what to do, he asked me to leave, I refused and wanted an explanation to process this, didn't expect it at all. Eventually I left and he never even asked me how I feel afterwards. I texted him he ignored and was watching my IG stories but then blocked me. I feel so heartbroken and listless, he just acted like he never cared about me at all. I want to talk to him but it looks like he hates me and he won't pick up and will probably block me off everything. What should I do?
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Left in a hotel room
Relationship Stress / by wintertales12
Last post
 December 5th, 2021
...See more Hi all, My manager tried really hard to be liked by me for almost 2 years. He was very kind, understanding and eventually we started talking every day. He showed me he cared about me, we shared a lot with each other and he constantly tried to show me he had feelings for me. I was honest that told me I am not sure about mine. Fast forward to 2 months back, we had gone to few dates, he got an offer from abroad and we kissed before he left. He came back after 3 weeks and we actually had a great time and I shared my feelings. He went back and we kept contact but he seemed abrupt (I told him we can cut contact bc of the distance or if his feelings changed). He kept reassuring me, that's just him but his feelings for me didn't change, we talked for hours and all seemed fine. We had promised that no matter what we will always be honest to each other and after SO long I genuinely trusted him. After another 4 weeks I went to visit him (this Tuesday, we had planned this and he was looking forwardto it) and we had dinner then walked to his hotel. He started kissing me, we hugged for a bit and then he stood up and said he hadn't been honest towards me, he lost feelings and he thought seeing me would change that but it didn't, he had slept from someone from work and kissed someone else as well. I was shocked. Couldn't believe it. He wanted me to leave. It seemed like he couldn't stand me, the person who was so kind and caring wasn't there. I spent the night in another room and woke up feeling very sad and disappointed. But he didn't even try to check up on me, not once. He didn't even care about me as a person? I tried to tell him I felt bad and later during the day texted him that I feel better and hope he does too. No reply. Few days past and he blocked me off social media and just seems to be hating me. I am left with all the questions and am crying for days but it just doesn't seem to get better. I don't understand how did this happen, how did I deserve it and why did he just disappear after so much effort and time. I don't know what to do, if anyone has advice it is welcome.
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