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wrenrainygardens
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I accidentally outed my crush :(
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by wrenrainygardens
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 May 15th, 2025
...See more There's this girl I like, and recently I found out she likes me back. We haven't talked about it or anything, but I went to a choir concert of hers recently and decided to buy her flowers. She seemed happy about it, but apparently her parents (who are Mormon and homophobic) saw me give them to her. She felt like she couldn't lie to them, so they now know she's queer and have said some pretty awful things from what I've heard. It feels like this is my fault. I didn't know they'd be there, but I knew she was closeted and I should have checked. Our mutual friend said she seemed more frustrated than anything, and I worry she's upset with me or doesn't like me anymore because of this. We haven't seen each other or talked since then. I know how awful it is to not come out on your own terms, and idk I just feel horrible. Any help/advice?
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Fellow Pokemon Lovers!
TV & Movies / by wrenrainygardens
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 July 9th, 2024
...See more Anyone else who loves Pokemon (whether it be the TV show, the movies, the videogames, cards, etc.) What's you guys' favorite Pokemon/videogame in the series? I'm curious and I'd love to know :)
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Lesbian crush, anxiety, and also I'm ace????
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by wrenrainygardens
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 November 25th, 2023
...See more So there's a lot of factors in this so I'm sorry if this is long.  I was assigned female at birth (they/she) and still partially identify as such, and my current crush is a girl. I know that she is bisexual due to a sticker, and we've complimented each other back and forth, but my anxiety is so severe that I can't bring myself to see if we can even be friends or try to get her number. It closes up my throat and I can't talk to her. I have a lot of reasons for anxiety around this.  Firstly, I'm asexual. I still have romantic feelings but I always have this fear that no one is ever going to want to be in a relationship with me or understand that. I don't know how she'd feel about that; I'm sure as a friend she'd be accepting, but in a relationship, I don't know.  Secondly, I've never had a crush this strong before. I really have the desire to be with her, but I've never been in a relationship and I have no idea what I'm supposed to do. I'm really afraid of rejection. And then there's the topic of my family; my close family is trying their best, they know I've liked both girls and guys before. They don't know I'm asexual, and they think I'm unlabeled. They're all mormon, so I know they're just praying I settle with a guy. (Despite the fact I prefer women, I'm omniromantic) They would not approve of me in a wlw relationship, and my extended family would be horrible to come out to; they'd never accept it. If I got in a relationship with her, it's more than likely I'd have to not tell them for a while.  I don't know how to overcome my anxiety, and part of me wants to just give up and wait for this to fade. But I really would like to at least try. Any advice or ideas?
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