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xKatie
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Number of ratings31 Number of reviews30 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish, Dutch Listener sinceMay 1, 2019 Last activein last week GenderFemale PathStep 98 People helped158 Chats612 Group support chats3 Listener group chats14 Forum posts38 Forum upvotes117
Bio

hey there!


I'm glad you have found me on seven cups!

A little bit about myself.


I'm 25 years old and from The Netherlands.



My motivation to listen to members in spite of having my own problems is that I am trying to make a positive impact on the world in my limited lifetime and trying to positively influence someone's life while i'm at it.

chatting
I "specialize" in topics relating to violence.. be it mental, physical, domestic or sexual.
I'm also well versed in a plethora of other topics and i'm not a half bad person to just spend some time with to take your mind off of things for a while.

Regardless of the topic, we'll take it at -your- pace.
It's okay if you're not ready to talk about certain things just yet.

Ready to chat?
Don't hesitate to send me a message!

Note:


A lot of the time i'm set on busy, it's possible to leave me a message but do note i pick the most urgent ones out of them.


So please refrain from leaving me messages just saying "hi".


~You may be a drop in the ocean, but your ripple will carry for miles~


Recent forum posts
Covid, Disinformation and conspiracies (Yay!)
Depression Support / by xKatie
Last post
 November 8th, 2021
...See more As with anything i write... Little disclaimer: I'm just putting my thoughts out there and i'm easily distracted. So if i tell a story by telling 5 sidestories first...That's what's going on :) tldr: Don't try to silence a subject, any subject. So... i know what you're thinking. Sid, We've been dealing with this situation for well over a year now, We're tired of anything to do with covid. Okay...Yeah, fair. Me too. But hear me out. So, here's the situation. I live in the Netherlands, and now that there is a vaccine, it's not mandatory to get...but it kinda is. There's this little QR code we need to show at the door of just about any public place and there's all but signs hanging out in the streets saying "prohibited for the unvaccinated". Now, it's not -that- dramatic just yet but there is another thing going on here. The spread of articles on social media has lead to a vast amount of disinformation and halve truths being picked up on by....anyone that will listen. This on it's own leads to conspiracy theories and....well. It turns out i've got three people like that in the family. Now, the common opinion and the new laws that are being created every other week are impacting all of us, conspiracy theorists included. But the division that's being created...It's ripping families apart. So here's a situation i have to deal with about a weekly basis: I come home to my mother and stepfather, We're having a family dinner. Someone asks me about my medical treatment and how it's going....I evade every question because i'm not about to get punched in the gut by a slew of unwanted advice. Then they ask me about some other small things they've asked me about a million times before...they get the same answer. Now with that out of the way we'd usually be in for a good evening until we all go home. But lately, every time this subject sneaks in: Covid. Now...I don't get my stubborness from any old person...i get it from my mother...As does my sister, who believes in conspiracy theories. And that, that's the crutch of the evening. At some point this covid discussion pops up. And there we go ,right, my stepdad and I get caught in the crossfire in a discussion between an unstoppable force and an immovable object. Not for long though, At some point the two will decide to just silence the subject alltogether and just try to get along without voicing their opinions, concerns, beliefs... And that... That's what's driving the wedge in between us all. My sister, she feels like she can't talk about the things that bother her most, she can't vent. My mother, She feels like her opinion is right and feels like my sister is a fool for believing in those conspiracies in the first place. Enter: Aunt and uncle. They too believe in conspiracies. From 5G to nanobots, Total government control, brainwashing and mind slavery. The thing that bothers me the most about this? It's the fact that they get so worked up in telling their stories because they automatically think i'm about to say they're full of it. They're so unaccustomed to people listening without judgement or prejudice that they come out guns blazing. So what do you do with it right? Like...How do you put out that unexthinghuisable fire? Well...You don't, i think. I think instead of trying to change something or the way someone thinks... It's best to just, listen. Let them vent and tell them ,in a way that doesn't make them feel stupid, that you assume they've done their research (well) and that you'd like to see it. Because honestly, nothing is less productive than a conversation going like this: "Open your eyes, Do your own research!" -"You're blind! you can't see what's real if i presented it to you!". Instead i just like to take the passenger seat and see what their research is all about. And hey...If the sources don't check out, i just tell her that this is likely not to be the truth even if it's a story she wants to believe. Yeah, maybe she'll react poorly, maybe ignore me for a week... But at least she's able to talk about her feelings, her experience...and while i can't speak for her...i think she can appreciate that i listen with very little judgement. Example... I had my uncle tell me that the virus has never been isolated, that scientists were just copy/pasting the model they have received from the scientists in Wuhan. I told him: Okay, I think that's unlikely but if you say so i assume you've done your research. What did he come up with? An article that was supporting his statement...The person that wrote the article...Eh...yeah that was a dentist who presumably had a little too much time on his hands. The next day i've found the whole genome online, including the names of all the researchers attached to all the articles...But i haven't used this. This research of my own is just to get the story straight for myself. Because i don't care if anyone in the discussion is right or wrong... I just don't want them to feel unheard, unloved or unwanted. So...While i can type a whole novel about my own experiences with life around the coronavirus and living in a family where it's regular practice to just be at each others throats over a subject or just silence it instead... I'll spare you that. I think this whole post is long enough as-is. That is, assuming you guys haven't quit reading this post halfway through :) I feel like it's just about time that we started to change the way we look and listen to conspiracy theorists. If we can listen without judgement, Reply without defending or offending, yet be assertive, and respect each other as the people we know each other to be... We can spare a whole lot of hurt feelings. ...Because the effects of anything to do with the coronavirus are much more disabling (mentally) than the virus itself. (hence me posting it in the depression forum) ...Because at the end of the day...My sister is still my sister and my mother is still my mother. Neither of their morals, values, beliefs nor integrity are in question for me. I love them just the way they are, conspiracy or no conspiracy.
Questions listeners can answer.
Site Updates / by xKatie
Last post
 April 22nd, 2020
...See more Okay...one very simple problem. Solve the following problem: 4+2=.... Now do it with a minimum of 150 characters and a 100 words. W...What, really?!...Seven cups...what the heck? If an answer to a question is simple....Why do you require us to make it needlessly complicated? Those word requirements are absolutely pointless and are better off in the trash bin. That's all folks Love, Sidney
"I blind my eyes and try to force it all into place" (moderation)
Site Updates / by xKatie
Last post
 February 24th, 2020
...See more Lately i have been getting increasingly agitated by the moderation system that seven cups handles. Much like other aspects of 7cups *Coughs* the app *Coughs* it's terminally flawed. Now, this points system is all good and well...On paper. But much like any engineer could agree...Theoretical plans only work in theory and they tend to break under every day practical use. The system has lead to a lot of genuine listeners being put on mandatory self care...And lets admit it guys, it's just a very fancy way of saying "You're banned". These genuine listeners often don't come back and often get replaced by piss-poor listeners that listeners and members alike have been complaining about. Also this system doesn't work for those kind (read: piss poor kind) of listeners since they just make a new account when they get banned, they don't care what you throw at them since even an IP ban will not be able to keep them from messing this site up. and to drag that whole 'listeners not coming back'-thing out a bit...It's for good reason! Because of this point system 7 cups is now doing everything they humanly can to add insult to injury. One bad run in with a peer supporter? No problem! Have a warning. Get instructed to deliver feedback on said supporter by a mod since you had a seriously bad experience? No problem! Have your arse banned. One instance will earn you a multitude of points and often lead to a temporary ban. And it shouldn't. There is enough sensorship around 7 cups as is. One should not be afraid to say something wrong and face the ban hammer for it. But here we are. And i'm struggling not to make references to certain dictatorship lead countries where fear has the upper hand. Obviously, I have got some first hand experience with it. But it has also happened to a couple of my friends who are way further up the ladder than i am. Like i said, This moderation system looks good on paper but it does not account to human factors and that is where it fails. A fundemental flaw since all we have here at cups are human factors. the only factors that are non human are noni and that annoying therapy request chat bot that pops up in your chat list for no reason whatsoever. (like i said. flawed on a multitude of levels) And this moderation system wouldn't be the only fundemental flaw of seven cups that i have talked about. So seven cups...Where is the improvement? Cause so far you have been blinding your eyes and trying to force it all into place. Even when it's obvious you're hemorraging good genuine listeners and replenishing it with poison. Now as per usual...i'm just writing my heart out so my apoloogies if it's an order that doesn't make any sense all. That's all folks! Love, Sidney. "I blind my eyes and try to force it all into place", Metallica, That was just your life.
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Nice.
Amazing, kind hearted. Wonderful, caring, patient. Understanding, accepting, can't say enough good things about Sidney, thanks for everything again!
Very Polite Very Honest six stars ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
She’s kind and warm
Very kind and really helpful to talk to.
I liked talking to her.
She helped my figure out what i have to do
Amazing. Connected well
She is funny and kind. She is nice.
The best listener I’ve ever talked to! Helped me with my girlfriend and made me feel so loved and comfortable, truly a good person and was so understanding.
Intuitive, thoughtful and compassionate, with speedy and well thought out responses. A very good and effective listener, she made me feel entirely at ease, was non-judgmental. I would highly recommend.
Really seemed to listen
Very kind and compassionate listener that tries to understand your situation, thanks for the chat!
very sweet and understanding. helped me a lot
Very attentive and kind. Provided a good distraction for me, which is exactly what I needed.
Understands, and doesnt make me feel crazy
Very helpful, patiently listening to me for hours.
Extremely helpful and friendly! Super easy to talk to!
Really great at talking me though my difficulties. I was glad that she was sympathetic and diligent as a listener. She went above and beyond!
xSidney was incredibly kind, patient and understanding and spent quite a long time talking to me. I am incredibly grateful to have met her.
A very skilled listener who can help you look at things from a different perspective. Generally fun to talk to, has her fair share of humor and makes you feel comfortable. Can speak from experience too, which helps her relate to you. Most definitely reccomended!
Amazing and very relatable. She really opened my eyes to certain things I needed to see but was able to relate to my situation as well. She is an amazing woman!!
Shes very sweet and kind
really very good. super smart. direct.
Shes super nice and friendly
Super awesome and understanding listener.
I loved our chat. She really got me to think about the situation.
amazingly compassionate and supportive listener who is generous with their time
very nice and understandning
Quick and great listening
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