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A good idea is to consider what form of support you would like in the first place - we have plenty of options to explore and one of the best ways is to give them a try to find out what works for you. We understand that different people have different needs and preferences. All these support services are appropriate for different situations.

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There are several other ways you can find someone to talk to at 7 Cups. These include the group chats and subcommunities. We are glad you are taking the first step towards support!

Our group chat rooms are online chat rooms that serve as different support groups where you can send text messages 24/7. We are a global community with people from all over the world. Some chat rooms include the Sharing Circle room, which is a non-judgemental safe space based on the traditions of AA and similar support groups. This space can prove helpful if you need a group of people to talk to who can listen and get to know you over a long time. Sharing your feelings and experiences as well as listening to those of others can help feel supported. You can expand your support network and make online supportive friends and connections!

On the other hand, if you would like to interact with people and talk to someone over forums, we have dedicated subcommunities for over 45+ topics covering a wide range of mental illness support topics through various sub-forums. Our subcommunities provide support, awareness, events, as well as opportunities to participate in light-hearted icebreakers.

Apart from the above mentioned mental health services at 7 Cups, we have affordable therapy options allowing you to seek online therapy for mental health problems with an online therapist, licensed psychologist, and other mental health professionals. This support is affordable as compared to other online and offline services or other options like support through insurance companies. Therapists are also available to talk to throughout the week on working days.

While our community can help support you after you have lost someone else to suicide, 7 Cups is not to be used in the state of active/passive suicidal thoughts - for such cases, please visit helpful resources such as the Samaritans or National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. For a complete list of helpful resources, click here.

If you would like to gain further insight and helpful information about different mental health topics, you can visit our Community Questions and Answers pages, or read our Expert Mental Health News and Advice articles. Other main features you can explore include our self-help guides and growth paths based on treatment protocols available for free!

The bottom line is, you are never alone - 7 Cups is a community aiming to provide compassion on a global scale. There are various ways to talk to someone at 7 Cups. These include 1-on-1 conversations based on active listening and support through trained listeners, group chats with support discussions and Sharing Circles, and the subcommunity forums. Other features that you may find helpful include the growth paths, community questions and answers, as well as expert advice sections.

Brightheart993

Epitome 5
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
Hi there! Welcome to my profile I'm Brightheart, but you’re welcome to call me Bright or Kara.I’m from Canada and am 22 years old. I love helping people and will create a safe, welcoming, judgement free environment where we can discuss anything troubling you or anything that is on your mind. I also love having casual chats where I get to know all the people in the wonderful 7Cups community. I am proud to be both an adult and teen listener. In my free time I love to workout, organize, read, sing, draw, and watch TV. Colours of Availability: Green: I'm online and currently taking new chats. Feel free to message me and I will respond shortly. Orange: I'm online, but I may be busy with other members or listeners right now. Feel free to leave me a message, and I will respond when I am free. Red: I'm currently offline or unable to take chats right now. Feel free to leave me a message, and I will reply the next time I am online. Topics I Specialize In Casual Chats I provide a friendly, safe place to laugh, have fun, and be supported. LGBTQ+ I can help you learn about different orientations, support self-discovery, and help those who are feeling unsupported. Student Life I can assist with time management tips, tips for developing successful study behaviours, and provide support and ideas for self care. Exercise Motivation I can help you discover and create various exercise plans, assist in staying motivated, and provide information about healthy choices. Weight Management I can support you in learning about and developing food plans, help you gain knowledge, and provide tips to promote self care.   Members: Welcome to 7cups, I’m so glad you came across my page! It can be really challenging to open up to someone, but know that you’re not alone and that I will never judge you. I may not be able to fix what you’re going through, but I will support you and be a friend to you through it all. I’ll happily chat with you whether you are looking for a casual chat or long-term listener. Feel free to message me anytime, I will respond as soon as possible.   Listeners: This site is full of many wonderful listeners. Thank you all for your amazing efforts and time spent on this site helping create an amazing and welcoming environment for all! If you have any questions, please send me a message, I’d be happy to answer them.  Projects and Teams New Listener Welcome I support new listeners, provide assistance and resources, and answer questions. New Member Welcome I help new members, answer questions, and provide resources and assistance. Long Term Members I build connections with members, create bonds, and provide continuing support. During the first chat with a long-term member, we develop boundaries, as well determine the best type and frequency of support required. Listener Friends @comfortableTruth52  -  my best friend in the world 💙@Yendi  -  fantastical friend and 7cups sista ❄@AnyaS  -  my amazingly-awesome dancing twinny 💃@juniperstarfish1  -  best sidekick anyone could have 🌠@Zammn  -  I love you all ❤@LovingSoul93  -  my British friend 🎊@brilliantshoe  -  amazing friend and listener 🎆@me  -  great Canadian twinny and friend 🐧@ItsDev  -  potato buddy 🌈@iAmJustAnAspiringScientist  -  funny, caring, wonderful friend 🚀 @Risenoutofash  -  amazing listener friend ✨@EthEthos  -  my SMH buddy 🎇@Lucy  -  funny friendo 🍂@Zee22  -  beautiful fwend 🌸@Olala18  -  pOLA-bear 🐻@imjustlikeyouSDK  -  some things are better left unknown 🎉@PerceptiveNightmare(╭☞ ๏ ͜ʖ ๏ )╭☞ AND A SHOUTOUT FOR YOU ☀@Tco  -   my long lost nerdy twin from ‘Murica 🌮@PositiveCookie22  -   bestie 😺 @optimisticMagic0014  -   my magical friend ✨@MarissaHope  -   a wonderful listener 💯 @Kutless  -   a super nice listener buddy ☀️@RiverHudson1  -   River is da bomb 💣@anonymouslistener23  -   brings fun to every room 👀@WatermelonTurtle7  -   amazing listener buddy 🐢@LexIris  -   friendly, caring listener 🦋 @helpfulArrow6093  -   my horror movie twin 👻Member Buddy @Syd113  -   kind, caring, funny friend
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10214
Canada

Gozzil

Guru 6
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
Welcome to my profile. I am Gozzil, also known as Gozz, Gozzy, Gozzilla etc. My pronouns are she/her. I only take scheduled member chats, please message me if you would like to set up a time to talk.  I have the following roles on 7 Cups: Support Team Leader (Sharing Circle, 12pm-6pm ET) Chatroom Moderator/ Discussion Leader (Positivity & Gratitude, weekly discusion Wednesday 10am ET Global Moderator Doorkeeper"I like to envision the whole world as a jigsaw puzzle with all the pieces of the puzzle scattered all over the place. If you look at the whole picture it is overwhelming and terrifying, but if you work on your little part of the jigsaw and know that people all over the world are working on their little bits of it, that’s what will give you hope." - Dr. Jane Goodall
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646
United Kingdom

musicalHarmony

Proficient 11
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
        Hey there, thanks for stopping by my profile 💜 If I am online, feel free to send a message, if I'm not online please browse for other listeners here.I'm glad you found me. My job here is to listen and support. Some members only want to be listened to, others want to discuss. Whatever is best for you is fine and we'll figure it out as we go.Please note: Inappropriate language or topics are not accepted. I will warn with a maximum of three times and then block.I have experience from anxiety, trauma, panic attacks, insomnia and know it can be overwhelming at times. Just leave a message and I'll get back to you as soon as possible.7 Cups InvolvementVerified ListenerFamily & Caregiver Support Chatroom Moderator50+ Chatroom ModeratorNewbie Hub Room SupporterListener Discussions HostCare Team Guide Peer SupporterDoorkeeperAdult Teen listenerQuality Mentor"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that" (Martin Luther King jr).   My listener twins   Destiny00Wonderful and caringPuzichkinCatCompassionate and empathicOptimisticDay8079Helpful and inspiringSherEnergetic and inspirational
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1325
Sweden

tranquilbear14

Sage 10
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
Currently not taking personal requests#HopeForHappyFeet Hello! I'm a caribbean bear willing to hear and be here for you when you need it. Don't be afraid to reach out. Feel free to check out the topics I am comfortable listening to! Thanks for coming here and giving yourself the opportunity to be heard. 🌿Listeners🌿As a quality mentor and forum mentor (for Family & Caregivers and Listener learning & Journey) I am able to guide you throughout your listener journey, do practice mock chats with you and offer relevant resources for you to learn about the site! I can also help you with any concerns you may have regarding the forums, specifically in the subcommunities mentioned above.    🌿About me🌿 I enjoy tacos, watching movies and writing.  I also enjoy interacting with nature and I have a passion for helping people.  My favorite color is turquoise and I like sunflowers!                                                                            Please note I don't take chats about: Sexual health, financial stress, depression, self harm, addiction ,parenting, eating disorders, domestic violence, self-esteem🌿Some Quotes I like🌿What's broken can be mended, what's hurt can be healed. No matter how dark it gets, the sun's gonna rise again -Meredith GreyNot all who wander are lost - J.R.R. Tolkien 🌿 My roles in 7 cups🌿Listener sharing circle leaderListener sharing circle recruitment team leaderChatroom mentorSafety patrol member Quality mentorForum mentor/Community mentor (Family & Caregivers and Listener learning & Journey)Translating team (Spanish) Group Moderator (Member Hangout room) Chat supporter/ Peer supporter AL1 and AL4 grader: You can check AL1 updates here and AL4 updates here DoorkeeperAdult teen listenerListener twinsCompetentparadise6344   
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409
Dominican Republic

Sher217

Connoisseur 2
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
Please read before sending chat requests: I could use a lot of words to tell you who I AM. A friend shared this link with me that says it best! (I Love you my friend, just as you are ) I want to dance on this stage!!  I want to sing this out loud and proud!  (I identify with the girl with pink hair)   THIS IS ME  We all need to be heard; If you need to talk; I will listen with in boundaries:  I try to limit my session to under one hour (to avoid become burned out).  I try to be a positive and proactive person.   I don’t give advice but will try to help you find your own solutions. I don’t engage in sexual or sexual abuse topics. If you are in crisis please contact the resources in the following link: https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/articles/360026238093-Crisis** I ask from you ** I don’t waste your time by not being fully present (I don't multitask). I ask the same from you. I don’t juggle multiple chats or chat rooms while I’m 1 on 1 with you. I ask the same from you. I don't reply to "Hey, Hi, Yo, etc" from new requests. If you would like to talk with me, please let me know what you want to talk about.I use Eastern Time in the USA (GMT -4) for Eastern Daylight Time  You will usually find me around Cups during the weekdays. Often, I may be here but be unable to chat due to the roles I engage in.I’m offline weekends. Please don't expect a reply from Friday after noon until after I check in on Monday mornings.My Twin (and better half)musicalHarmonyOur Friendship SongThings I do in General: Group Mod for Newbie Hub Doorkeeper Peer Supporter Project Agent (Safety Awareness Team) ATL for teens and other related Projects AEF TeamFor the Support Plus Team: Forum Supporter Project Agent (Forums) STL (Suppport Team Leader)  Community Mentor Leader  
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346
United States

MoonlightPrimrose

Advanced 2
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
- Due to the COVID19 Crisis and self-quarantining I've decided to use my time to rediscover the platform and my love for listening. I hope I can support you through these difficult times :) -  Hey!Great that you found me here on 7cups. My screenname here is MoonlightPrimrose, but you can call me Vic or Ellis if you want. My pronouns are they/them and he/him.I'm currently starting a career in the film industry, I love great images, stories, light, movement and cameras as well as working on set, with as many interesting people as possible. Apart from pursuing film like nothing else ever before, I like to draw, sew for my LARP characters, play DnD, game, eat good food and bullet journal from time to time. I am also very queer. I use a lot of different words and labels to describe myself, depending on people and situations in my life. Some of them are: trans*, non-binary, masculine-of-center, greyromantic, or simply queer.Feeling alone, overwhelmed or sad is something I know, but I also know how much it helps to just talk to someone... It's not always a solution to every single problem, but it's often a relief to know that there are people out there who care for you and who know what you are going through. I experienced some struggles with bullying, school and family stress, anxiety, coming out and other issues of queer (gender) identity myself so I might be able to relate to some feelings you have and help you deal with them.Just send a message if you need to talk about something. I'm currently only available on weekends for scheduled chats, but feel free to leave me a message at any time and we can figure something out that works for both of us!  Never forget: You are not alone. You don't have to do this alone. It's no shame to ask for help. #AlwaysKeepFightingAs you might have noticed: I'm from Germany and German is my native language. So if there are fellow Germans out there who want to talk, schreibt mir einfach, dann können wir natürlich auch Deutsch reden :)- Vic - 
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593
Germany

Anomalia

Pinnacle 2
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
New job at work has me traveling more, plus life events mean that I'll be away a bit more over time.  Trying to keep on top of PMs, but apologies if my responses are delayed! My availability varies based on work meetings, but generally I can schedule one hour live chat appointments Monday-Thursday during the day (10am-6pm Eastern) and will try to respond to messages within 24-48 hours, with slower times on weekends as I do not typically log in here Friday-Sunday much.  -------------------------------------------------------------------------  Hi all, I'm glad you've found my profile here! I truly love to listen and help others, and am particularly versed in eating disorders, work stress, and sexual assault, though happy to discuss anything, including sexual issues / sexuality. If you feel like you could use some extra support or help working through a problem, please reach out! You can start a chat with me if I'm online or to message me if I'm not and we can set up a time. I'm in the US in Central Time and somewhat flexible during the day Monday-Thursday. I'm hard to catch sometimes, so plan to set up an appointment with me.  I'm also open to messaging back and forth not live, but more frequently, if that's preferable for you. If you see me in the forums, you'll know I have a few favorite quotes around recovery and strength that I throw around all the time, so I'll share them here, too. "You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think" "Never forget you are worth more than the value you place on yourself." "Every day might not be a good day but there is good in every day." Much love to all, Anomalia
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6973
United States

RarelyCharlie

Epitome 3
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
On a Break I am on a self-care break. No live chats. If we have chatted before, feel free to message me, but I might not be able to respond quickly.
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6124
United Kingdom

jennysunrise8

Pinnacle 8
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
Hi my names jenny and im an adult and teen listener here im in my 40s married and have three children who are all adults now ~ I really do enjoy talking to people of all ages who are dealing with a lot of different situations i just ask that you know what you want to talk about and not just message me and ask me what i want to talk about :) im fine with casual conversation but you should take the lead and you can take all the time you need when it comes to saying whats on your mind im ok with waiting and dont expect quick replies or every question i ask to be answered ~ If im in online mode you can always expect an immediate response and live chat (any listener on green should be responding to you immediately) and if im in offline mode i might not be able to have a live chat right away but just leave a message and i will respond when i can ~ also you can always tell me how you feel misunderstandings and hurt feelings can happen very easily with text only communication and its never my intention so please just let me know if your upset about anything The Unwelcome Party Guest - an Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) MetaphorI have many different interests and am open to talking about almost anything however above all else i believe in communication and honesty between people and will let you know right away if its a topic that I cant support you with im very interested in and try to practice mindfulness every day and absolutely believe that the way to change your reality and take control of your life is to think about and question your thoughts the producers of all emotions and behavior our misery or happiness and ultimately our life there is nothing more important to your well being than to become aware of and take control over thoughts although i know very well that for some of us this is a bigger challenge than for others but dont give up and allow your thoughts to prevent you from having a life you deserveDemons on the boat - an Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) Metaphorif your feeling stuck in your life right now I would love to help you to identify and move past the internal and external blocks that keep you from moving forward ~ we can all choose to do something different at any time outside of the established habits and routines that weve created for ourselves you choose when and how but change is definately possible its never too late and you can do it ! so if thats something that your interested in working on its definately something that im interested in helping you with ~ we carry the possibility of change with us everywhere all the time and also the power to make it happen there is nothing more life changing than becoming aware of your thoughts and actions and having hope so don't give up your life can get better ~ but if you just want to vent about something going on in your life you can do that too :)Passengers On A Bus - an Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) MetaphorTiny Habits - free program to easily add new habits into your life and not dependent on motivation so if you have depression this can really help you get unstuck (also a growth path here on 7cups)  https://tinyhabits.com/program/   to sign up for a tiny habits coach for free  https://bjfogg.typeform.com/to/QXc0WJscience based games and activities to increase happiness and decrease anxiety free app download or use website  https://www.happify.com/the many ways sunlight affects the brain  https://greatist.com/health/sunshine-and-depression#the-sun-and-our-brains7cups student and career support  https://www.7cups.com/home/students/  free tutoring 24/7 and college counseling!  https://upchieve.org/students  free math tutoring live zoom sessions sun-thurs 5-9pm  https://bit.ly/3dxVm84increase dopamine levels naturally  https://bit.ly/2rBH4fEfind free mental health services  https://bit.ly/2KpgZKQfree depression workbook and self help modules  https://bit.ly/36Riahsstart getting control over your thoughts today  http://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/abcde.htmovercome your defeatist mindset  https://bit.ly/2RQg2Aido you feel like your life is out of control? instead of trying to control food or other things that are harmful to you here are some better things that you can control right now  https://bit.ly/2G2N1dB7cups series on managing thoughts and emotions  https://bit.ly/2Bdx00dovercome your panic attacks  http://bit.ly/2SQoUXk *http://bit.ly/2E3BeZIfree course a life of happiness and fulfillment  https://www.coursera.org/learn/happiness7 simple habits that will change your life Simplify/Give/Meditate/Follow the wise/Accept Mindfulness as a way of life/Embrace change/Live in the Moment   https://bit.ly/35mjLc78 tips for overcoming social anxiety  https://bit.ly/3j6kHYBfeel better *right now* by using association  https://bit.ly/2P7LfyWIf your serious about committing suicide im so glad that your wanting to talk to someone but you need to know that 7cups is not a place for crisis counseling but in the US 24/7 you can call 1-800-273-8255 (in UK call 116 123) and a trained crisis counselor can talk to you and we can talk later if its an emergency please call 911 or emergency number for your country we have no way to directly connect you with any emergency serviceshttps://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/articles/360026242213-Non-Crisis-Suicidal-ThoughtsCrisis Text Line - Specialized crisis counselors free, confidential 24/7 support line they will also give support if your scared hurt frustrated or upset and to further protect your privacy messages do not appear on a phone bill. 24/7 online chat with trained crisis counselors IMAlive http://www.imalive.orgLifeline (US zip code to enter chat) http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/Childline (under 18) https://www.childline.ie/Veterans (or friends and family) https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/TrevorChat https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/National Runaway Safeline 24/7 anonymous - call, chat, email, forum, text  https://www.1800runaway.org/international online crisis chathttps://www.suicidestop.com/suicide_prevention_chat_international.htmlhttps://suicideprevention.wikia.org/wiki/Online(UK) call text or walk-in no referral  https://www.samaritans.org/branchesInternational and US state suicide hotlines  https://www.befrienders.org/if your not in crisis but just want to talk with a kind person on the phone for free you can call a warmline  http://warmline.orgdomestic abuse resourceshttps://www.thehotline.org/http://queenbeeing.com/get-help-domestic-violence-emergency-resources/https://www.childline.ie/https://www.rainn.org/news/rainns-new-app-offers-support-anytime-anywherea lot of great articles and resources on this amazing website Lifehack  https://bit.ly/2J75bK2Using interrogative self talk instead of positive affirmations that you do not believe  https://bit.ly/2JmHwIPOvercome your fears and enjoy life  https://bit.ly/2hyF02oHow to trick your mind out of avoiding https://bit.ly/2EPxwaQ https://bit.ly/34FjYaHfree procrastination workbook and self help modules  https://bit.ly/2GOcU3e3 ways to keep fear from controlling your life and stealing your future  https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/236465Progressive Muscle Relaxationhttps://youtu.be/f7I2Upk5jqI * https://youtu.be/ihO02wUzgkcInterrogative self talk  https://bit.ly/2J120rn * https://bit.ly/2kBpl40How to break a habit ~ hack the habit loop  https://bit.ly/2AnhrE9How to deal with negative self talk  https://youtu.be/h5iZ6ntDlHk10 nutrients that can combat depression and boost mood: calcium, chromium, folate, iron, magnesium, omega-3 fatty acids, Vitamin B6, Vitamin B12, Vitamin D and zinc                                        Systematic Desensitization to become free of triggers that cause panic attacks and phobias  http://bit.ly/2yUhPbg         great website everything related to SD including a free ebook  http://web.csulb.edu/~tstevens/Desensit.htm                                     Activities and distractions to ride out the urge to self harm (or distract yourself from any intrusive thoughts)  https://bit.ly/2QrUusi    why self harm substitutes do not work - Substitute behaviors only make people want to self-injure more and leads to increased depression - substitute behaviors are not alternative behaviors  https://www.talkspace.com/blog/time-retire-self-harm-alternatives/TIP skills for self harmhttps://liberomagazine.com/depression/coping-self-harm-urges/TIP has been proven to be a highly effective method in helping people who self harm in a variety of ways it works by suddenly altering your physical state and this very quickly changes your emotional state using temperature, intense exercize, paced breathing and progressive muscle relaxationT Temperature. Have you heard of the mammalian dive reflex? Try leaning over a sink or surface and then placing cold water, ice or a cold pack over the temples, eyes and upper nose region for ~30 seconds. This divelike stance then triggers a reflex that occurs in nature when mammals submerge in cold water. Think back to the last time you dove into a cold pool at the start of summer you may recall the sensation of slowly cutting through the water with your arms, and a feeling of slowed time as you drifted up toward the surface. As we dive face first into cold water, our heart rate slows and our breathing regulates as the body prepares to conserve energy for survival. We have engaged our parasympathetic nervous system and experience a calming effect. So next time you feel highly activated, distressed, upset, angry think T for temperature and try running cold water on your forearms, taking a hot or cold shower, chewing on ice or just holding an ice cube in your hand. When we briefly change our temperature, we ground ourselves.I  Intense exercise. brief bursts of exercise can be helpful in the grounding process. Think of this process as using up some of the energy that may be fueling high-energy emotions like anger or anxiety. When in a low-energy state (e.g. feeling, down, depressed, lethargic) getting the heart rate up will invigorate the individual. important to note that exercise can be a highly sensitive issue for those who struggle with eating disorders. If youre at a place in your treatment where you need to limit exercise, it would make more sense to try the T or P and P skills.P Paced breathing allows us to activate our parasympathetic nervous system as we regulate and slow our breath. With paced breathing we breathe deeply into our lungs and diaphragm. As we slow the pace of our in-breaths and out-breaths, we may achieve 5-6 thoughtful breaths per minute. Some people refer to deep breathing as having a pill in your pocket. In other words, breathing is a highly accessible skill available to you at all times no matter where you are and one that can be very effective to calm and steady you when emotion is riding high.P Progressive Muscle Relaxation is paired with paced breathing. With paced breathing we tense and relax muscle groups throughout the body to promote a relaxing effect. If you are feeling extreme emotion, you may try mindfully tensing all of your muscle groups at once and then dropping your weight back into the ground or into your chair. As you travel from head to toe engaging all of your muscle groups or one area at a time, pay close attention to the sensationshttps://columbuspark.com/2018/04/23/easily-accessible-effective-tip-distress-tolerance-skills/great visuals that help with breathing during panic attacks https://dailyburn.com/life/lifestyle/stressed-gifs-breathing-exercises/7cups discussion on dealing with panic attacks  https://bit.ly/2MomF978 hour talk down with gentle rain sounds  https://youtu.be/4i53B-y_i2oTechniques and tips therapists use to help with intrusive thoughts (including memories)Allow the thought to happen  Intrusive thoughts become more distressing the more we try to make them stop. The act of trying to stop them actually makes them more readily available in our brains and thus they are likely to return. Allowing the thought to happen allows it to run its course and as distressing as it may be it will come and it will go. Using self-talk to coach your way through the process is key. "Here is the thought im not going to focus on it, im going to let it pass." This can help that thought carry less weight.Find yourself a mantra  This can be a word or a phrase it doesn't matter what it is as long as it resonates with you. When you start to feel/hear that onset of intrusive thoughts repeat it to yourself in your head. The idea is to redirect from those negative thoughts by putting something positive and repetitive on top directing your attention.Remind yourself that they are just thoughts  Thoughts themselves don't have any power. By remembering that a thought itself cannot hurt you, you are more likely to let the thought exist without altering your behavior. Intrusive thoughts are distressing because you believe them. Remember, just because you think it, doesn't mean it's true. It's totally natural to have these kinds of thoughts, but remember that these thoughts come from the past and have yet to prove that they represent the truth today we need evidence before we believe what other people tell us and we should do the same with our thoughts.Imagine that the intrusive thought is a thing or person or animal  It can be anything a bird or insect (that you can visualize swatting away or spraying!) a grey cloud or maybe a tiny cartoon character (and you can visualize the thought from the cartoon character in a cartoon bubble) Perhaps it's a 5 year old kid in the backseat nagging for your attention or a little green blob or a little Donald Trump having a tantrum you can try different things even if it's silly separating yourself from it can be incredibly powerful.Say thanks  Can you imagine how different it might be if you say "Yes that's nice - but I'm not interested in that now" vs "Go away I'm so sick of you!"  Pretty different huh? So "talk" to the thoughts: 'I see you thought, you are OK, I love you, but I'm not listening to you." This technique shows both self-love and compassion for the way your brain works. Love and compassion can be critical to mitigating tough feelings of distress.Refocus  Perhaps a crossword or something to fidget with or even just something that smells nice! Try to engage mentally in something else intrusive thoughts often come to us when our brains are quiet, or when they are over-taxed and stressed. When there is nothing going on or too much going on the intrusive thoughts are triggered. By finding an activity that fully engulfs our concentration, the thoughts often move to the background. Music, movies, a conversation with someone, a sport, hobby, or activity can engage our brain in something else. Refocusing can be quite calming and even potentially healing.Grounding and mindfulness exercises  After acknowledging the thought's presence, spend 5 minutes noticing things in the room. By exploring things around the room like you've never seen them before, describing their color, texture, shadows exc. you are keeping your mind in the present moment and making it more difficult to get carried away by the intrusive thought. Anytime you notice the thought has taken you away, simply return to noticing the room. sight sound taste touch the more senses the better.Be kind to yourself - It does take time  forgive yourself for having intrusive thoughts and for not being able to get rid of them. If anything, that fuels fear and anxiety, and makes everything worse. The sooner we can accept that that's how your brain is wired for now, the faster you can work on building more grounded wisdom.7cups discussion on Reframing negative thoughts  https://bit.ly/2OnBaxv                                       30 grounding techniques to quiet the mind  https://www.healthline.com/health/grounding-techniques7cups discussion on managing negative internal dialogue  https://bit.ly/2HOwCLl                          PTSD nightmares why they exist and the best treatments https://www.verywellhealth.com/prazosin-treats-nightmares-in-ptsd-3015222https://youtu.be/ySL3NllIhfAalways on 24/7 youtube livestreams of relaxing sounds   https://youtu.be/63GF7qbr34U * https://youtu.be/4qtD8RmvWn0There has always been a war between “true” and “false” speech, with each side favoring its own flavor and screaming that the other side is lying. Maybe they are. Maybe they’re not. Maybe what appeared to be false once is now true, or the other way around. Do we know, today, the “truth”? Some believe they do with such absolute certainty that they’re prepared to destroy anyone who disagrees, who questions them, who challenges their orthodoxy... But had we fixed a point in time a century ago, when we were so enlightened, so certain that what we knew at that moment in time was so correct that we need never again argue or disagree, everything we’ve learned in the past hundred years might never have happened. The arrogance of believing that today, that at this moment in time, we're so perfectly correct in our beliefs that we can silence all disagreement, prevent any heretic from calling our gods false, is absurd. It's not that people haven't believed they were finally so enlightened that there couldn't possibly be any errors in their judgments, anything new to learn, any mistakes to correct. People have always believed that. And they've always been wrong. Thats why we still need heretics, not because they're necessarily right but because they aren't necessarily wrong.   - Scott Greenfield  When Ira Glasser Ran The ACLU   After being hurt, we often search for answers and try to rationalise what happened, because we're trying to protect ourselves by making sure it doesn't happen again. The truth is: we might never be able to understand what makes a person hurt others remorselessly. It doesn't seem fair or right. It certainly doesn't make us feel safe about the other people we meet and interact with.  Still, your ability to heal and move on doesn't depend on someone else's behaviour or excuses. They do not have that much power, to permanently hold you back from learning to love and respect yourself. We cannot control the actions of other people, but we can learn to heal without needing the person who hurt us to be a part of the process. We don't need someone else's validation to move on and make everything okay. It might seem unfair to allow ourselves to carry on with life when the person who hurt us has not expressed any remorse about it or tried to make it up to you. It can be difficult to let go of these experiences, after all the pain they have caused. But you deserve to live a life of dignity and joy. You deserve to decide for yourself what your next step is going to be. You deserve to live free from the things other people have done.  We may never get answers or closure. For a long time, that might really ache, and that's okay. But we do what we can with what we have ❤️ The steps we take don't have to be big, as long as they take us in the right direction ❤️   - hopebeyondpain  https://bit.ly/3qFpPpv    
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Starmedia

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Note: Sorry, currently I am on a Self-Care Break from Listening or Peer Support sessions for an Indefinite period of time. You can check out other wonderful listeners Here- Updated on 20th March 2021----------------------------------------------------------------Hello, Everyone! You can call me Star. Welcome to my profile. If you are interested in a community that aims to Spread positive vibes & Inspire everyone to grow: Click Here----------------------------------------------------------------  IMPORTANT REMINDER FOR EVERYONE  People/Situations may have different kinds of influence on you, Some experiences may knock you down while others may uplift youBUTYou Have The Power To Choose How You Want Your Life To GoNobody Else has the Power to Heal/Break You Because OnlyYou have the Power to Choose to be a Victim or a SurvivorYou have the Power to Choose to Grow and Heal Yourself.We all are powerful enough to create our own stories,It's totally okay to take some time and to grow at our own pace.❤  Please Remember: We Are Powerful Beings ❤----------------------------------------------------------------  NOTE FOR MEMBERS  1. I provide a safe space for the ones who need someone to listen to, by being non-judgemental, understanding, and compassionate.2. During our chat session, we will try to explore different options available for you so that you can choose what works best for you.I hope you remember that my insights/ suggestions are only an option for you to consider, and not an advice because I believe in your capabilities to take decisions and I know you will be able to figure out what works best for you. 3. I can chat for minimum of 30 minutes and maximum of 2 hours.4. Please note:I do not take chats on sexual issues, trauma, chronic pain, illegal involvement, and if any issue is too difficult for me to handle. ----------------------------------------------------------------  NOTE FOR LISTENERS  Feel Free To Reach Out To Me If You Need:1. General assistance with your role as a listener2. General assistance with platform navigation, sub-communities, forums and chatrooms.3. Support after a difficult experience on 7cups as a volunteer.Please remember that we need to switch to our member accountif we need support with our personal issues.4. To discuss/inform anything related to Positivity & Gratitude Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------  MY ROLES ON 7 CUPS  1. Community Mentor Leader 2. Support Team Leader3. Team Member of a Quality Initiative Project4. Doorkeeper5. Peer Supporter6. Safety Patrol7. Verified Listener----------------------------------------------------------------7 cups is an inclusive community, so let's support #ByeByeCliques Challenge and eliminate unhealthy cliques. To take part in the challenge Click Here Intrested in supporting new Members and Listeners joining us? Click Here to share our amazing Welcome Pack with them and make them feel supported! ----------------------------------------------------------------❤  My amazing, lovely and talented team who is dear to me ❤    >>> P&G Team <<<❤ More people who have been kind ❤    CommunityMod Anne, CommunityMod Robin, CommunityMod Charlie, Suryanshsingh, Tyedyedbutterfly65, Danslanuit, CheeryMango, SummerBreeze00, bluntandhonest, AlwaysForYou197, blissart, Saquib16, KindSoul10, ChasingShadows, Mishi105, iampapaya, CaptainRex, OnlyIntellectualListener, Karleea, ASilentObserver, JoeyTribbbiani, Hrsoni4, ClassicAnonymous17, Tazzie, Gracey, positivePumpkin22, ToniJane, ALovelyFriend, Aikyaa 11000, Exulansis00 & kdsyahirah 
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Asher

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I am a fifth-year college student studying Public Health and Psychology. I also volunteer with another Peer Support Company with 500 hours logged with them. I do take all issues and will support you on them to the best of my ability (except issues of suicide or active self-harm)Roles in 7 Cups Community Ambassador  Project Assistant for Group Support, Community Engagement Academy Mentor Leader of Group Development Leadership  Quality Mentor Global Community Mentor for Need Replies  Chatroom Support/ Teen Chatroom Support Peer Support / Teen Peer Support Safety Patrol Outreach Team "When the night is over out of all the places I could choose, I go to you, only you. "                         - Vance Joy, You
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amazingNutella24

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Hey hey, everyone! I won't be actively available from 13/6/2021 till 19/6/2021. Replies may take about 48 hours, my apologies  But I'll still be working on the projects I'm involved with. So, my lovely team, I'm here with you and thank you so much for everything! Good day  Sorry, I'm currently not able to take any chat requests from members. Please feel free to connect to the other amazing listeners on this platform, please find one here!    Hello there! I'll try my best to help you out.My roles on 7 Cups: 1. Verified Adult-Teen Listener  2. Safety Patrol Team   3. Safety Patrol Outreach Team 4. Peer Supporter  5. Chat Supporter  6. Chatroom Mentor Leader (LSC and LSR) 7. Listener Verifier Team  8. Listener Sharing Circle (Co) Host 9. Support Team Project Agent for Listener Sharing Circle  10. Quality Mentor  11. Doorkeeper    Always feel free to reach out ❤️
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