Aging parents( tw)
Struggling with my mum's situation. Dad died a few years ago he had dementia she cared for him. It was messy when he passed one of my sibs blamed the rest of us sibs for his death. Anyway now mum has dementia and that same sib ran out and got power over her medical care. This sibling has ppl he's friends with caring for her at her home which is pretty far away from the rest of us, these friends don't want to continue to care for her for as long as she needs which I understand completely. There was an opportunity to get mum into a full care facility when she was hospitalized last fall but this sibling intervened and blocked the Dr.s decision. Now this sibling is trying to get her into a facility that takes dementia patients, and it's not easy to do unless your a hospital or a Dr deciding. I am dealing with CPTSD trauma and have not been able to step up. I was very much involved when our Dad was sick. This sibling sends threats via text and I had to block him. My sister also blocked him, he sends her threats too. It's just another impossible situation on top of a whole bunch of other unpleasant experiences. Today's one of those days when I just cannot stop crying. Mum called me last night and she was confused about where she is, she thinks she is at a friend's home visiting. She asked me to call my Dad and let him know where she was. Of course I agreed with her I can see how confused and upset she is. I'm already suffering from trauma and her going down is just not something I can handle right now. I guess I just needed to write about this somewhere that others could read it....💜ABB
that sucks im sorry to hear that
Yes, you do have a lot on your plate, I have a similar thing going on, but not to your extreme. My bother and sisters seem to help as much as they can. I wish I had an easy answer. I work where lots of people have lots of money, and what I see happen the most is families break apart mostly over money. I hate seeing that happen. Your situation seems to be different. Trying to get with your siblings to agree upon where to send your mother would be the best idea, however it appears that may be difficult. Not sure who has power of attorney over your mother, but that’s who I would deal with, And get her into the Alzheimer’s facility.  My mom has macular degeneration and needs help getting around. We all try to help out, so far communication with my brothers and sister seems to be the best but even better than that there’s been a lot of prayer. They have a lot of resources out there, just finding him as a full-time job, I wish you luck
Same here but have faith in your self
Very sad, but take strength, in the fact yiu loved them, for who they were not for what you can make from them.
Hugs!!
Thank you all for such wonderful support. I am so grateful to you and 7 cups. This place is like a life preserver for me. My mum fell again and is placed in a facility now. Feeling better about her safety. I am currently dealing with an added painful medical issue and insurance is horrible when you need it it doesn't cover. Life's so ironic. Anyway love the support hugs to you all thank you so much!! 💜 ABB
