50's Plus Check-in - Help other people/Feelings - March 4-7 2019
Questions:
- How are you doing?
- What did you do to help other people and how did that make you feel?
- What can you do this week to help someone else?
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Yesterday I helped a msn on my bus ride that couldn
@Zengrl
That was so kind of you to help him find contacts on his new phone since new phones are such a maze for a lot of us. I agree opportunities often do just present themselves and we can choose to step forward and help others.
I am finally getting over this sickness. And I can actually talk again. Helping people? I talked a person thru their scan. They were very claustrophobic. But they made it. And got done what they were sent to us for. Answered some questions for them.
@Lauren63 Was it an MRI? That is what I would be scared of.
@Lauren63
Glad to hear you are getting over being sick and can talk again because that would be hard. I could just image writing down everything to folks when I want to talk to them in person. And all the phone calls would have to wait. That is so great that you talked someone through their scan since I agree MRI and CT Scan machines seem very small when someone is already scared on what might be going on with them and being claustrophobic is hard. Glad you could also answer the questions that they had since that is really important to have answers when we aren't getting them from others or think of them and just need to know like now and can't wait.
@DanaMH Im sorry. I dont do MRI or CT. I work in Nuclear Medicine. But I do like helping people and getting them the right care. Thanks.
@Lauren63
Nuclear Medicine is important also. I have seen some of those machines.
@DanaMH yup we are the stepchildren of radiology.
@Lauren63
However they do certain test then your group gets to see them for more detailed help to answer questions.
@DanaMH thanks for your support
@Lauren63
You are so welcome!
@laura@jill. You are the leadership. I tried and tried and tried I kept trying. No one here wanted me to be here. I only wanted help. No one wants anything to do with me. This is my life .
@Lauren63 - not sure what you mean by that since several of us care and want to encourage you and respond to you and help you. Several of us have said you can send us a 1;1 message anytime and we will respond. Some of us are always asking for ideas on how we can help the Sub-community's with forum postings and room discussions also which I personnel posted some of those forum post today for folks to respond to. Jill can tell you that we fill her inbox up with lots of new things for the 35+ room for discussions all the time and has several in her inbox right now when she comes from vacation tomorrow. Which I hope she had an awesome and relaxing vacation. You also recently requested to be removed from the tag list from 35+ and 50 plus however if you want us to readd you to those tag list we are more than willing to readd you since you are very important and we do care a lot.
@Laura @Jill7cups @soulsings
@DanaMH. Wrong. I never asked to be removed from the 35 + tag list only the 50+ tag list. You assumed that.
@Lauren63 and you can give Zengrl her wish to not be associated with me. Thanks.
@Lauren63 ok I readded you to the 35+ tag list just now.
@DanaMH my challenge is to not believe that I am not wanted. I am going to work on it. As I have also let my motivational partner know. Sorry. And thanks for not giving up on me.
@DanaMH I came here for acceptance, instead I got hate. Of me. So you dont have to worry, the only one who needs to deal with it is me.
i been doing ok today
@ANGLEBUDDYS
That is good to hear that you have been doing ok today.
I am struggling with my emotional pain due to my father slipping closer to the end of his life. I lost my mother to ALS back in 2002 and still feel emotionally broken from it. My father has been in care since October 2nd and went through intubation and remained on respitory support until February. He had finally done well enough to have his tracheotomy collar removed at the end of February. Well last week he pulled out his abdominal feeding tube and had to go back into the hospital to have them put it back in. I guess bacteria was introduced from the hole in his abdomen and feeding tubes often cause patients to aspirate. Well he now has pneumonia again in his right lung. It is so hard to not be able to have a conversation with him about what he wants us to do about his DNR. His wife has Parkinsons and just broke her hip in the last week so she is in care also and I cant get her to contribute to the decision. I am in my own spinal pain hell and must go in Tuesday for spinal steroid injections. My life is extremely difficult right now.
My father died Monday night and am trying to deal with my increased anxiety and depression. I was able to get one steroid injection however I must wait for authorization from my insurance company and for my pain management doctor to return from vacation towards the end of April. My life feels like it is falling apart.
@bgdave
Hi, sorry no one responded until now about either post since I have been away. Sorry for your loss. Not sure if you have looked into some grief groups that might help. Maybe going into the 35+ room today and talking to folks might help since some of them have gone through the same thing. There are also some great self-help guides that might be able to help. Talking to others during this difficult time will help a lot. Trying to do some pleasant activities with good coping skills.
@DanaMH thank you for your reply I looked into bereavement services at my hospital but was shocked they have none. I will look in the community. I had a wonderful listener here until last night when they apparently decided without even saying goodbye cancelled their account. I was already grieving my father and the wonderful support this listener had blessed me with was such a help. It is now like I have 2 losses. I need to find a doctor that has practice and isnt going to retire anytime soon. I have had that happen twice. I go and bare my soul and relive all my emotional trauma with them and then they after a year or less advise me they are retiring. Guess it is just my bad luck, bad timing.....just life.....it is my experience. Prior to the listener I just lost I have had terrible experiences with listeners here on 7 Cups. Perhaps because I am 56 and my lifes experiences they cant relate too being of a much younger age or perhaps the service of being a listener just becomes too real and overwhelming and they will just leave chat without a word and then never respond to my inquiries. Whatever it is it certainly feels as though there could be a better screening process for prospective listeners. I treat them with respect and maturity it should be a two way thing.
@bgdave
I agree there should be a better process on 7cups. And yes, good doctors are hard to find and therapist also. Maybe look at the listener profiles and see if there are and that look good and also search for a verified and long term listener in the search. The library might be able to help or your community center in your area for groups. The web might have some posted also.
@bgdave Hi just saw what you wrote. Also sorry to hear about your father. As for groups or services, not sure where you live but in US Meetup.com could be a place to find groups or even through Facebook (there is the occasional good aspect of social media). I
I panicked when I came online today not seeing any sign of my listener but it turns out it was just 7 Cups having a technical issue that made me over react and freak out. I need to take some deep breaths at this time while I am so emotional. Learning acceptance for things that happen and I can
@bgdave
Some things I do is take a breath and count to 5 and that 5 can be many times also. I also take a walk or read and step away.