Letting Go of Hurt
comfortableNight4463
August 17th, 2022
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Why We Can’t Let Go
- We took being hurt personally,
- Our emotional wounds have not healed yet,
- We are stuck in trauma mode, or
- We are having difficulty finding forgiveness for others or ourselves.
To let go of hurt, we need to take the first step toward healing by beginning to address these issues.
The Meaning of Forgiveness
Forgiveness is often a necessary step in the healing process or simply the process of finding greater freedom and peace within, although it should not be forced and is everyone’s individual choice.
The Inability to Forgive
It may be helpful to frame the process as releasing yourself from the hurt and negativity. You don’t have to say it was OK, just that you are moving on and it might not hurt you so badly anymore.
Benefits of Forgiveness
Letting go can allow you to enter and inhabit the present moment, relieve stress created by negative thoughts, access newly freed energy, and feel calmer, more peaceful, and grounded.
Steps to Forgiveness
Following are a few steps you can take to help reclaim your life and heal your unresolved feelings:
- Look at why you are holding on to the hurt and what is keeping you stuck in this place.
- Name and acknowledge your feelings.
- Nurture and be compassionate with yourself.
- Be willing to let go of the past because without the willingness you can’t move forward.
- Imagine an apology, remorse, and restitution
- Imagine what life would be like if you were not holding on to those feelings, now and in the future.
- Reframe the story and possibly see the offender in a different light without avoiding the truth
- Be patient with yourself.
- Know that you deserve to be happy and be loved.
- Find support in form of a therapist, counselor, self-help books, attending workshops, or whatever works for you if this is difficult to do by yourself.
Forgiveness Used the Incorrect Way
There is a fine line to forgiveness. It can be part of our healing process to let go of hurt, but when forgiveness is used to avoid conflict or repress one’s anger and other feelings, or forgiveness is feigned out of obligation or conformity, we often can’t harvest the potential mental health benefits from it and might even suffer more."
Read the complete article available at Psychology Today!
Reflection:
Have you forgiven someone after having a grudge? How did it feel after forgiving them?
*I had a fall out with one of my friends after they broke my trust and I chose to forgive them straightaway so that the anger won't get the best of me. I cut off all contact with them and I harbor no resentment to them. This works for me because if I didn't forgive them, I would be miserable so in a way, forgiving them was quite freeing for me.*
#Hurt #Forgiveness #EmotionalRegulation
Happy900
August 17th, 2022
@comfortableNight4463 Nice job,my friend.
Well written and really kept my interests.
Your an amazing writer.
calmDew1576
August 17th, 2022
@comfortableNight4463 Forgiving someone can be more challenging than it sounds. This is though what makes it so valuable. Forgiveness is true strength for me as I don't forgive people easily. I'm taking baby steps and hope to make it. ❤️