ADHD and alcohol
Anyone wants to share their relationship with alcohol B4 u knew u had ADHD, during and after(?) If is it good or bad or nonexistent?
I always thought why can't I stop when I'm feeling tipsy like a lot of my friends they notice when they are crossing the line between feeling funny and having a great time into black out abyss of horrible choices. I used to think I needed to be more present and remind me not to drink and count my drink or time for each drink but none of those things really worked... Then after finally being diagnosed at 33 it all made sense... What a combo! Like fire to TNT :s since I started medication I haven't been drinking mainly bcs my doctor said you. Can generate addiction plus having a psychotic attack or something.. and I've felt great... But off meds 2 months ago happened again and I'm just lost at this, any recommendations??
@distractedhedgehog, for me I had a really bad problem with focusing on things. Once I stopped drinking it got better. Not perfect but better. I tried medications but that made my ADHD worse.
@distractedhedgehog
Hello there, It must be very hard to deal with a relation like that. I dont have ADHD and almost no much experience with alcohol either (never wanted to lose control). So take this with a grain of salt.
Negative goals are more difficult to get done than possitive goals. For example if I tell you: "Please dont even think about eating a hot, tasty pizza with your friends" you will probably start wanting to do that. The same happens with: "Stay away of chocolate, dont drink alcohol, stop arriving late". All those are negative goals where we try "Not to do something".
Possitive goals are easier: "I want to be healthy to be able to play with my grandchildren" is a easier goal to actually stop eating pizza and chocolate and probably even doing some sports.
On your case, I would ask you:
"What do you want to get from staying away from alcohol?"
"Why is that important and how would be your life with that change?"
"Is it really worth to do such a change?"
"If you really wanted to do this change in your life, what other things would you need to change to make it work in the long term?" (Maybe some of your hobbies, friends or routines lead you to drink and make the change non-viable)
"How would you know that you are advancing towards that possitive goal that you want to get?"
Hope that this will help you somehow. I wish you the best luck to get your goals and dont lose your way in life.
Hugs 😊