ADHD hyperfixations and friends
whenever i hyperfixate on something, its all i can talk about. i cannot go 5 sentences in any conversation without mentioning it and i always seem to find a way to relate everything back to it. i think this is starting to affect my friendships now though.
my current hyperfixation is on a band. their lyrics often become verbal stims because of the hyperfixation. this bothers my friends a bit.
i am always telling my friends little facts and jokes about the band members and even though they are trying not to show it, i can tell they are annoyed every time i bring up this “stupid band”.
ive tried finding other people who are actually interested in the band to talk with, but almost no ones even heard of them and im not really allowed on social media so i cant join any online communities.
its so hard to express my interest when i know no one around me cares about the topic as much as i do.
i guess im not really looking for a solution just needed to vent my feelings on this
oh the band is the front bottoms btw.
@cadenssocks If your friends aren't in a band, they might not be very empathetic to your point. I think you can try to be a listener for a few minutes more than usual, and you can discuss with your friends about the band every few days. They'll want to understand what you're saying.
@cadenssocks I can relate. I get really excited when I talk about something I love, but sometimes my friends don't like that subject as much as I do and that is totally ok too! You just need to find the group that you fit in too! By the way band is awesome! So don't feel bad talking about it.
@cadenssocks
It sounds like you are really searching for meaning in the midst of something difficult. I wish I had answers. I hear grief, anguish, regret, and sadness in that post. I also hear you trying to make sense of an event or life in general. I can't offer much solace, but your words spoke to me because I feel those feelings as well but with more grief and depression.