Just some thoughts
Sometimes I feel myself losing focus i know i should do more but i am doing it and it's making me feel frustrated but most of the times i am just procrastinating and i don't know why and sometimes i feel like nothing works out i couldn't get out of this cycle
@jeri970212
I think if I were losing focus, I would be very tempted to procrastinate. I also have ADHD, and overcoming procrastination has been a lifelong challenge. I have managed to overcome it when it comes to the really important things, like paying bills, cleaning house, washing dishes and cutting the grass.
My primary approach is to do what needs to be done immediately, rather than put it off, because when I put things off, those things seem to steadily increase in size until they really seem overwhelming. It also seems to me that the hardest part of any project is to take the first step. In fact, often the first step feels like 80% of the effort to get the thing accomplished.
In short, procrastination may happen due to wishing to avoid an ADHD experience.
The thing is, if the ADHD experience is inevitable, procrastination only compounds the problem.
You mentioned, "I know I should do more..." If you are repeating a pattern, doesn't telling yourself that you should do more, become part of that pattern? What if, in order to break the pattern, you decide to do something different? For example, instead of leaving the bills piled up on the table, you start paying them as soon as they show up. If it’s schoolwork, rather than wait until the deadline is looming, get the work out of the way as soon as possible.
In my experience, procrastination usually leads to feeling tired and overwhelmed. With that said, I am amazed at how much procrastinating I've done in my life!
I was in my third year of college before receiving my ADHD diagnosis. It explained a lot, and helped me feel better about myself. I also looked up strategies for coping with it. It was helpful, but by the time I was that age, I had already developed some decent coping methods. One of the most important things I did was to divide up my tasks into manageable segments of time, so I wouldn't still be struggling to do something when my focus was fading. I know that's not always possible, but I do it when I can.
I hope some of this helps.
