Social cues
As someone who was diagnosed rather late with ADHD, it was brought to my attention that I kind of suck at reading social cues. It takes a lot of reminding to myself to rein it in when people tell me verbally a few times in subtle ways to watch myself. Is there anything out there that I can use to help me learn social cues that are quick and efficient? I get it takes practice but what tools can I use to practice? Any help or advice is welcomed.
@eunoia96
What do they mean by watch yourself? And who tells you this?
they tell me to be nice. Multiple times. And my coworkers who are more forthcoming with their words. They don’t out right say watch yourself but it’s implied (I think at least)
@eunoia96
Hm do you have any example? Sorry, just want to make sure I'm giving the right advice. 😂
I was frustrated that my coworker wasn’t doing her job that she should know, I pointed out that it’s common sense and not that difficult. My other coworker told me to be nice. I think I missed the social cue that I should let it go? Like I’m missing it in the moment and not getting it until after I’m being reminded to be nice several times.
@eunoia96
How's your relationship with the other co-worker? I would say think about what you say before you say it. For example, if you think it is something that you wouldn't like to hear yourself then don't say it. Or ...if you say something, remember that it is how you say it. If you say it and realize that it probably sounded mean , then you could easily take it back. In this case, I don't think you were entirely wrong. We are all like that in different ways. If thinking about it doesn't work for you, then try to pay attention to people's faces after you say certain things. Check for visible sadness, frustration, or happiness. DON'T OVERTHINK PEOPLE REACTIONS AND MAKE YOURSELF A PEOPLE PLEASER. That's what I do sometimes and people walk over me 🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️. An example would be sharing an idea and taking it back because I can visibly tell someone doesn't like it. Sorry if it doesn't make sense. But I'm working on social cues still also. If that doesn't make sense, let me know.
@communicativeCar962
Just wondering, because it is important on who it comes from.