Terrible memory
Hello! I want to know if anyone has any advice or if they also experience having a bad memory. I tend to mainly forget when im having conversations with a friend and they mention something that has happened in the past. Another issue i have is when i think a little to hard about something my mind completely goes blank and it frustrates me. If anyone has any advice or if they have any similar experiences feel free to share!
Good afternoon, and thank you for reaching out. I am sure this topic is very interesting to many readers! What you’re describing can indeed be frustrating and can lead to uncomfortable situations.
Before trying to change anything — which is absolutely possible — it may help to remember that you are already whole and complete as a person, with all your unique traits. This is not a flaw; it’s simply a feature of how your mind works. The brain naturally filters out what it considers unnecessary or not important enough to retain. That isn’t a failure — it’s efficiency.
Practice gratitude for what you already have, and allow yourself — and others — to accept and appreciate you as you are. Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up on growth; it simply removes unnecessary pressure and self-criticism, which often makes improvement easier.
As for advice: the best guidance often comes from within, when you pause and truly listen.
You might gently ask yourself:
“How can I improve my memory? Perhaps by focusing more deeply on events as they happen? By engaging more of my senses — especially smell — to create stronger neural connections and retain memories more clearly?”*
“How can I avoid going blank? Maybe I need to loosen my grip and stop forcing the answer. Perhaps if I relax, it will come naturally in its own time.”*
Sometimes clarity arrives not through pressure, but through patience.
I hope my thoughts help 🙏🏽
Thank you so much for taking the time to explain everything! I really appreciate the insights on adhd and how to work with my memory. What you said about self-acceptance and focusing on the moment really resonated with me. I'm going to try being more patient and engage more. I'm grateful for your help and im blessed to be able to receive such knowledge from someone. You’re awesome 🧡
Very glad to hear that it resonates with you. And thank you for your nice words. I guess you read today’s ADHD article. Yes - staying in presence is our lost and forgotten natural state. If you have more interest in it - feel free to write me a 1-on-1 message. Always ready to talk !
@AnticipationNation
Seconded, I'm trying to be more mindful, it is a challenge 😉
@pieceWarrior
I have always had issues sleeping continuously, 3 -4 hrs at a stint and wake with mind buzzing, just wondering how much that would affect the creation of long term memories as my understanding is it is process that occurs in the latter REM stages of sleep ?
@AnticipationNation
Sorry i can't offer mush in the way of suggestions but following post as i cam certainly empathise. i even struggle with names of colleagues I've worked with for years, only to recall them moments later once the moments past, frustrating....