Depression
me my wife trying to work it out after my infidelity i am having depression over cheating and trying to move past it. We hurt each other before. She even physically hit me. How do we work through this. Been to marriage counseling. Now telling she doesn’t want spend her birthday with me.
That sounds like a lot of turbulence in your relationship. It sounds like you severely regret cheating and want to keep the relationship together. It also sounds like your partner may not want to spend time together right now and may not be ready to continue. I don’t know what the answer to this issue is, but I hope you keep trying to communicate and continue to goto counseling, letting whatever happens happen. If the relationship breaks apart, then perhaps it is worth grieving the relationship and learning from it. Doing better in the future can be a form of redemption in that way even if the relationship is broken. Wishing you the best.