Don't even know what to do
It's just like I can't function anymore. Nothing brings me joy. I don't even have anything I could occupy my mind with as it's summer vacation right now. School drains life out of me, but now I'm "free" and I haven't felt this miserable in a long time.
I'm always mad at everyone, I barely have friends and I find them extremaly annoying.
I don't have any hobbies or talents. I always loved travelling, but I'm abroad right now and still, I feel like there is nothing in this world that would make me feel okay.
What can I do when it all feels so empty?
@floorm
It’s summer vacation. Are you alone, abroad, travelling by yourself and visiting destinations, or visiting family?
@floorm
I ask, because if you are traveling with family, then they might be helpful to you regarding your feelings. But if you are traveling alone, then maybe a place of worship or even a local therapist might help.
Even if you don’t seek out other people nearby … I am glad you stopped here at 7Cups. Isolation is the worst especially when we have these negative and empty feelings.
Please reach out anytime 🌳
I am travelling with family, but it looks like they feel awful themselves... It's like the world is losing all colours while I'm growing up :(
Summer used to be so fun and now it feels so forced
@floorm
I think you might be in a major “growth” process: your awarenesses and perceptions are probably expanding exponentially. I remember this part of my life, and it was *** … because I had no clue what was going on, and there wasn't a supportive community around me.
I can’t tell you how many days I wished I would not wake up in the morning. (There was trauma in my background.)
But you have 7Cups, so please keep connected … and you will make it through this.
Thank you, maybe it's not much, but I can finally feel heard atleast on here
@floorm
Yes, I am glad for that.
Anytime you want someone to listen, I will try … or if you would like to share some experiences, I am open for that too.
Kind of unrelated, but I wanted to ask why do you want to help people? I think it's great, but how do you find motivation?
I want to help someone too, but it never works out... I think I need some purpose in my life and maybe that would sort some of my mind out
@floorm
Wow. I never really took a good look at myself in this way.
Growing up, I was “trained” to think of others before myself. That made me very resentful and unhappy for all of my childhood. In my 20s and 30s I faced other troubles and challenges (that I’m happy to share about another time). The important thing to note is that I was not very helpful or generous in these periods of my life.
In my 40s, life was still not working. I was unhappy and I didn’t know what to do.
A friend recommended me to seek out mentors. At first, I only thought about mentors in the business community, but they weren’t that helpful, plus I wasn’t interested in business. What I looked for were people who seemed wise, humble, and who would share with me about what they learned from life.
Whatever questions I had, they would do their best to answer them. If they didn't know the answers, then they would ask their friends. And if no one knew the answer, they helped me to trust that the answer would be revealed as part of a process.
I was so inspired by these men and women who gave me their time and attention, I wanted to be like them and “give back” wherever I could—but I was also scared of giving myself away and scared of having people take advantage of me. (Do you remember how I was "trained" to always put myself second?)
My mentors, therefore, taught me a very important lesson: I am not meant to help everyone.
I asked my mentors, “Who am I supposed to help, then?”
They taught me how to recognize the people I am supposed to help … and I was taught how to let go of the people I am not supposed to help.
Does that make sense?
I will be happy to talk about this topic whenever you would like.
I really appreciate you asking me about this. It has given me a chance to do some solid meditation and reflection 🙂
Woah, that seems amazing honestly and exactly the type of advice I am looking for. Thank you.
Reading your message I feel hopeful, that there are good things (good people especially) out in the world and you can get through life somehow.
I wish life could just come with instructions, but I guess we have to figure out things ourselves
@floorm
Yes, life instructions would be nice 📓
I’m so happy you can find hope in my story!
Like I said, however I can support you on this journey … I will try!
@floorm
Hi!
Is your vacation over? How are you doing?
Hello
Yeah, I'm back at home and I'm glad. Still not feeling my best, but atleast I have some space to relax. I'm worried that I am going to get bored soon tho. I need something to do, but nothing seems fun, like the world is too empty... I go outside, watch movies, play games, but it all seems bland.
And this applies to people as well. I can't really make any connections with anyone. I feel like everyone is the same and I'm some different species. Maybe some aliens dropped me off on earth and flew somewhere far away 😵💫
I think I need to find some purpose, but it's like I just don't belong anywhere and I'm just "observing" while everyone else is living their fullest
Also, thank you, I was just thinking about posting about this, so you've got great timing hahah
@floorm
Great timing?
That is funny! Do you know the belief that says, “There are no coincidences.”
What do you think about it? Do you believe in destiny? And divine order, and God?
Are you in university? What is your area of study?
Hmm it's a difficult topic I think. I'm more of a 'logical' type of person.
I tried to be more spiritual- to give life some meaning, but I just can't. This world feels like a huge mystery. Nature aligns so well and yet at the same time we are unsure of our existance.
Life feels very random to me, so I don't think I believe in destiny. After all, I can always change something and boom- the outcome is totally different.
Also I always had been an atheist. I wanted to be relligious, just to have some being to look up to, but I can't. Everyone always wants me to find God, but no one is telling me where to look hahah...
Regarding studies, I am still in high school and have 0 plans for the future. I want to go to university, but no idea what could I even study. It's like I'm some empty shell of a human, waiting for an identity
@floorm
Hi …
Thanks for answering my questions, I really appreciate it.
Would it be okay if we continued our conversation in a Pen Pal thread?
Sure. You can start it, I'm still pretty new to 7 cups so I'm unsure of all the functions.